why are women the majority in hell when we suffer so much here how is that fair?

[veryconfusedperson]

I know there is a Hadith that says:
"I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. "

Women already suffer so much in this life. We are the first a majority of victims of abuse, sexual assault, rape, exploitation, discrimination, and in many parts of the world, even the loss of basic rights. I’m not saying men don’t suffer because they absolutely do, but women and girls are often among the first and most vulnerable victims of certain forms of violence and oppression.

Because of this, you would think that after enduring so much suffering in this life, there would be some form of ultimate justice and compensation in the hereafter. What I struggle with is the hadith stating that women make up the majority of the inhabitants of Hell. So not only are we suffering in this life but in the next we are the majority of hell. How could a just and merciful God do that?
I mean no disrespect, this is something I really just need some clarification on sorry.

 

[Wood Pigeon]

I understand why this hadith is painful, especially when women already experience so much injustice and abuse. It should never be used to shame women, excuse abusive husbands, or suggest that women are spiritually inferior to men.

The Qur’an repeatedly makes clear that Allah judges people as individuals, not by gender: “Indeed, the Muslim men and Muslim women…” are all promised forgiveness and a great reward (Qur’an 33:35), and “whoever does righteousness, whether male or female, while being a believer—we will surely cause them to live a good life” (16:97). It also says that Allah does not wrong anyone even by the weight of an atom (4:40).

The hadith itself describes a specific form of ingratitude—denying or erasing a person’s kindness—not disbelief in Allah. It is a warning about a sinful attitude, not a declaration that women as a class are evil or that every woman is destined for Hell. The same criticism would apply to anyone, male or female, who denies another person’s rights and kindness.

It is also important to read this narration alongside the Qur’an’s teachings about justice, mercy, accountability, and the dignity of women. No one is punished for being female, for suffering abuse, or for being oppressed. In fact, the Qur’an condemns oppression and commands husbands to treat their wives with kindness (4:19).

So I would not dismiss the hadith without studying its authenticity and context, but neither should it be interpreted in a way that contradicts the Qur’an’s clear principles. The final judgment belongs to Allah, who knows every person’s circumstances and is perfectly just and merciful.

As-Salaamu Alaykum!
Wood Pigeon