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I don't think I can answer that. What do you mean by 'mentally mature'?
Maturity is a gradual process, which happens as we grow older and learn and have new life experiences.
Arguably we never finish maturing.
 
I think I understand what the OP means.

I'd say at 14/15. Thats when I started finding it much easier to hold conversations with all them aunties and uncles lol
 
How old are you now, IbnAbdulHakim, if you don't mind me asking?
 
16-20. Because it was then I started to question everything and completely dumped TV from my life and that was the turning point for me...
 
I guess I have always been mature for my age, even when I was younger. I still fit in socially, and developed emotionally and physically according to my age group. However, I do want to say that once I was around age 10, that is when my mentality began to be a few years older than other girls my age. Growing up and as a grown up I have always had many friends from different maturity levels. In college, I had a friend that was 20 but had the mentality of a 16 year old girl. When I was 16 I knew a girl who was 20 and had the mentality of a 12 year old, a friend that was 25 but acted as if she was 35. Most of my friends were women, I very seldom knew of men in high school that acted older than they were. Usually the boys in my high school acted as if they were in high school or even in middle school at times.

I guess that it is proven in statistics that women really do mature a lot faster then men... (in most cases). :nervous:
 
glo said:
I don't think I can answer that. What do you mean by 'mentally mature'?
Maturity is a gradual process, which happens as we grow older and learn and have new life experiences.
Arguably we never finish maturing.
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I agree maturity comes with gradual learning and experiencing. But what I meant, to put it in different words: when did you stop being and thinking like a kid?

For example, if you have a 21 year-old son and he wants to marry a 14 year-old girl. Would you think the girl is childish for him? (The question is meant to illustrate the different mentalities. I am aware a marriage at this age is prohibited by law)

At what age would you think a girl stops become childish for a 21 year-old man? Or the other way around. If a 25 year-old woman wants to marry a 21-year old guy, would you presume their mentality is different, they see the world differently, and for these reasons they'd have problems with communication?
 
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glo said:
I don't think I can answer that. What do you mean by 'mentally mature'?
Maturity is a gradual process, which happens as we grow older and learn and have new life experiences.
Arguably we never finish maturing.
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Exactly, Glo! I was so unsure how to even answer this question.. because all I could think of was "what defines maturity and at what age should one be considered mature"?
 
I consider myself mature between 18-20,But my mom don't think so.
She always consider me immature.She compared me with my siblings and always says You are eldest and most immature,dumb.
Sometimes it hurts me.
 
Asiyah3 said:
I agree maturity comes with gradual learning and experiencing. But what I meant, to put it in different words: when did you stop being and thinking like a kid?
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Thank you for the clarification, Asiyah.

On that basis I would say 16-20. Not until I left home and had to stand on my own feet, actually. When I suddenly had to manage in a foreign country, work, cook for a large household etc.
Gee, did I do some growing-up in that one year! :happy:
 
How does Islam define mentally mature ? Is mentally mature an individual case ? Can you always define being mentally mature by a person having body hair ?

 
truthseeker63 said:
How does Islam define mentally mature ? Is mentally mature an individual case ? Can you always define being mentally mature by a person having body hair ?
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Physical maturity and mental maturity do not necessarily happen at the same time.
 
I still haven't at 26

Well, somehow I think that if I look back at my life at 52, I won't consider myself to be mature at 26, regardless of what I feel now.
 
Maturity (psychological)

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Maturity is a psychological term used to indicate how a person responds to the circumstances or environment in an appropriate manner. This response is generally learned rather than instinctive, and is not determined by one's age. Maturity also encompasses being aware of the correct time and place to behave and knowing when to act appropriately, according to the situation and the culture of the society one lives in.[SUP][citation needed]
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Adult development and maturity theories include the purpose in life concept, in which maturity emphasizes a clear comprehension of life's purpose, directedness, and intentionality which, contributes to the feeling that life is meaningful.[SUP][1]

Age


See also: Age of majority

While older persons are generally perceived as more mature, psychological maturity is not determined by one's age.[SUP][2][/SUP] However, for legal purposes, people are not considered psychologically mature enough to perform certain tasks (such as driving, consenting to sex, signing a binding contract or making medical decisions) until they have reached a certain age. In fact, judge Julian Mack, who helped create the juvenile court system in the United States, said that juvenile justice was based on the belief that young people do not always make good decisions because they are not mature, but this means that they can be reformed more easily than adults.[SUP][3][/SUP] However, the relationship between psychological maturity and age is a difficult one, and there has been much debate over methods of determining maturity, considering its subjective nature, relativity to the current environment and/or other factors, and especially regarding social issues such as religion, politics, human stem-cell research, genetic engineering and abortion.[SUP][4]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maturity_(psychological)
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Chapter Three

The Islamic Sexual Morality (2)
Its Structure

A. THE BEGINNING OF SEXUAL LIFE

1 . BULUGH & RUSHD

Sexual desire is aroused in human beings at the age of puberty. In Islamic legal definition puberty (bulugh) is determined by one of the following:

1. age: fifteen lunar years for boys and nine lunar years for girls;
2. internal change (in boys only): The first nocturnal emission. Semen accumulates in the testicles from puberty onwards and more semen may be formed than the system can assimilate; when this happens, semen is expelled during the sleep. This is known as nocturnal emission wet dream or ihtlam in Arabic.
3. physical change: Growth of coarse hair on lower part of abdomen.

Since the sexual urge begins at puberty and as Islam says that sexual urge should be fulfilled only through marriage, it has allowed marriage as soon as the boy and the girl reach the age of puberty. In the case of girls, it not only allows them to be married as soon as they become mature, but also recommends such marriage. It is based on such teachings that Islam discourages girls from postponing their marriage because of education; instead, it says that girls should get married and then continue their education if they wish to do so.

Physical maturity by itself, however, is not enough for a person to handle the marriage responsibilities; rushd (maturity of mind) is equally important.

http://www.**************/m_morals/chap3.htm


Coming of age


From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

IslamChildren are not required to perform any obligatory acts of Islamic Teachings prior to reaching the age of puberty, although they should be koko encouraged to begin praying at the age of seven. Before reaching puberty it is recommended to pray in obeisance to Allah and to exemplify Islamic customs, but as soon as one exhibits any characteristic of puberty, that person is required to perform the prayers and other obligations of Islam.[SUP][14][/SUP] In Shia Islam there are two stages essentially to coming of age, firstly at the age of prayer a child undergoes a ceremony know as a Sehra, where the child wears a head dress similar to that of a groom in a Hindu wedding and is asked a series of question pertaining to Islam and the readiness of the child in which the child would reply "naam" (yes). At the age of 15-17 A similar ceremony is again held, again asking questions pertaining to the time since his/her Sehra as to whether he/she fully understands the expectation of Islam and Allah and is willing to stand as an adult, responsible for ones actions or words at which point he/she will reply "naam"
The Ceremony is usually held in a hall with all the family within the community and close friends as witnesses to journey into manhood or womanhood. After the ceremony is complete everyone will sit, talk, eat and laugh with each other and celebrate another success in the future of Islam.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coming_of_age
 
Chapter Three

The Islamic Sexual Morality (2)
Its Structure

A. THE BEGINNING OF SEXUAL LIFE

1 . BULUGH & RUSHD

Sexual desire is aroused in human beings at the age of puberty. In Islamic legal definition puberty (bulugh) is determined by one of the following:

1. age: fifteen lunar years for boys and nine lunar years for girls;

http://www.**************/m_morals/chap3.htm

1. age: fifteen lunar years for boys and nine lunar years for girls; ?