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Assalamulaikum,
WHY DONT OUR PARENTS UNDERSTAND USS?? :?
Isnt it just really frustrating when your trying to prove something in islam to be right, and your parents just argue to the point, or deny it?
Yes, that happens to me all the time.
My name is Madiha, as maybe some of you know. I am 15 years old, and i joined this islamic forum quite a long time ago, but i didnt really post anything. Alhamdulillah, i am back on it, and would love to share many thoughts and knowledge with you.
The reason why my post is about why our parents dont understand us is because, from a young age, my parents have not really been following islam properly, and they havent taught me much about it. Its always like " Madiha read salaah", or " Madiha dont do this" , but when u force a kid to do something, they will always have something triggering the back of their mind, and theyll always think, gosh man, why is my mum, or why is my dad tellingme to do this? Its too much for me, why are they forcing me to do something i dont want to do?
With me, its partly been like that, and it partly hasnt. Since a young age, i have gone to a state school, from the age of 3 to the age of 10. Alhamdulillah, i have always wanted to know about my relegion, my faith, and ive always had an interest in it, and had many questions about it. When the interest got intense, I told my parents that i am really interested in Islam, and i really want to go close to Allah and i really wan to achieve something in life, and by then, i had found out about Islamic schools near my area. So now alhamdulillah, i am in an islamic school and i am very happy there, and all the answers to my questions there, from my teachers and my friends. I have been studying there for 4 years now,and day by day, i am learning new things and trying to teach my parents and siblings as well.
My parents have always gone with the wrong. For example, I dont go to mixed weddings, i only go to segregated ones, where the men and women are seperate, and you cant see anyone of the opposite gender. I have one younger sister who is 10 years old, and everyone older than me is married and have their own houses. So its only the four of us, my mum and dad, me and my sister.
Whenever we get an invtation card to a wedding or a party and it doesnt say anything anout segregation, i always tell my parents i dont want to go, but they dont understand. Ive told them many times that i dont want to go because its not right in Islam, and i dont beleie in going to mixed weddings. I have explained to them many times why, but still they'd tell me off,and say"Madiha you always want to do what you want, you have to stay with the parents, this is a wedding, its important blah blah blah". In this situation, for about a year i went with them, but still, i dont feel comfortable their, especially in cultural asian weddings, where men are dancing with women, i dont feel comfortable myself.
After some time, i became strong regarding this issue alhamdulillah, and i completely backed down from going to weddings like that, and now, whenever my parents attend a wedding like that, i stay at home.
This is just one issie that i try to explain to them, but im sure there are so many teenagers like me out there, trying to explain to there parents about islam, and i know, mos of them come from their countries like India, pakistan etc, and have alot of culture and traditions in them, which i think, most of the time is ridiculous.
I have had many arguments with them regarding their beleifs etc, but nothing seems to work sometimes, and i always stop and leave it, and let them do whatever they want. I am not going to give up explaining to them and showing them and getting my points across, because i have faith that maybe one day they will change inshallah.
For a few years now, ive been quite upset with the fact that, my parents dont understand me, whenenever i try and say something to them, they listen to me, but dont really want to know from heart, and pay no attension to me, and have no intension of changing and getting better, but all i can say is that, there is no point getting upset or sad to the fact that ur parents dont have the same views, and i really think that zikr and rememberance of allah has helped me alot as a young girl, to look at life from an islamic point of view.
Even though, my parents don't practise in islam, I am very happy that i am moving on forward. And great advice i can give that has helped me alot, is zikr. Zikr has made me a very spiritual person at young age alhamdulillah. And it wont just come to u like that. You need to do zikr, pray tahajjud , 5 times salaah daily, and Inshallah every one of you out there, will feel really happy with yourselves and your lives inshallah.
Thank you for reading.
wassalaam.
WHY DONT OUR PARENTS UNDERSTAND USS?? :?
Isnt it just really frustrating when your trying to prove something in islam to be right, and your parents just argue to the point, or deny it?
Yes, that happens to me all the time.
My name is Madiha, as maybe some of you know. I am 15 years old, and i joined this islamic forum quite a long time ago, but i didnt really post anything. Alhamdulillah, i am back on it, and would love to share many thoughts and knowledge with you.
The reason why my post is about why our parents dont understand us is because, from a young age, my parents have not really been following islam properly, and they havent taught me much about it. Its always like " Madiha read salaah", or " Madiha dont do this" , but when u force a kid to do something, they will always have something triggering the back of their mind, and theyll always think, gosh man, why is my mum, or why is my dad tellingme to do this? Its too much for me, why are they forcing me to do something i dont want to do?
With me, its partly been like that, and it partly hasnt. Since a young age, i have gone to a state school, from the age of 3 to the age of 10. Alhamdulillah, i have always wanted to know about my relegion, my faith, and ive always had an interest in it, and had many questions about it. When the interest got intense, I told my parents that i am really interested in Islam, and i really want to go close to Allah and i really wan to achieve something in life, and by then, i had found out about Islamic schools near my area. So now alhamdulillah, i am in an islamic school and i am very happy there, and all the answers to my questions there, from my teachers and my friends. I have been studying there for 4 years now,and day by day, i am learning new things and trying to teach my parents and siblings as well.
My parents have always gone with the wrong. For example, I dont go to mixed weddings, i only go to segregated ones, where the men and women are seperate, and you cant see anyone of the opposite gender. I have one younger sister who is 10 years old, and everyone older than me is married and have their own houses. So its only the four of us, my mum and dad, me and my sister.
Whenever we get an invtation card to a wedding or a party and it doesnt say anything anout segregation, i always tell my parents i dont want to go, but they dont understand. Ive told them many times that i dont want to go because its not right in Islam, and i dont beleie in going to mixed weddings. I have explained to them many times why, but still they'd tell me off,and say"Madiha you always want to do what you want, you have to stay with the parents, this is a wedding, its important blah blah blah". In this situation, for about a year i went with them, but still, i dont feel comfortable their, especially in cultural asian weddings, where men are dancing with women, i dont feel comfortable myself.
After some time, i became strong regarding this issue alhamdulillah, and i completely backed down from going to weddings like that, and now, whenever my parents attend a wedding like that, i stay at home.
This is just one issie that i try to explain to them, but im sure there are so many teenagers like me out there, trying to explain to there parents about islam, and i know, mos of them come from their countries like India, pakistan etc, and have alot of culture and traditions in them, which i think, most of the time is ridiculous.
I have had many arguments with them regarding their beleifs etc, but nothing seems to work sometimes, and i always stop and leave it, and let them do whatever they want. I am not going to give up explaining to them and showing them and getting my points across, because i have faith that maybe one day they will change inshallah.
For a few years now, ive been quite upset with the fact that, my parents dont understand me, whenenever i try and say something to them, they listen to me, but dont really want to know from heart, and pay no attension to me, and have no intension of changing and getting better, but all i can say is that, there is no point getting upset or sad to the fact that ur parents dont have the same views, and i really think that zikr and rememberance of allah has helped me alot as a young girl, to look at life from an islamic point of view.
Even though, my parents don't practise in islam, I am very happy that i am moving on forward. And great advice i can give that has helped me alot, is zikr. Zikr has made me a very spiritual person at young age alhamdulillah. And it wont just come to u like that. You need to do zikr, pray tahajjud , 5 times salaah daily, and Inshallah every one of you out there, will feel really happy with yourselves and your lives inshallah.
Thank you for reading.
wassalaam.
