Women who do not want to live with In Laws

[anonymous]

Assalam Walaikum

What should Women Do?

growing number of women aging, looking to get married but cant find husbands that are not living with their parents. Want to be independent, don't care, big hair etc etc... Hence delaying their marriage even longer, up to a point where men are rejecting them left right and centre in some communities.

what should these women do, should they leave their family home? if they dont want to live with in laws, should they then forfeit their right to live with their own family i.e. mother/father/brothers and sisters?

in some cultures this is becoming an embarrasment, not just culturually, even religiously, questions are being asked, speciulation, blame on parents, shame...

Women shouldn't stay single all their life, if their family have found a good suitor, then they should consider it with a full heart. Not half hearted or heartless so much ending up with grooms rejecting them in the end because (they gave off signs of disinterest).

if women don't want to get married and want to continue with their independence or husband less life, what should they do?

should they stay with their parents or should they amicably leave and setup on their own...? daunting as it sounds but they should make a choice? ....... right?

 

[Muawiya]

The crux of the issue is housing affordability.

In North America there is a housing crisis and men cannot afford to buy a wife's rightful living space for marriage.

Also I vehemently disagree with in laws being the sole blocker of women getting married.

 

[relief4aMuslim]

If women do not want to get married just because of housing but they are able to house themselves on their own, then there is the solution, once married the man can live in your home you have obtained on your own. Also if someone does want to get married, woman or man, but cannot yet, for any reason, it is recommended to fast.

 

[anonymous]

The crux of the issue is housing affordability.

In North America there is a housing crisis and men cannot afford to buy a wife's rightful living space for marriage.

Also I vehemently disagree with in laws being the sole blocker of women getting married.

that was just an example

other resons for rejecting men or spouses include :

not practising enough (dont be a hypocrite too)
no attraction
too quiet
too loud
too far (women will meet a guy 2 or 3 times) and then say .........its too far... this is humiliating....
etc etc

if a woman starts nit picking and making all sorts of excuses for rejection, how are they supposed to get married?

in our town there is a growing cirlce of single women / divorced women who are engaging in such network for advice (good and bad) etc and with so many outsider viewpoints, this perpetuates the reluctance to get married again even though the parents / guardian have managed to find decent suitors based on recommendations etc and from meeting these suitors themselves... yet their daughters / sisters are rejecting them or they are being rejected (because the daughters / sisters expressed their own reservations subsequently putting the their suitor off), seen it happen few timesd.

 

[Ghost1987]

And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hands possess [i.e., slaves]. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice].

Surah nisaa 4 verse 3