What did you just tell me?

[Snowflake]

Ameen... thats sad. may Allaah grant her sakeena.

i hope she can ask for ur advice in a more discreet way... i dunno sis im not the smartest at this typa advice (i thought you was) but i always feel better if i jus pray....
allahu a'lam
inshaAllaah things get better for her
Assalamu Alaikum

asalam alaikum wr wb,
lol *embarrassed laugh*
I can't advise myself, it's like when a doctor is ill he/she goes to another doctor for treatment lol. And really, I'm not saying this to be kind but you do give good advice. Sometimes, I spend ages writing up a long post, only to see you posting a few sentences after me that are far more effective! MashaAllah! And I'm like uh, why can't I make my point in a few sentences lol!

Anyway, ameen to ur duaa inshaAllah.

AssalamuAlaykum

Awww subhanAllah thats sad. But you know, as the saying goes... when you point one finger at another, three are pointing back at you. Maybe you should turn it around and ask WHY its like that, what has she done to get herself in that situation and how she can rectify her mistakes rather than talking about what or who caused them?

WassalamuAlaykum

Allah knows best what the real story is, but I have never had to ask as she's left no chance not to tell me her version. I stay neutral, even though her mother has at times cursed me and my mother for giving her the 'wrong' advice. One particular one being that her sisters call her names as she's darker than they are and my mom had said that we shouldn't make fun of a person's looks since Allah created them. That according to her mum was the wrong thing to say, as she took it as my mum defending the sister in question.

So, with that in mind it really is pointless asking what her faults are, since her mother is not in the right herself. It's difficult giving her any advice, as no matter how hard she tries her mother seems to want to torture her. She even came to my house and started telling me shameful stuff about her daughter. Then went back and told her daughter that she has 'slandered' her and now no one will like her. I appreciate that both women need to sort themselves out. So it isn't as simple as just advising the girl. And I'm not sure whether I should approach the mother as she is one irrational lady I've ever met.

Anyway, pointless discussing this. Better if I just keep praying for them inshaAllah. :hmm:

wa alaikum asalam wr wb.

 

[~ Sabr ~]

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