wana be muslim but parents standing my way wat do i do plzz help

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Assalaamu Alaykum sister Ashley,

Look don’t worry, at least you realise now you have made a mistake and want to change, i had another 10 years of mistakes on my conscience before i finally realised the truth!

But even so i know Allah is most merciful, he forgives all, there is nothing you could have done that he will not forgive when you accept Islam, even associating a partner with God, the worse of all sins is forgiven on becoming Muslim.

The new Muslim project is probably a good place for you to turn to for help,

Here is my own local branches web address,

http://www.nmponline.org.uk/

it even has my reversion story on there! But not much else, it is still being developed but the brother doing it has been given 101 other tasks by his local mosque.

Here also is the one for Leeds, as you can see it is quite well developed.

http://www.leedsnewmuslims.org.uk/new_muslims/web_links.asp

Southampton, Blackburn, East London and Manchester all also have branches of the New Muslim Project.

For yourself you need to realise that it is easy for you to repent, turn to Allah and be forgiven when you become Muslim.

Even people who are already Muslims who then sin can still turn to Allah and be forgiven if they are sincere.

Also you don’t need to tell anyone your sin’s, that is between you and God, some people have this terrible habit of asking what new Muslims used to do before Islam so don’t be afraid to tell them it is none of their business!

With your parents it can be surprising, sometimes those who are harshest towards Islam are easiest towards reverts in the family and those you think will be fine are the harshest towards reverts to Islam.

So take brother Fishman’s advice and once you start to make Muslim contacts then get a respectable elder like an imam of a Mosque or someone from the New Muslim Project to come and speak to your parents for you.

It is also bad to say but sometimes parents can be very harsh and cruel and I have known cases where the brother or sister found themselves homeless so make sure you have a back up plan in place.

I think you have said enough to make it quite clear your intention to become Muslim, you have our support sister and although not all Muslims are perfect it should be possible for you to find support near you also.

Take care sister, we are all here for you and if you need our help don’t hesitate to ask for it.

Assalaamu Alaykum,
Daw’ud

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Salaam,
Thts Great news! May Allah Guide you to the straight path and make you successful!
Ameen!
 
Sis ashley, It seems to me that u already are convinced that islam is the true religion so therefore u are a muslim. the only thing stopping u from admitting it is the fact that ur not sure what ur parents will think.

Every one here has given u brilliant advice n loads of links so inshallah thatll be enough for u for now.

Where abouts in the uk are u?

(dawud wen did u put ur story up, i didnt even know u had it up there)
 
Daffodil said:
Sis ashley, It seems to me that u already are convinced that islam is the true religion so therefore u are a muslim. the only thing stopping u from admitting it is the fact that ur not sure what ur parents will think.

Every one here has given u brilliant advice n loads of links so inshallah thatll be enough for u for now.

Where abouts in the uk are u?

(dawud wen did u put ur story up, i didnt even know u had it up there)
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yes sista ur right every one has given me a great advice and im thnkful to ya al :D :D
u r right, i do believ da islam is the true religion and i am convinced
but i only hav u guys who can help me of corse i do hav one muslim freind but she doesntpractice msuch ,she is like me u kno ,does wat i used to do so ,wel she doesnt kno much and
where i live sis its called Dudley, do u kno where dat is? . its not dudley road in Birmingham but Dudley da town, its a small town where theres lots of white non-muslims and they dont have mosques or any muslim places, there is only alot of churches. but it doesnt matter its up to me now to do whatever it is i hav to do 2 become a muslim
thnk you all ,u hav been great help al of you
i might not be here 4 a while but wen i do come back i wil be a muslim and a true one if god wills ( how do u say dat in arabic)
anywaz thnkz all

c ya soon

4ROM UR SOON TO BE SISTA
~~Ash~~
 
gr8 2 know u wanna bcome a muslim...i'm not good wid advice so i'll leave it to my ppl.
rani
 
Ashley said:
yes sista ur right every one has given me a great advice and im thnkful to ya al :D :D
u r right, i do believ da islam is the true religion and i am convinced
but i only hav u guys who can help me of corse i do hav one muslim freind but she doesntpractice msuch ,she is like me u kno ,does wat i used to do so ,wel she doesnt kno much and
where i live sis its called Dudley, do u kno where dat is? . its not dudley road in Birmingham but Dudley da town, its a small town where theres lots of white non-muslims and they dont have mosques or any muslim places, there is only alot of churches. but it doesnt matter its up to me now to do whatever it is i hav to do 2 become a muslim
thnk you all ,u hav been great help al of you
i might not be here 4 a while but wen i do come back i wil be a muslim and a true one if god wills ( how do u say dat in arabic)
anywaz thnkz all

c ya soon

4ROM UR SOON TO BE SISTA
~~Ash~~
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Assalaamu Alaykum sister Ashley, (peace be upon you Ashley)

Islam is as perfect a way of life as is possible to live on this earth, unfortunately not all Muslims are perfect and the fact you have a friend like this perhaps shows you this so you don’t have to learn this lesson the hard way which can often damage the faith of a new Muslim.

Some Muslims are good, some bad and some in-between so if you have learnt that lesson then it stops you getting hurt later on as some New Muslims can be a little silly when it comes to this and think because Islam is great then all Muslims must be the same which is of-course not true.

From looking at the UK map, Dudley is quite close to Birmingham, would assume there is a bus or local train service to Birmingham? Might be a good idea if you find your way to Coventry Road, in the small heath area of Birmingham, which is full of Mosques, Islamic bookshops and gift shops as well as Halal food places.

It also has one of my favourite Mosques there, which is Green Lane Mosque and I always try to find time to pray there when I am visiting Birmingham. It has large sisters and brothers sections and was very friendly and had a good mix of Pakistanis, Somalis, Arabs and lots of reverts as well when I last went.

Not all Mosques however have a sisters section (most don’t) and this one is particularly good so you might want to give it a try. If you get to Birmingham you need to then go to Coventry Road and at the end of the Road nearer town there is Road which goes off to one side called Green Lane, near the Morrison’s Super Market. It is an old Brick building, with a tower.

If you go there then they should be able to witness your Shahadah (testification of faith) if you feel you are ready for that or talk to you if not feeling ready yet. That part of Birmingham is also very pleasant and I have always found the Muslims there very friendly.

This is of-course a big step and people are gonna be trying to stop you and you will be nervous no doubt but just try to chill out, realise you are doing what God wants you to do and that after this day things are going to be much better for you though of-course everyone is tested in life still.

To answer your own question you put, God willing is Insha’Allah in Arabic, pronounced more In-sha-aL-Lah but don’t worry about these things yet, you need to learn the very basic beliefs of the Muslims first, become Muslim and then start learning to pray, picking up these basic terms will be come later so don’t sweat it now.

If you were in Sheffield it would be easier for myself and my wife to help you but as you are closer to Birmingham it might be a good idea if you get good contacts with the sisters there such as those at Green Lane Mosque.

Assalaamu Alaykum,
Daw’ud
 
i used to liv in dudly and its not dat much muslim populated so i can understand Ashley but then i moved to Birmingham which is full of muslims
so do as bro Dawud_uk said get a bus from Dudley to Birmingham i can even tel u which bus goes there its easy, first wat part of Dudley do u live?

I would do anything to help u, if u want i can even show u around
meet u wen u get to Birmingham i know alot of mosques and alot of muslim communities i can take u there:coolsis:

so sis Ashley if u need help getting to Birmingham tel me i wil be glad to help u
and like bro said Dudley isnt dat far from Birmingham only 1 or 2 hours i used to live dere,so i kno all da places.:D
 
Ashley said:
yes sista ur right every one has given me a great advice and im thnkful to ya al :D :D
u r right, i do believ da islam is the true religion and i am convinced
but i only hav u guys who can help me of corse i do hav one muslim freind but she doesntpractice msuch ,she is like me u kno ,does wat i used to do so ,wel she doesnt kno much and
where i live sis its called Dudley, do u kno where dat is? . its not dudley road in Birmingham but Dudley da town, its a small town where theres lots of white non-muslims and they dont have mosques or any muslim places, there is only alot of churches. but it doesnt matter its up to me now to do whatever it is i hav to do 2 become a muslim
thnk you all ,u hav been great help al of you
i might not be here 4 a while but wen i do come back i wil be a muslim and a true one if god wills ( how do u say dat in arabic)
anywaz thnkz all

c ya soon

4ROM UR SOON TO BE SISTA
~~Ash~~
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awww inshaAllah (God willing) sis. May Allah protect and strengthen your imaan (faith). Don't go away for too long, as we'll be wondering where you are. :?

There's a mosque I know of in Dudley. It's near Dudley Zoo. I know Birmingham is near ( that's where I live) but it may not be easy for u to come here often. I will find out the exact location of that mosque and let u know inshaAllah.

Take care sis. I will keep you in my prayers inshaAllah.

Oh and you can also tune into Dudley's Radio Ramadhan on 87.8 FM or visit their site for more information.
http://www.mcb.org.uk/features/features.php?ann_id=551

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Ashley said:
i ahve been thinking dats why i havent been on these days
and from observing how muslims behave and respect each other and always call bro n sis to each other ,how sweet muslims are wel i wanted to become a muslim but there is two reasons dat i cant one
where i live there is no mosque there are ful of churches and well non-muslims like me
second im only a kid ,im 14 i have parents family who would deffently not let be a muslim they dont like em seeing wat da news and tv says abot em
anywaz i seriesly need ur help i realy realy realy wana be a muslim, i love muslims and i lov the religion its realy fair and beautiful i would do anything for it even if i have to run away and leave my parents but if there is other solution i dont wana do dat i love my parents ,they brought me up al those years and given me love and shelter i dont wana run away and leave my parents or disappoint them
if there if anyway u can help me plzzz doo i realy realy need help
plzzz:cry:
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Hi Ashley

Welcome to this forum! :thankyou:

You've had much good advice, so I will keep my own post brief.

I'd be interested to hear where and how you have met Muslims? The fact that there are no mosques near you makes me think there are not many Muslims in your immediate neighbourhood.

Regardless ofhow and where you have met Muslims, it seems that they have been positive witnesses to you. That's great, because it is our behaviour and attitude which draws people to our faith!
I am not sure how much you know about Islam, though.
I am sure my Muslims friends will agree with me that there is more to Islam than 'calling each other bro and sis and being sweet'!
So use your time to study the religion and learn more about it.

That will deepen your own understanding and faith, and your parents will see that you are making an informed choice rather than having a teenage moment of resenting parental decisions!

I hope this makes sense and speaks to you.

Bless you, sis. :)
 
not alot muslims leave near my area actually very feww and i learned about islam on dis forum this great wonderfull forum introduced islam to me thank u alll

"she jumps up and down":statisfie :statisfie
IM A MUSLIM
A MUSLIM:) :)
 
Ashley said:
not alot muslims leave near my area actually very feww and i learned about islam on dis forum this great wonderfull forum introduced islam to me thank u alll

"she jumps up and down":statisfie :statisfie
IM A MUSLIM
A MUSLIM:) :)
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May you always walk with God, sister. :)

Peace.
 

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