im going crazy..idk wut to do!!!

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I will keep it open and see how it goes. Its ramadan now and less members will be on, so if this proves no help. Then i think its best placing it in the Helpdesk

Yep, it's obvious that you're really confused. In my humble opinion, either you're truly homophobic or you're displaying such a behaviour to repress more hidden secrets. You're clearly obsessed with gay people. Did you ask yourself why? It's Ramadha, try to read the holly Quran and focus on things of the deen. In clearer states of mind, try to have an introspection. If your obsession gets really overwhelming, there's no shame in asking for help: From a local Imam and in another register from an analyst.

I know some people with OCD can keep questioning things like that even when it is apparent that they are not that. Just stop thinking about that stuff. Read Quran go to taraweeh pray more and make du'a. It's Ramadan, just dont think about those thoughts and it'll pass inshallah.

I don't think 'being gay' itself is prohibited rather, being sexually active with someone of the same gender is. I believe that homosexuality is more or less biological in nature, so 'gays' usually can't change their being attracted to the same sex.
I mean to say that the important thing here is to remember that only the sexual action not the feelings etc are forbidden. I'm no psychologist but you need to come to terms with yourself, perhaps you do have homosexual tendencies and whatnot, well the thing is it's no cause for hating yourself/hating others. also, IMO if your having doubts, no cause for grave concern, all of us do from time to time. prayer and reading the qur'an -while trying at least to understand, not simply reading for the sake of reading- are affective in that regard, Ramadan does not bring change in of itself, it's there so that we can strive to better ourselves. and lastly, life is a test, not that it cannot be enjoyed but still, there are things from which we are forbidden, and there is more of that which is allowed-halal-than there is that which is not-haram.

whooooow!

yall got me all wrong

the only freaking reason it keeps comming up is becuase 50% of the plp i use to know are gay and the other half accept so im around this all the time when im at skool

plus i have classes were these cursed plp sit by me and talk about there realtions with it spartner and all,SubhanALALH,sometimes i wana through up an dsometimes i wana tell them to shut up and how they are rediculous but i think to myself,its Ramadan,mind your own,you get me?

all the wispers i get i have never gotten before untill i started hating gay plp..maybe thats the reason

displaying such a behaviour to repress more hidden secrets

what? i no for a fact that there is no secret,hope that was a joke...

i have selective ocd..but its only with thngs not being in the right place,order,in its only with the Wur;an an dother reglion base things..lik eif i see a Qur'an flipped the wrong way,or a sheet falling out,even if im so stired i wll fix it

an dno i have no attraction towards women...

yall jus got me all wrong,i guess i didnt express my self to well

my only propblem is getting these thoughts and me being week enough in Iman to quickly reject it

i dont remembr but someone once told me that if you respond to these wispers then the shaydaan will keep messing with you

i listen to the Qur'an ever single day,so its not like i dont

i think the only reason im getting these wipsers,ironicly after ive become so relgious,is that shaydaan knows by hatred toward these cursed plp and so by doing this then he knows ill be effected

don't think 'being gay' itself is prohibited rather, being sexually active with someone of the same gender is. I believe that homosexuality is more or less biological in nature, so 'gays' usually can't change their being attracted to the same sex.
I mean to say that the important thing here is to remember that only the sexual action not the feelings etc are forbidden. I'm no psychologist but you need to come to terms with yourself, perhaps you do have homosexual tendencies and whatnot, well the thing is it's no cause for hating yourself/hating others. also, IMO if your having doubts, no cause for grave concern, all of us do from time to time. prayer and reading the qur'an -while trying at least to understand, not simply reading for the sake of reading- are affective in that regard, Ramadan does not bring change in of itself, it's there so that we can strive to better ourselves. and lastly, life is a test, not that it cannot be enjoyed but still, there are things from which we are forbidden, and there is more of that which is allowed-halal-than there is that which is not-haram.

what!!!! were are you reading???

being gay is Haram! anything and everything that comes with either bing gay or having relations with some one


i appreciate the help but yall jus didnt get what i was trying to say

i think the best thing for me to do,is ignore it,ignore it the first time and not think or question teh wisper cuz then itll only continue

plz haveme in your Dua's

ummmm

format_quote Originally Posted by Hamayun

So you are not gay? Phew! Thats a relief

she/he never said they were..

my advice...make Dua that ALLAH (SWA) give you relief and ease your burden

stay as far away as possible and dontlet it get to you

ignore it completly

format_quote Originally Posted by alcurad

I see, then maybe you should spend less time with homosexual people.
on another note, I don't think you understood what I meant, so here it is again: the sexual relationship is forbidden, but simply being attracted etc is not. this in accordance to a hadeeth in which the prophet said-in close translation-: Allah has forgiven my ummah of what-sins- they contemplate, unless they act-upon them.
the reason I'm bringing this up again is that you said you hate them.It's just that I noticed that people who are truly homophobic are homosexuals themselves to an extent.only they are influenced by others' extreme negative reactions to it, and so they develop it as well. trying to smother thoughts is the most assured way of making them more prominent. I don't think that's the healthiest approach.
but then again I'm not saying you are, it might just be the bad company.
also, I believe it's better to read the qur'an yourself and contemplate it rather than listening to it. that way it won't become another background 'noise'.

i try to..but they are every where..seriously every where i turn they show up

extreme negativity?

sorry but everyone here like them and thinks they are cute so thats defenitly y im having these thoughts

bottom line i sthat i hate them too much that every time i see one i curse them n so on so ima take my yall advice and ignore them n these wispers all togeather..im not going to let it bother me

close thread...sorry for the waist of time...i solved it..it was simple,get over hating them so much

nooooooooooooooooo
wrong wrong wrong.

your surrounded by these ppl, and those you befriend can effect your entire character, the effects of friends can be crucial to ones life, you must understand this akhee, im gna try posting a link to this audio cd i have on choosing the right friends, or you can even research this up on the net.This is the anwser to your problem, i can assure you!