Not marrying, is it a big sin?

how about this


you live without marriage inshaAllah - but the very second you get tempted into zina - zina being even staring at a brother-sister/speaking to him-her in soft ways etc - you will give up the idea of never marrying.


sound good?

Zina refers to unlawful sexual intercourse. It can also be used to refer to other sexual improprieties--such as looking at someone other than one's spouse with desire, which the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) referred to as the "zina of the eyes."

^ i gave a very serious answer


so serious infact that i did not even smile


even at this moment, my eyebrows are slightly perched - THAT serious !

format_quote Originally Posted by Argamemnon

I can't edit my message?

you need 50 posts first, silly rule eh?

Nah, it's not. But very encouraged!

It is narrated by Anas that the Messenger of Allah said: "When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half."

^ i stand by my first statement


you seem to think your desires shall never surface - try it !and the SECOND you even TIHNK slightly about a woman in bad ways, you give up the idea !

the prophet (saw) said, 'He who does not get married is not of my ummah' or something on those lines...im just fishing up the exact wording and reference insha'Allah...

format_quote Originally Posted by Argamemnon

Exactly, that's why I'm asking. It sounds terrifying; I will probably burn in hell. No escape for me.

nooo!

you cant allow yourself to think like that!


the believer fears hell WHILE ALL THE TIME hoping for Allahs mercy!

format_quote Originally Posted by Argamemnon

Exactly, that's why I'm asking. It sounds terrifying; I will probably burn in hell. No escape for me.

Don't think like that,

think of it this way, a believer can do good deeds all his life and wan moment before death do something that'll make him destined for hell,

And vise versa,

You can't be sure of these things,

You can't say you're going to hell and leave it there,

I know it can be toguh,

And it was meant to be tough for us akhi, else it wouldn't be much of a test,

Now look me in the eyes (not literally) and tell me you don't understand Allaah gave us these tests our job is to pass them,

It's gonna be a rough ride, but you're gonna get through it!

InshaAllaah

poKe.

format_quote Originally Posted by Argamemnon

I will probably burn in hell. No escape for me.

Nobody knows that. I hope nobody's been telling you that you're off to hell because the truth is only Allah [swt] knows.

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 3:
Narrated 'Alqama:

While I was with Abdullah, 'Uthman met him at Mina and said, "O Abu 'Abdur-Rahman ! I have something to say to you." So both of them went aside and 'Uthman said, "O Abu 'Abdur-Rah. man! Shall we marry you to a virgin who will make you remember your past days?" When 'Abdullah felt that he was not in need of that, he beckoned me (to join him) saying, "O 'Alqama!" Then I heard him saying (in reply to 'Uthman), "As you have said that, (I tell you that) the Prophet once said to us, 'O young people! Whoever among you is able to marry, should marry, and whoever is not able to marry, is recommended to fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power.



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Volume 7, Book 62, Number 4:
Narrated 'Abdullah:

We were with the Prophet while we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah's Apostle said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 27:
Narrated Abu Huraira:

The Prophet said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers.


The above are compiled by Imam Bukhari

The Holy Qur'an reads: (And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.[30:21].