Where to start?

[AnonymousPoster]

I haven't put out much effort in memorizing stuff. I don't know the dua Qunut. I can't do Ichihara because I don't know the dua for it. What I find the easiest to memorize are the Suras. Where should I start, suras or the needed stuff? You can do istihara if something is troubling you, or if you need answers? It doesn't have to be that you can't choose between the two options?

I feel like a bad Muslim. There is so much to learn and I really don't know where to start.

I want to learn the rituals, how to obtain khushoo, how to perform salah in the best way possible..

The other thing is that you have the "external world" always in a way: D
May be I do spend too much time in my deen and forget about my family: omg: I do.

I sometimes think I'll burn in fire. I mean, all deeds I have is the Salat, fasting,.. the rest, well, I am not committing any sins except that I argue over the internet and with my mother Just a little bit.
I hate school because it makes me laugh. And I don't like to laugh and smile!! Please don't question me. I'm so tired of that: hew
I can't cook. My mother keeps complaining about me.

Any advice?

 

[Hamza Asadullah]

I haven't put out much effort in memorizing stuff. I don't know the dua Qunut. I can't do Ichihara because I don't know the dua for it. What I find the easiest to memorize are the Suras. Where should I start, suras or the needed stuff? You can do istihara if something is troubling you, or if you need answers? It doesn't have to be that you can't choose between the two options?

I feel like a bad Muslim. There is so much to learn and I really don't know where to start.

I want to learn the rituals, how to obtain khushoo, how to perform salah in the best way possible..

The other thing is that you have the "external world" always in a way: D
May be I do spend too much time in my deen and forget about my family: omg: I do.

I sometimes think I'll burn in fire. I mean, all deeds I have is the Salat, fasting,.. the rest, well, I am not committing any sins except that I argue over the internet and with my mother Just a little bit.
I hate school because it makes me laugh. And I don't like to laugh and smile!! Please don't question me. I'm so tired of that: hew
I can't cook. My mother keeps complaining about me.

Any advice?

Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, my sister don't despair for shaythan is wanting to confuse you and mess with your head which will delay your progress. You are feeling inclined to come more into islam because Allah is wanting you to be closer to him. Subhanallah not many have that privelage so all you have to do is make effort and have full hope, trust, faith and reliance in Allah and he will do whatever is best for you in life.

Firstly you you should learn dua Qunut which i have provided for you in the link below called "The Translation of Salaat".

Then from there you should learn from the basics and then build your knowledge and the E book that i have provided for you below called "Islam Beliefs and Teachings" is the perfect way to begin as it covers all the basic beliefs and teachings of Islam and more in a very easy way as the author is brilliant and this is a very popoular book available in the shops but it is free for you to download and print. It also shows you the correct way to pray Salah as well as dua Qunoot etc.

I have also included a brilliant article on how to gain Khushu but know that it is not an overnight process but will take time and the closer you go towards Allah and the less sin you indulge you then the more khushu you will have in prayer.

Another very benefical link i have pasted below is the "daily Ibadah check" which is a new approach to monitoring ones good deeds every single day and then at the end of the day you can write down what ibadah you did the whole day and what you need to improve on for the next day so this way one can continuously better themselves every single day.

I have also included many other beneficial links including the dua for Isthikhara in my thread: "VERY Rewarding Nafl Salaahs we can Pray Everyday!" where you can learn to pray many other nafils too aswell as other threads which show you how we can increase our imaan and which zikr and good deeds we can do everyday to please Allah and get the closest to him.

Also included are links about the hereafter and the life and story of the holy Prophet of Allah Muhammed (Pbuh).

Spend time with your family too as maintaining good relations with ones family is very important and also great reward with the right intention. Islam is about striking a good balance so spend time with your family as well as on your deen.

Let us yearn to get the closest to Allah by pleasing him as much as we can. Always repent as much as you can in every dua for Allah loves those who repent and thank him abundantly for Allah gives more to those who are appreciative and thankful.

I hope inshallah you find these links beneficial. If you need anything else then we are here for you so never hesitate to ask.


The translation of salat (namaz)- learn what your reading in namaz


http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=38303


Islam Beliefs and Teachings


http://www.islamicbulletin.org/services/details.aspx?id=267


How to gain Khushu in Salat

http://english.islamway.com/bindex.php?section=article&id=300



VERY Rewarding Nafl Salaahs we can Pray Everyday!


http://www.islamicboard.com/worship-...-everyday.html (VERY Rewarding Nafl Salaahs we can Pray Everyday!)



My Daily Ibadah(worship) check


http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-purification-soul/134289943-my-daily-ibadah-worship-check.html


10 Steps to Increasing our Iman(Faith)



http://www.islamicboard.com/manners...90404-10-steps-increasing-our-iman-faith.html



Signs of Weak Iman and How to Increase It



http://www.missionislam.com/knowledge/weakimanfix.htm


Forty Very Easy, Quick & Rewarding Good Deeds for all of us to do Everyday!

http://www.islamicboard.com/worship...-rewarding-good-deeds-all-us-do-everyday.html



Overcoming tests from Allah



http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=61961



25 Ways to Deal with Stress and Anxiety VERY GOOD THREAD



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=43179


Overcoming laziness and Procrastination


http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=52097



Advice from a sister on hijaab



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=39547



The Role of Women in Islamic Society-Very good article by revert sister



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=39901



Hijaab and the Freedom of Women



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=39857



Very Inspiring Experiences Of Recently Converted Woman



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=40169



WOMEN IN ISLAM



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=41377



The Best Role Models for All Muslim Women



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=41302



[ Every Thing ] About .. " Woman Rights in Islam " ..



http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=58707



A party in Paradise, A party in Hellfire



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=39698



The Ultimate Motivation for Muslims



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=49243



The State of the People of Paradise in this World



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=49125


Major Signs before the Day of Judgement


http://www.inter-islam.org/faith/Majorsigns.html


Signs before the Day of Judgement


http://etori.tripod.com/dajjalsystem/judgement.html



The Life of this World and the Hereafter


http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=51739


Beautiful Description of Paradise in Islam


http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=51707


Practising az-Zuhd in the Dunya


http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=51738



Everything about Prophet Muhammad (Pbuh)



http://www.mohammad-pbuh.com/

(THE SEALED NECTAR)
Memoirs of the Noble Prophet [pbuh]

http://www.witness-pioneer.org/vil/Books/SM_tsn/index.htm


For those wanting to look more into Islam



http://forum.mpacuk.org/showthread.php?t=44392



Please remember me in your dua's and ask me ANYTHING you want and i will try my best to always help you as your brother in Islam. Allah Hafiz

 

[Muslim Woman]

:wa:

. I don't know the dua Qunut.

I learnt it about 10 yrs back ...till that instead of it , I used to say the dua we say after salat ...Rabbana Ateena Fid duniya Hasanatao wa fil akerati hasanatao we kina azabannar. There are few more alternates....u may ask any Imam.

I can't do Ichihara because I don't know the dua for it.

after salat u have to utter the dua ...u can do it in ur own language . To my knowledge , u are also allowed to see the book if u can't memorise it .

I argue over the internet

InshaAllah it's not enough to qualify u to be burned in fire :statisfie

and with my mother Just a little bit.

U have to do more to go to fire I guess

 

[Sawdah]

I feel like a bad Muslim. There is so much to learn and I really don't know where to start.

Maybe you try to seek more knoweledge. Like maybe learn a new hadith everyday. Here's a website : http://myhadithoftheday.com/

I want to learn the rituals, how to obtain khushoo, how to perform salah in the best way possible..

I remember listening to a good lecture on khushoo, it'sHow to gain khushoo In Paryer. link:http://khutba.org/modules.php?name=Downloads&d_op=search&query=

The other thing is that you have the "external world" always in a way: D
May be I do spend too much time in my deen and forget about my family: omg: I do.

You shouldn't forget about your family. Try talking to your family more to get closer to them.

I sometimes think I'll burn in fire. I mean, all deeds I have is the Salat, fasting,.. the rest, well, I am not committing any sins except that I argue over the internet and with my mother Just a little bit.

We all make sins everyday. Try repenting to Allah and ask for forgiveness.

I hate school because it makes me laugh. And I don't like to laugh and smile!!

It's ok to smile! In fact it is sunnah to smile. Laughing once in a while is ok too, but laughing all the time deadens the heart. Quoted from IslamQA:
The Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) warned us against laughing too much, and told us of the danger it poses to the heart when he said: “Do not laugh too much, for laughing deadens the heart.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2305; Ibn Maajah, 4193.
http://islamqa.com/en/ref/20224/laughing

I can't cook. My mother keeps complaining about me.

Maybe you could ask your if she could teach you how to cook?

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

i wrote some long reply and it got deleted





so all im saying is we all suffer from a lack of motivation and only way to counter it is use your reasoning and FORCE yourself. overpower your laziness with intellect.

Also its good to smile and good on ya for wanting to fix up and inshAllah things get better





lastly i apologise if i sound rude at all, i wrote this fast because my other reply got deleted



Assalamu Alaikum

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Brother Ibn Abdul Hakim, you do not sound rude what so ever. I'm sorry your reply got deleted. I hate when that happens.

Akhi Hamza81, your responses are good as well, I have a lots of links... But I don't have all you have recomended.

Muslim woman made me laugh.

And seeker of jennah, your reply was really good.

May Allah, azzawajall, reward you all. And.. grant you jennah.......

 

[AnonymousPoster]

I need to start memorizing stuff, read the tafseer,llearn about khusoo`.. top priatoriititieees

 

[Hamza Asadullah]

I need to start memorizing stuff, read the tafseer,llearn about khusoo`.. top priatoriititieees

Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, make a timetable for that would be far better for you in order for you to manage your time and priorities.

Here is a link for you to help you memorise:

10 Steps to Memorizing the Quran

http://www.scribd.com/doc/19725001/10-Steps-to-Memorizing-the-Quran