Why Do My Dua Never Get Accepted?

[hisnameiszzz]

This a genuine question. Regardless of what ever prayers I make, they never ever seem to get accepted? Am I really that bad a person or am I just wasting my time asking for things? Ps. I am not asking for worldly things or things that are unlawful.

 

[AabiruSabeel]

It was narrated from Abu Sa'eed that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:

"There is no Muslim who does not offer any du'a in which there is no sin or severing of family ties but Allah will give him one of three things in return: either He will answer his du'a sooner, or he will store it up for him in the Hereafter, or He will divert an equivalent evil away from him because of it." They said: "We will say a lot of du'a." He said: "Allah is more generous."

Narrated by Ahmad (10749), classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb wal-Tarheeb (1633)


Please read this thread which had a similar discussion: un/answered dua??

 

[Muslim Woman]

bro , Allah knows what is best for u and when it's the right time to get it . So , have patience . Allah loves those who are patient.

 

[hisnameiszzz]

Jazakallah for the responses. I do appreciate them. I totally understand the concept of patience, but I am not a Prophet or a Sahaba and after a while, patience does wear thin which I am sure all of you will comprehend. Like I said, my dua's are not about wordly things, it's more peace of mind, Mom's health getting better, siblings getting on and supporting each other, getting married etc. I am fully aware I cannot simply make dua and expect things to just happen and I have to make an effort too, but nothing ever seems to add up for me. The main thing I am praying for at the moment is that he gives hidaayat to my neighbours (they are neighbours from hell, and I mean HELL! - I am going to do a thread on them in the near future) or something bad happens to them but it seems to be falling on deaf ears. I know that if I asked to win the lottery or get married to Mariah Carey or something stupid like that, then my duas would not get accepted as they are haraam. I'm not sure where I am going wrong. I do my best to pray my salat as many times as I can, and be a good Muslim. I pray the Qur'an daily and I have a whole collection of tasbeehs I pray daily too (subhanallah, alhamdolillah, allahuakbar, astigfirullah, jazallahu anna mohammedam ma howa ahlu, allahuma inna naooza beka minalfitane ma zahara minha wama batan, allahuma innaka afoowun tohibul afwa fahfo annee and loads more etc etc). I pay my Zakat, I give Lillah, I give Sadaka. I follow the principles of Islam and ahadeeth. Also bear in mind, I don't just go running to Allah when I want something. I thank him each time something goes right for me. So if a bus I am waiting for turns up, I thank Allah. If something sells on eBay, I thank Allah. I am not one of those Muslims that just goes running to Allah when I need something.

 

[ardianto]

The main thing I am praying for at the moment is that he gives hidaayat to my neighbours (they are neighbours from hell, and I mean HELL! - I am going to do a thread on them in the near future) or something bad happens to them but it seems to be falling on deaf ears.

Make dua wish Allah gives hidaayat to your neighbours? That's good.

Or something bad happen to them?. Oh, oh, bro, don't make dua wish Allah give something bad, even to someone you really hate.

 

[Hamza Asadullah]

Jazakallah for the responses. I do appreciate them. I totally understand the concept of patience, but I am not a Prophet or a Sahaba and after a while, patience does wear thin which I am sure all of you will comprehend. Like I said, my dua's are not about wordly things, it's more peace of mind, Mom's health getting better, siblings getting on and supporting each other, getting married etc. I am fully aware I cannot simply make dua and expect things to just happen and I have to make an effort too, but nothing ever seems to add up for me. The main thing I am praying for at the moment is that he gives hidaayat to my neighbours (they are neighbours from hell, and I mean HELL! - I am going to do a thread on them in the near future) or something bad happens to them but it seems to be falling on deaf ears. I know that if I asked to win the lottery or get married to Mariah Carey or something stupid like that, then my duas would not get accepted as they are haraam. I'm not sure where I am going wrong. I do my best to pray my salat as many times as I can, and be a good Muslim. I pray the Qur'an daily and I have a whole collection of tasbeehs I pray daily too (subhanallah, alhamdolillah, allahuakbar, astigfirullah, jazallahu anna mohammedam ma howa ahlu, allahuma inna naooza beka minalfitane ma zahara minha wama batan, allahuma innaka afoowun tohibul afwa fahfo annee and loads more etc etc). I pay my Zakat, I give Lillah, I give Sadaka. I follow the principles of Islam and ahadeeth. Also bear in mind, I don't just go running to Allah when I want something. I thank him each time something goes right for me. So if a bus I am waiting for turns up, I thank Allah. If something sells on eBay, I thank Allah. I am not one of those Muslims that just goes running to Allah when I need something.

Sufyan ibn 'Uyaynah said "Let none of you think that his Du'aa will go unanswered because of the sins that he knows of himself.

Indeed, Allah responded to the Du'aa of the worst amongst His creation; Iblees (Shaitan, the cursed one), when he said; 'O My Lord! Give me respite until the Day of Judgement!' He (Allah SWT) replied, 'Then you are of those who have been reprieved.' (Surah al-Hijr 36-37).

So if the Du'aa of Iblees' can be accepted, then surely the Du'aa of a sinner has more right than the devil himself!" And surely your Lord is never unjust...

Do not despair of the infinite mercy of Allah

Say: My servants who have acted extravagantly against themselves still do not despair of Allah's mercy. Allah forgives all offences; He is the Forgiving, the Merciful (Az-Zumar 39/53).

Ibrâhîm ibn Adham (d.160H) - rahimahullâh - said, when he was asked about the verse: "Call upon Me and I will respond to you." [Sûrah Ghâfir 40:60] They said: We call upon Allâh, but He does not respond to us. So he said:

"You know Allâh; yet you do not obey Him.
You recite the Qur'ân; yet you do not act according to it.
You know Shaytân; yet you continue agreeing with him.
You claim to love Allâh's Messenger 'alayhis-salâm; yet you abandon his Sunnah (guidance and way).
You claim to love Paradise, yet you do not work for it.
You claim to fear the Fire; yet you do not stop sinning.
You say, Indeed death is true; yet you have not prepared for it.
You busy yourselves with the faults of others; yet you do not look at your own faults.
You eat the sustenance that Allâh provides for you; yet you are not grateful to Him.
And you bury your dead; yet you have not heeded its lesson." [3]


[3] Al-Hâfidh Ibn Rajab related it in al-Khushû' fis-Salâh (p.62).

So my brother never lose hope in making Dua to Allah. We should always bare in mind that we do not know what is best for us and others. It may also be that Allah is keeping our rewards for making Dua to him so that on the day of Judgement when we see the rewards and we ask Allah what are these huge rewards and he tells us that these were the rewards of the many Dua's we did but we thought they were not answered but Allah kept the reward for us. Therefore we would wish that none of our Dua's were accepted so that we may get all the rewards on the day of Judgement.

Therefore never lose hope and keep making Dua and always bare in mind that Allah knows what is best for us and those we make Dua for and it maybe that he is accepting our Duas in other ways that we are not aware of that are even better than the Dua's we made.

So trust in Allah and know he will never turn us away empty handed because those who make much Dua can only be in a win win situation!

May Allah enable us never to lose hope in him. Ameen

 

[hisnameiszzz]

Can I just start off by apologising about my post. I am ashamed of myself for moaning about nasty neighbours and duas not being accepted especially when there are innocent children and people being slaughtered in Gaza/Syria/Iraq. However, I am coming so close to walking away from Islam, I just want to get this off my chest.

Make dua wish Allah gives hidaayat to your neighbours? That's good.

Or something bad happen to them?. Oh, oh, bro, don't make dua wish Allah give something bad, even to someone you really hate.

I do make loads of dua for their hidaayat and have done for months possibly even a year, but it's not happening. So I now pray that something bad happens to them. I am not fully sure if they are Muslims (shame on me for judging them I know!). They do not follow Huquqool Ibaad at all and I know that is quite important in Islam. Today the lovely ***** woke us all up at 9am when she decided to hoover the bedrooms. She clearly knew we were in bed and were fasting but that makes no difference to her. Then it was followed up by non stop door slams. How a Muslim could trouble a neighbour like that is beyond me. And it's not just the 30 year old daughter, the 66 year old mother, the 63 year old father and 26 year old son are all exactly the same. And this is not something new, this is something that happens on a daily/weekly basis and has done for years.

(We can't sell the house as we have to tell buyers about any disputes. Besides as soon as people find out which family lives next to us, they pull out straight away. We've tried talking to them, but they will just slam doors even harder or put dead rats on our car/throw all their rubbish in our yard. We can't go to the Police or the authority because they too know that family is beyond help - the son has been in and out of prison so many times you would lose count. Also the son has friends he made in prison who "sort" people out for him).

So my brother never lose hope in making Dua to Allah. We should always bare in mind that we do not know what is best for us and others. It may also be that Allah is keeping our rewards for making Dua to him so that on the day of Judgement when we see the rewards and we ask Allah what are these huge rewards and he tells us that these were the rewards of the many Dua's we did but we thought they were not answered but Allah kept the reward for us. Therefore we would wish that none of our Dua's were accepted so that we may get all the rewards on the day of Judgement.

Therefore never lose hope and keep making Dua and always bare in mind that Allah knows what is best for us and those we make Dua for and it maybe that he is accepting our Duas in other ways that we are not aware of that are even better than the Dua's we made.

So trust in Allah and know he will never turn us away empty handed because those who make much Dua can only be in a win win situation!

May Allah enable us never to lose hope in him. Ameen

Jazakallah for your response. You sound just like my Mom when she tells me to be patient and do Sabar. I get what you mean about my prayers not being answered because something better is lined up for me, but I am coming close to the point of walking away from Islam, so anything lined up in the hereafter would be no good for me. It might sound very dramatic but put yourself in my shoes. When I make dua, I am not asking for worldly things - no designer car, no posh job, no supermodel wife, no holidays around the world. All I am asking for is peace of mind and I can't even get this. I pray that the nasty neighbours stop causing us so much harm, but it just goes on and on. We can't buy somewhere else until this house sells, so it seems we are stuck in a rut. I turned to Allah because I am at my wits end. I've even contacted numerous Molvi/Mufti (I don't sit and feel sorry for myself, I have researched and contacted people) who have told me to pray certain surahs after each Fardh namaaz and then make dua, but again, no response.

The funniest thing is the mother from the family next door is always telling the whole world and his wife that all her prayers get answered (she is always having loud gossip with someone in the back street so you can't miss it). Everyone is in excellent health, her children are getting married blah blah blah.

Do you think me and my family are being punished by Allah via means of this nasty family for something we have done? Would we better off being like the neighbours? I am sure I could force my sister to dress like a tramp with her bits and pieces on show and her hair out, and get my Mother to go out and gossip and backbite all day everyday, and I am sure I could, if I really tried start doing drugs/alcohol/credit card fraud etc. We could also start hoovering when we know the neighbours are asleep and slam doors non stop too. Maybe our duas will get accepted then.

Any advice please? Please tell me one of you has a secret dua I can pray to sort this dilemma out. Please. Please. Please.........

PS. I love being a Muslim and I love following Islam, but I have just hit a brick wall with this. I can't make heads nor tails of this and I just don't know what to do. I pray namaz/Qur'aan (I pray Yaseen and Kahf and Mulk daily as I've memorised the whole Qur'aan)/tasbeehs, you name it, I do it. I give shed loads of money to poor people. I respect my family/community/even the nasty neighbours (I need help I know!). Don't get me wrong, I am not perfect and I am not floating my boat, but this continuous harassment is just too much.

 

[Hamza Asadullah]

Can I just start off by apologising about my post. I am ashamed of myself for moaning about nasty neighbours and duas not being accepted especially when there are innocent children and people being slaughtered in Gaza/Syria/Iraq. However, I am coming so close to walking away from Islam, I just want to get this off my chest.



I do make loads of dua for their hidaayat and have done for months possibly even a year, but it's not happening. So I now pray that something bad happens to them. I am not fully sure if they are Muslims (shame on me for judging them I know!). They do not follow Huquqool Ibaad at all and I know that is quite important in Islam. Today the lovely ***** woke us all up at 9am when she decided to hoover the bedrooms. She clearly knew we were in bed and were fasting but that makes no difference to her. Then it was followed up by non stop door slams. How a Muslim could trouble a neighbour like that is beyond me. And it's not just the 30 year old daughter, the 66 year old mother, the 63 year old father and 26 year old son are all exactly the same. And this is not something new, this is something that happens on a daily/weekly basis and has done for years.

(We can't sell the house as we have to tell buyers about any disputes. Besides as soon as people find out which family lives next to us, they pull out straight away. We've tried talking to them, but they will just slam doors even harder or put dead rats on our car/throw all their rubbish in our yard. We can't go to the Police or the authority because they too know that family is beyond help - the son has been in and out of prison so many times you would lose count. Also the son has friends he made in prison who "sort" people out for him).



Jazakallah for your response. You sound just like my Mom when she tells me to be patient and do Sabar. I get what you mean about my prayers not being answered because something better is lined up for me, but I am coming close to the point of walking away from Islam, so anything lined up in the hereafter would be no good for me. It might sound very dramatic but put yourself in my shoes. When I make dua, I am not asking for worldly things - no designer car, no posh job, no supermodel wife, no holidays around the world. All I am asking for is peace of mind and I can't even get this. I pray that the nasty neighbours stop causing us so much harm, but it just goes on and on. We can't buy somewhere else until this house sells, so it seems we are stuck in a rut. I turned to Allah because I am at my wits end. I've even contacted numerous Molvi/Mufti (I don't sit and feel sorry for myself, I have researched and contacted people) who have told me to pray certain surahs after each Fardh namaaz and then make dua, but again, no response.

The funniest thing is the mother from the family next door is always telling the whole world and his wife that all her prayers get answered (she is always having loud gossip with someone in the back street so you can't miss it). Everyone is in excellent health, her children are getting married blah blah blah.

Do you think me and my family are being punished by Allah via means of this nasty family for something we have done? Would we better off being like the neighbours? I am sure I could force my sister to dress like a tramp with her bits and pieces on show and her hair out, and get my Mother to go out and gossip and backbite all day everyday, and I am sure I could, if I really tried start doing drugs/alcohol/credit card fraud etc. We could also start hoovering when we know the neighbours are asleep and slam doors non stop too. Maybe our duas will get accepted then.

Any advice please? Please tell me one of you has a secret dua I can pray to sort this dilemma out. Please. Please. Please.........

PS. I love being a Muslim and I love following Islam, but I have just hit a brick wall with this. I can't make heads nor tails of this and I just don't know what to do. I pray namaz/Qur'aan (I pray Yaseen and Kahf and Mulk daily as I've memorised the whole Qur'aan)/tasbeehs, you name it, I do it. I give shed loads of money to poor people. I respect my family/community/even the nasty neighbours (I need help I know!). Don't get me wrong, I am not perfect and I am not floating my boat, but this continuous harassment is just too much.

Almighty Allah says in the Qur'an:

"And of the people are some who say, “We believe in Allah,” but when one [of them] is harmed for [the cause of] Allah, they consider the trial [i.e. harm] of the people as [if it were] the punishment of Allah. But if victory comes from your Lord, they say, “Indeed, We were with you.” Is not Allah most knowing of what is within the breasts of the worlds [i.e. all creatures]? And Allah will surely make evident those who believe, and He will surely make evident the hypocrites." [Quran 29:10-11]

Thus, every claim must have its proof, and faith is a claim which needs proof. Steadfastness in times of hardship is a manifestation of faith and it is also the proof of its existence and its firmness. Almighty Allah Says (what means): "Do the people think that they will be left to say, We believe and they will not be tried? But We have certainly tried those before them, and Allah will surely make evident those who are truthful, and He will surely make evident the liars.…." [Quran 29:2-3]

Trials will befall us in our lives. Some of us more than others. We only need to look at the situation with our Ummah around the world to realise that what we may be going through is nothing close to what our brothers, sisters and children are going through right now. Looking at those who are worst off than us actually helps us put our own trials into perspective and should make us thankful to Allah that we are not going through any where near as harsh a trial as others are going through right now.

Also we must never lose hope in Allah when making Dua.

Sufyan ibn 'Uyaynah said "Let none of you think that his Du'aa will go unanswered because of the sins that he knows of himself.

Indeed, Allah responded to the Du'aa of the worst amongst His creation; Iblees (Shaitan, the cursed one), when he said; 'O My Lord! Give me respite until the Day of Judgement!' He (Allah SWT) replied, 'Then you are of those who have been reprieved.' (Surah al-Hijr 36-37).

So if the Du'aa of Iblees' can be accepted, then surely the Du'aa of a sinner has more right than the devil himself!" And surely your Lord is never unjust...

Just because we may not see the immediate effects of our Dua's then it does not mean that we should get disheartened and lose hope in the effectiveness and powers of our Dua.

Ibn Al-Jawzi (Ra) commented in one of his books where he discusses this topic about the matter of Dua’s not being answered:

I think part of the test is when a believer supplicates and receives no response, and he repeats the dua for a long time and sees no sign of a response. He should realize that this is a test and needs patience.

What a person experiences of waswaas (whispers from shaytan) when the response is delayed is a sickness which needs medicine – I have experienced this myself. A calamity befell me and I supplicated and did not see any response, and Iblees started to lay his traps. Sometimes he said: The generosity (of Allah) is abundant and He is not miserly, so why is there a delay?

I said to him: Be gone, O cursed one, for I have no need of anyone to argue my case and I do not want you as a supporter!

Then I told myself: Beware of going along with his whispers, for if there was no other reason for the delay except that Allah is testing you to see whether you will fight the enemy, that is sufficient wisdom.

My soul (nafs) said: How could you explain the delay in the response of Allah to your prayers for relief from this calamity?

I said: It is proven with evidence that Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, is the Sovereign, and the Sovereign may withhold or give, so there is no point in objecting to Him.

The wisdom behind that is proven in definitive evidence. I may think that something is good, but wisdom does not dictate it, but the reason for that may be hidden, just as a doctor may do things that appear outwardly to be harmful, intending some good purpose thereby. Perhaps this is something of that nature.

There may be an interest to be served by delay, and haste may be harmful. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “A person will be fine so long as he does not become impatient and says, ‘I prayed but I did not receive any answer.’”

The response may be withheld because of some fault in you. Perhaps there was something dubious in what you ate or your heart was heedless at the time when you said the dua, or your punishment is being increased by means of your need being withheld, because of some sin from which you have not repented sincerely. So look for some of these reasons, so that you might achieve your aim.

You should examine the intention behind this request, because attaining it may lead to more sin, or prevent you from doing some good, so withholding it is better.

Perhaps losing what you have missed out on will cause you to turn to Allah and getting it will distract you from Him. This is obvious, based on the fact that were it not for this calamity you would not have turned to Him, because the real calamity is what distracts you from Him, but what makes you stand before Him is good for you and is in your best interests.

If you ponder these things you will focus on what is more beneficial for you, such as correcting a mistake or seeking forgiveness or standing before Allah and beseeching Him, and forget about what you have missed out on.

Source: Sayd al-Khaatir (59-60).

Therefore we must realise that Allah knows better what is best for us so we should have full faith, trust and reliance on him that he will do what is best for us. Also if we wants to increase the effectiveness of our Dua's then the following hadith tells us how to do this:

It was narrated that Faddalah ibn ‘Ubayd (Ra) said: The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) heard a man making dua after his prayer, but he did not send blessings upon the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: “This man is in a hurry.” Then he called him and said to him or to someone else: “When any one of you has finished praying (and makes dua), let him start by praising Allah, then let him send blessings upon the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam), then after that let him ask for whatever he wants.” (Al-Tirmidhi, 2765)


The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: “The slave will receive a response so long as his dua does not involve sin or severing of family ties, and so long as he is not hasty.” It was said, “What does being hasty mean?” He said: “When he says, ‘I made dua and I made dua, and I have not seen any response,’ and he gets frustrated and stops making Dua.” (Al-Bukahari, 6340; Muslim, 2735)

So my brother we must realise that trials will befall us but Allah is testing us to see how strong our resolve is and whether we will turn to him or not. So we must never lose hope. We should make us of the times when Dua's are readily accepted especially the time of Tahajjud. Ask of him, beg and cry unto him and he will never leave you empty handed!

May Allah never make us lose hope in him and make us patient and persevere through trials and hardships. Ameen

 

[hisnameiszzz]

Hamza, thanks for the response. To an extent, I know where you are coming from. But I feel I have reached the end of my resolve. I don't think I can take it anymore. So why won't Allah stop this test / punishment?

Just today, the supposed Muslims from next door woke us up at 10am by hoovering the bedrooms, and then slamming doors non stop, one after the other after the other. I pray on a daily basis to Allah, after each fardh prayer which I was advised to do by an Imam I contacted via email, so it shows I am willing to do something about it. I pray Yaseen and Kahf and various other bits and pieces every day too. And like I have said, I have been making dua for years on end. I am NOT being impatient. It's not like this is a new problem, it is ongoing and has been for a very long time.

If this carries on, I will end up slitting my wrists or something like that. I doubt very much Allah wants to test my resolve that much. I'm confused with Islam now. Why on earth would a God shower disobedient servants with joy and happiness and answer all their prayers yet the servants who follow his rules get **** upon from great heights and regularly.

I think I have found my answer. I am going to follow the "Aleister Crowley" version of Islam my neighbours follow: do whatever you want, hurt whoever you want, don't follow Islam and all will be good. If that doesn't work, I'm out. At least I won't be wasting my time following rules and regulations when it amounts to sweet f/a!

Thanks for the respones guys. Much appreciated.

 

[BilalKid]

I am going to follow the "Aleister Crowley" version of Islam my neighbours follow

What is that? ^o)

 

[hisnameiszzz]

What is that? ^o)

The religion my neighbours follow: "do whatever you want, hurt whoever you want, don't follow Islam and Allah/whoever will answer your prayers and all will be good".

Examples:

1) Drink
2) Take drugs and deal drugs
3) Do major credit card fraud, buy lots of houses with it and then do some time in jail
4) Don't follow Huquqool Ibad, that's so last year
5) Slam doors all day, every day without fail
6) Have a fan installed in your bathroom on your neighbours wall so that each time you switch it on, it makes such a loud noise your neighbours will think a drone is attacking them, and switch it on and off during the night for extra effect
7) Hoover when you know the neighbours are asleep
8) If you are female, cut your hair short and have it coloured every week. Also wear clothes so your body shows and your breasts can be seen by the whole world
9) Park your car in everyone's yard causing them harrassment. If they come to tell you to move it, tell them to f/o
10) Throw all your litter in someone else's yard
11) Stand in the back yard and gossip loudly about the whole world
12) All the men and women in the family (non mahram - brother/sister in law should mingle freely, chat, gossip, laugh)
13) Listen to music loudly
14) Only go to the Masjid on a Friday or a couple of times in Ramadhan

And best of all, Allah/whoever they believe in, answers ALL their prayers.

Why I wasted my life on following Sunnah / the Holy Book is beyond me. I wish I had never bothered. Follow the supposed right path and your life is a nightmare.

Unless a massive sign happens before the end of Ramadhan, I will be turning my back on Islam all thanks to the neighbours. I genuinely can't be bothered wasting my time praying / following rules and regulations when they amount to sweet f/a in this world. Don't get me wrong, I understand if I carried on following Islam, I would be in one of the highest heavens after death, but I've just got to the point where I want a tiny bit of respite in this life as I am heading for a breakdown!

NB. Just had about 25 loud door slams in the last 10 minutes. So 25 x 5 (of us being harrassed by the noise) x 70 (multiplier for Ramadhan) = 8750 ghunaa in a whole 10 minutes. Nice!

 

[unknown10]

The religion my neighbours follow: "do whatever you want, hurt whoever you want, don't follow Islam and Allah/whoever will answer your prayers and all will be good".

Examples:

1) Drink
2) Take drugs and deal drugs
3) Do major credit card fraud, buy lots of houses with it and then do some time in jail
4) Don't follow Huquqool Ibad, that's so last year
5) Slam doors all day, every day without fail
6) Have a fan installed in your bathroom on your neighbours wall so that each time you switch it on, it makes such a loud noise your neighbours will think a drone is attacking them, and switch it on and off during the night for extra effect
7) Hoover when you know the neighbours are asleep
8) If you are female, cut your hair short and have it coloured every week. Also wear clothes so your body shows and your breasts can be seen by the whole world
9) Park your car in everyone's yard causing them harrassment. If they come to tell you to move it, tell them to f/o
10) Throw all your litter in someone else's yard
11) Stand in the back yard and gossip loudly about the whole world
12) All the men and women in the family (non mahram - brother/sister in law should mingle freely, chat, gossip, laugh)
13) Listen to music loudly
14) Only go to the Masjid on a Friday or a couple of times in Ramadhan

And best of all, Allah/whoever they believe in, answers ALL their prayers.

Why I wasted my life on following Sunnah / the Holy Book is beyond me. I wish I had never bothered. Follow the supposed right path and your life is a nightmare.

Unless a massive sign happens before the end of Ramadhan, I will be turning my back on Islam all thanks to the neighbours. I genuinely can't be bothered wasting my time praying / following rules and regulations when they amount to sweet f/a in this world. Don't get me wrong, I understand if I carried on following Islam, I would be in one of the highest heavens after death, but I've just got to the point where I want a tiny bit of respite in this life as I am heading for a breakdown!

NB. Just had about 25 loud door slams in the last 10 minutes. So 25 x 5 (of us being harrassed by the noise) x 70 (multiplier for Ramadhan) = 8750 ghunaa in a whole 10 minutes. Nice!

I know its veryyy old post but had your problem been solved now?

 

[hisnameiszzz]

I know its veryyy old post but had your problem been solved now?

How random that I was flicking through the website by chance and I noticed this.

It's still the same ---- but a different day. The amount of noise the beasts make is so bad. For a "Muslim" couple aged 72 and 65 to put their Muslim neighbours (the rest of my family are still Muslim) through this is hard to accept. I end up having panic attack after panic attack which is very debilitating.

Mom is more or less immobile now and her health has deteriorated so although I would love to move away it's not going to happen. She still won't move from this house and I've stopped trying to convince her. It's not nice watching a woman of almost 70 crying. I still have no idea what her attachment to this house is but it is what it is.

I don't make prayers anymore so I can't complain they don't get accepted. I actually stopped following about 2 years ago. I just didn't see the point.

When I was going through my worst time, I did reach out to quite a few local Imams but they had no time for me or simply said it will get better which made me feel even worse.

Someone that befriended me on here has been in touch lately and has been giving me a lot of support with the anxiety and panic attacks, so for that I am grateful I joined this website. Thank you very much. I guess I have accepted this is what my life going to be like for now so instead of moaning I'll just try and deal with it the best I can, and if I don't I'll just drop dead from a heart attack or something. Sorry I'm not after a pity party.

Thanks for asking by the way.

I hope everyone else is doing okay.

 

[Misbah-Abd]

How random that I was flicking through the website by chance and I noticed this.

It's still the same ---- but a different day. The amount of noise the beasts make is so bad. For a "Muslim" couple aged 72 and 65 to put their Muslim neighbours (the rest of my family are still Muslim) through this is hard to accept. I end up having panic attack after panic attack which is very debilitating.

Mom is more or less immobile now and her health has deteriorated so although I would love to move away it's not going to happen. She still won't move from this house and I've stopped trying to convince her. It's not nice watching a woman of almost 70 crying. I still have no idea what her attachment to this house is but it is what it is.

I don't make prayers anymore so I can't complain they don't get accepted. I actually stopped following about 2 years ago. I just didn't see the point.

When I was going through my worst time, I did reach out to quite a few local Imams but they had no time for me or simply said it will get better which made me feel even worse.

Someone that befriended me on here has been in touch lately and has been giving me a lot of support with the anxiety and panic attacks, so for that I am grateful I joined this website. Thank you very much. I guess I have accepted this is what my life going to be like for now so instead of moaning I'll just try and deal with it the best I can, and if I don't I'll just drop dead from a heart attack or something. Sorry I'm not after a pity party.

Thanks for asking by the way.

I hope everyone else is doing okay.

May you see the error of your ways and make tawbah to Allah Azza wa Jal before your respite is over.

 

[Nitro Zeus]

Recite “Al Fatiha” at the beginning of your Du’a, and then recite “Durud e Ibrahim” and after his recite your Du’a that you want to make and then recite again “Durud e Ibrahim” in the middle of your Du’a and after you have finished reciting, recite one more time “Durud e Ibrahim” at at the end of your Du’a and then say “Oh God! Accept my Du’a with the mediation(waseela) of prophet Muhammad and hen finish. The next step is, put your trust in God, be confidence that He’ll answer your Du’a and you just have to wait, make Du’a all the time, try not to miss the obligatory prayers, do more good deeds. And ask something that does not goes against anything that He Said in Quran.

 

[Nitro Zeus]

Maybe you’re asking something bad and maybe you’re asking something that goes against whatever He Said in Quran. Maybe, He knows it is not good for you or maybe He knows when will be the perfect time for getting your Du’a accepted, maybe He wants to grant you in Heaven your wish not in this life, that’s why sometimes Du’as aren’t accepted. Maybe, you don’t pray at time, maybe you don’t do the obligatory things which God has made it be obligatory.

 

[hisnameiszzz]

Maybe you’re asking something bad and maybe you’re asking something that goes against whatever He Said in Quran. Maybe, He knows it is not good for you or maybe He knows when will be the perfect time for getting your Du’a accepted, maybe He wants to grant you in Heaven your wish not in this life, that’s why sometimes Du’as aren’t accepted. Maybe, you don’t pray at time, maybe you don’t do the obligatory things which God has made it be obligatory.

Thanks for your reply.

The only thing I asked for was a bit of peace and quiet for my Mom - she is elderly, she should not be scared like this by banging doors constantly. I ask that she agrees to move so we can move to a smaller house where we don't have jaheel neighbours. I pray that my health gets better and that my Mom also gets better. I also asked for marriage to someone who would be able to make me whole. I pray for world peace and that innocent people do not end up suffering.

I'm not asking for fancy cars, or big houses or a fancy job. I'm not asking for a fancy body or perfection. That's all materialistic. It can come and go.

Just this week after about 2 years I prayed some tasbeehs on my way to work and yesterday, I prayed all my Jummah surats and I even prayed to Allah after Jummah namaaz. There is hope. I would love to have an Imam that I could sit and talk with, sometimes people need a bit of guidance and that's what I wanted but they are oh so busy and do not have time. Oh well.

 

[Nitro Zeus]

Thanks for your reply.

The only thing I asked for was a bit of peace and quiet for my Mom - she is elderly, she should not be scared like this by banging doors constantly. I ask that she agrees to move so we can move to a smaller house where we don't have jaheel neighbours. I pray that my health gets better and that my Mom also gets better. I also asked for marriage to someone who would be able to make me whole. I pray for world peace and that innocent people do not end up suffering.

I'm not asking for fancy cars, or big houses or a fancy job. I'm not asking for a fancy body or perfection. That's all materialistic. It can come and go.

Just this week after about 2 years I prayed some tasbeehs on my way to work and yesterday, I prayed all my Jummah surats and I even prayed to Allah after Jummah namaaz. There is hope. I would love to have an Imam that I could sit and talk with, sometimes people need a bit of guidance and that's what I wanted but they are oh so busy and do not have time. Oh well.

Well, if you really wish for health, then you must be patient and have full faith and put trust in Him. Maybe sometimes, He gives us lessons by giving us hard times so that we may learn something, like to become strong and to know what we must do next time. But, you must take care of yourself first and then you take of others and leave others alone, you take care of yourself, because you’re the one who will be question by God on the Great Day, you’re the one who will be Punished or Rewarded by Him on that Day, so peace it is good but what’s the use of peace if there are some who rejects Islam? They won’t find peace in Hereafter, am I right? Only the believers will find peace in this world and also in Hereafter. I understand you, that You wanna be a good person, but there are some jerks who don’t deserve peace in this world and only God knows who To give peace and who not to have.

 

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dua goes through the sky and its answer comes suddenly down, when you can't expect it. It's a part of ghayb.. no one knows what place and when Allah Will answer your dua

 

[hisnameiszzz]

Thanks both. It's a bit too much to take in - I know what you are saying makes sense or should but I have not slept properly in forever so I sometimes struggle with even basic things. I'm severely depressed at the moment and I am going to reach out for help via the GP. I also need to get help for the panic attacks and anxiety.