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If i was in your situation.... I'd want to talk to him first and find out the full story then take whatever steps necessary to stop him from doing whatever wrong he did. Should that not work and he continues to commit sin...Stand your ground, take a more hard-line approach and try your best to change him. Should you succeed...No need for anyone else to know but should he not listen...No option other then to inform your parents if you think they will stop him from commiting sin

Remember...We should conceal OUR own sins but to help someone else and try and save him or her is another matter. If that means we have to reveal their wrong doings to someone who can make them stop then so be it

All The Best
 
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Sister, It is not that he has a problem with people. The brother is distressed and worried. Please brothers and sisters, let us be tactful. Let us be a bit more gentler and understanding in our approach. may Allaah have mercy on us all.

JazakAllaahu Khayran,
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You have to be very careful. We are currently unaware what your brother as done, so we do not know how to exactly how to help you.

I would talk to your brother in private. Whatever he has done wrong, tell him to ask for forgiveness and make sure he does not do it again. Tell him not to tell anyone else and keep it to himself. Someone might fabricate the sin he has committed.

I personally wouldn't tell this to your mom. Just try to settle this matter without creating long-term problems.

Whatever decision you make, assess the consequences that might occur and make sure your following the correct Islamic principles to reach your decision. Try to make decision that will benefit your younger brother.

Hope this helps.
 
Umm ul-Shaheed said:
^omg what is your problem with people...

well go on then, have a go at me as well!
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was that just meant to provoke me? have you read the other comments? you know what, its a mistake to post on this forum i swear.. all you get is abuse/people criticsing you/patronizing you/not even trying to be understanding regardless of the situation and then comments trying to procoke you to start an argument. great support eh?
i am no saint nor did i try to accross as it, i tried to be honest to get genuine advise and all i get is abuse tryint to make me look pathetic. but to the people that just tried to put me down, would you ever want to be spoken like that when you wwant help? when your not even in the proper mental state? i know when someone is annoyed they say stuff which they dont mean (referring to my use of language) but never have i come accross some of this stuff, proper hurts me to see some comments on here. i am trying to improve myself and one of the ways i wana do that is not to make tha right decisions hnce i needed the help..
jazakallah for all tha comments for GENUINE aadvise, may Allah bless you all keep you on tha straight path..
mod please just close this.
salaam
 
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was that just meant to provoke me? have you read the other comments? you know what, its a mistake to post on this forum i swear.. all you get is abuse/people criticsing you/patronizing you/not even trying to be understanding regardless of the situation and then comments trying to procoke you to start an argument. great support eh?
i am no saint nor did i try to accross as it, i tried to be honest to get genuine advise and all i get is abuse tryint to make me look pathetic. but to the people that just tried to put me down, would you ever want to be spoken like that when you wwant help? when your not even in the proper mental state? i know when someone is annoyed they say stuff which they dont mean (referring to my use of language) but never have i come accross some of this stuff, proper hurts me to see some comments on here. i am trying to improve myself and one of the ways i wana do that is not to make tha right decisions hnce i needed the help..
jazakallah for all tha comments for GENUINE aadvise, may Allah bless you all keep you on tha straight path..
mod please just close this.
salaam
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Salaam.

We all can get a little annoyed at times and say things that we don't really mean. Don't worry; we all have been through that. Remember Islam teaches us self-control. I would put that first before your emotions; though expressing your emotions is fine as long as you’re cautious and careful not to other other people's feelings.

I am not specifically having a go at you. I am just making a general statement that is applicable to anyone.

Peace.
 
Speak to your brother about it and no one else, unless what your brother has done is harming other people (e.g. theft).
 
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You should clearly tell us what he did in order for us to give a good response to assist you in your dileema insha'Allah.

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