Upbringing of children...into Islam

[Ferrari1981]

Wow! I love that poem.. Can I just ask...regarding the way WE are bought up, would that affaect the way we bring our children up? I mean, say our parents have no patients with us, would that in turn make us less patient?
Or if we want to be able to be patient..but unintentionally be impatient, how could we sort ourselves out? :heated: ..i probably make no sense..

I think people change...

I mean it depends not just on how you were raised but who your role models were like who inspired you.

Some people were raised in cultural environments but changed their way of life to suit them and their future. People like Yusuf Islam and other converts (reverts) like Yusuf Estes...

I think you may end up raising your child slightly from the upbringing you had, but also using your own philosophy via your role models and inspiration to be a better person.

So yea you can change your childs upbrining by:

- role model
- inspiration
- your ways of a better life
- cultural or religiously
- moving to another country

Theres many ways but most importantly if your good parents your children should be bought up well Inshallah, but then again children have a mind of their own...

 

[limitless]

My husband and I send our children to public schools. We made this decision because we decided that we wanted them exposed to people of various backgrounds and we wanted the children to face the reality of the sociey in which we live.

I teach my children that there are bad people in this world and this world is not fair. I do not try to shelter them from all ills of society. I think that it is important for them to develop the skills necessary to cope with the negatives within our world. It is not the society we live in that is a problem, it's how we deal with what we perceive to be negatives within society.

We try our best to be good examples for our children. Parenting is not easy but is very rewarding.

I like that idea, expect the public school part. Never hide true identity of society, media, and culture from the children. Let them know of the consequences of bad deeds and of good deeds.

Personally, no matter how good of a parent you are; in the end children will have their own choice, just like we did. Some of us choose to be good and others bad. You attempt your best to show them good paths, but if its the child's nature to become bad, theres nothing (physically) we can do to prevent it; instead ask Allah to guide them.

 

[Umar001]

Man am so scared to have kids,
I hate hearing about a Muslim leaving Islaam, imagine that muslim is my kid.

OMG.

If it wasnt for the fact that I had to have kids I dont think I would just for tht reason, well that and the fact that it would mean i'd have to work more and so on, while i could be studying