I was just wondering, are you content with your social life? How many friends do you have that you see regularly? What about family. Do you have enough people around you, and do you see them often?
ok dont know what u expect to achieve by the questions but anyways
yes im content with my social life
i have my friends at uni that i see everyday, then during holidays its time to catch up with high school friends that i dont see often n cousins. We try to make an effort to stay close
Bout family we r 8 kids altogether, mum has lots of sisters and brothers and they have lots of kids so its kind of pretty busy on the weekends.
Basically i long for a couple of hours alone without being interrupted and without noise. Its even hard to achieve it when i want to sleep!!!
I was just wondering, are you content with your social life?
AssalamuAlaykum
Pretty much alhamdulillah, but in the winter I hibernate lol I used to be a social butterfly in college, but now that I'm uni I'm more into my studies so limit going out to days off.
How many friends do you have that you see regularly?
Again, things have changed at uni...But I was always part of a group of five, now its down to four
What about family. Do you have enough people around you, and do you see them often?
Too many children I'm the eldest child, I'm the eldest grandchild too...that means my siblings and cousins are all younger than me and most of them are dribblers but then I see my aunts and uncles often so that's all kool alhamdulillah.
I was just wondering, are you content with your social life?
Yah. It's nothing major but it does the job. Thing is, when I;m at uni, I'm in class or waiting for a class to start. Otherwise, I'm at home (I usually have late starts or early finishes so am not in Uni for very long anyway).
How many friends do you have that you see regularly?
Quite a few in the week. Daily, anything from 2 to 10 [maximum amount of people that I know and have met/said Hi to on that one day] depending on the day. On an average day is about 3 or 4 (some are in my lessons on that day, others I see around campus centre) as I don't ''hang around'' with them but do see/meet/greet them.
What about family. Do you have enough people around you, and do you see them often?
This is one of the reasons I don't ''hang'' with my friends at Uni. I have plenty of family at home. Like 30 of us (cousins, uncles/aunties included). Of course, I do enjoy the company of my friends - some more than others - and I do get on well with them. I simply choose not to ''hang'' around - I'm usually doing something at Uni (work/revision/attending lectures) - otherwise I'm getting/eating lunch or going home .
Someone said to the Prophet, "Pray to God against the idolaters and curse them." The Prophet replied, "I have been sent to show mercy and have not been sent to curse." (Muslim)
I come from a huge Family, consists of many siblings, Big Brothers/Sisters, small ones. I am one of the youngest!!
We are like the brady bunch except with more amounts of siblings lol.
So I have many relationships to maintain at home. I have also close friends. Usually they're at my home. Whenever we make plans, I am thinking of something to do out, n they're like " comin over at ur place". My friends are like family!!
Bein alone for a moment is a luxury I can't seem to afford.
Alhamdulilah.
Last edited by Ansariyah; 12-09-2008 at 01:44 PM.
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I was just wondering, are you content with your social life? How many friends do you have that you see regularly? What about family. Do you have enough people around you, and do you see them often?
For me, the answers to those questions depend entirely on what season it is.
Winter/Autumn/Spring-
I see my friends at school, we go out some place every week or two, or to someone's house. Family is just my parents and brothers, we don't live near any of our relatives, and we don't have too many family friends.
Summer-
Go out with my cousins and/or friends pretty much every day, if not, then I'm with my relatives, or family friends. We always seem to be in the company of other people, which i love alhamdullilah.
Do my prayers , then in my bedroom, then go to work at night.
dont really watch telly or music, too much fitnah, so i guess im just bored, was actually thinking how long can i mantain this for . Its getting depressing lol.
Dont really have any practising friends, wish i did.
Hmm my social life lol, okay lets see i start my day off go to college, mostly in my frees i chill in the reflection room (prayer room) mostly and then come straight home when im finished, do my coursework then eat, maybe watch some tv top gear if its on and go bed. On saturdays and Sundays i dont really go out anywhere.
its carzy.ive limited my friends" i have tons of associates that i dnt really call friends..i say hey(actually i get yelled at for not saying hi).bye and e may sometimes actually stop and talk for a minute or two.
i live in a city filled with muslim grls my age but i didnt find out till recently.
most of my friends are older them me.1st-3rd year in uni but Alahamdulilah we get along very well
i dnt go out w/friends from skool,cuz they are neither not Muslim or dnt act like Muslims
but i go out with my Muslism friends.We either get togeather (youth group) go to Al-Magrib lectures,Mist (islamic tournaments), or out to eat
i realized i have the most fun when we go to a Islamic enviroment.You meet great plp,including scholars who are willing to answer your questions or active plp in you community.
So its great!
and o ya..i have a family,that never seams to decrease in nukber.i have a new uncle or aunt every other weakend that ive never met, i just smile n and act respectable
At Eid Prayer i met my great aunt and her grandaughter...i never new they existed and we livein the same city
Verily, His Command, when He intends a thing, is only that He says to it, Be! and it is.
I was just wondering, are you content with your social life? How many friends do you have that you see regularly? What about family. Do you have enough people around you, and do you see them often?
Cant complain, i'm happy with my social life. I'm not a very social person and have few (good) friends which i only get to see 1 often since the rest either got married and went away or the moved away. Miss them but i speak or sms them often so its ok.
Around me, yea i have my my family and few close reletives.
Pretty much alhamdulillah, but in the winter I hibernate lol I used to be a social butterfly in college, but now that I'm uni I'm more into my studies so limit going out to days off.
"College".. is that not where you can get a bachelor's degree, or does college mean something else in the UK? I live in the Netherlands, and when I communicate online, I always tell people that "I left college"... I was to become a teacher but had to leave due to psychological issues.
Anyhow, thank you for the answers
Last edited by Argamemnon; 12-09-2008 at 11:20 PM.
im very very lonely, friends i do have dont understand me since i converted to islam, and my family are all catholics they are accepting me more but are still ashamed of fact i embrace islam and hope that it is just a "phase"...
College is straight after school. I started college at 16 and left at nearly 18.
Uni is your place for degrees.
Is there a reason you asked these questions btw?
WassalamuAlaykum
Thanks, I just want to learn.. hmm, so you don't get a bachelor's degree at college.. I should be careful not to use that term again then.. but in America you get a bachelor's degree at college I think.. perhaps I'm wrong though.
Nopes, America is the same as the UK in that. University is for the degree, not college.
About the the topic, I only hang out with my friends at college in between or after classes for a lil while... I don't like going out with 'em, cuz my parents aren't really comfortable with that. lol And the only family I have here are my parents and siblings, but I've got enough people around me alhamdulillah!
"...You are my Walî in this world and in the Hereafter. Cause me to die as a Muslim, and join me with the righteous." [Surah Yusuf 101]
what about you brother Argamemnon? also is there a sizable muslim community where you live in the Netherlands?
Brother alcurad, I live extremely isolated and am very lonely. I live in a small town, although it's close to a big city...(and a lot of Muslims live there)
There are a lot of Muslims in the Netherlands. Mostly Turks and Moroccans. I think about half a million Turks, and almost as many Moroccans, but also a lot of people from other corners of the world. I bet you didn't know this
akhi I am going to tell you this advise and you may take it or leave it..
you can't spend all your life dwelling on what you've lost, you'll never move forward.. we all have miserable failures and terrible losses, we can't recover, and senseless years that we got nothing out of but if we don't move on we risk losing what is to come too?
Consider this a random example of a girl I knew in Undergrad, she was studying to be a pharmacist.
1-her father was a convict
2-her mother was trailer trash who beat her on occasion
3-she has muscular dystrophy
4-she was completely socially inept, she used to walk up to people and ask them to be her friend.. in fact that is how I became her friend.. because I saw how people made fun of her all the time, she had a hump and was always bent forward with difficulty walking and everyone still made fun of her for her disabilities if you can imagine such cruel human beings
she tried very hard in pharmacy school to make it, but no matter how hard she tried she failed her courses, she had to work for personal money, thankfully due to her condition she managed some financial aid, but she had many expenses, transportation, books food, clothes, etc which she used to work lowly jobs for only for her deadbeat mother to take the money from her...
she also unfortunately was under the disillusion that one of the teachers had a crush on her, and she had all these wedding plans in mind, until one day he realized when she approached him and luckily he let her down easy -- but you can imagine how defeated she was.. I mean one day she got her grade with a smiley face next to it from him and on that she based a whole life time with children-- yes she was different and had many believe me many challenges, that sometimes when life becomes too much for me, I think of her and it makes me feel like I am such a wimp..
Anyhow she managed to change her career path to speech therapy, and was very successful at that, she also and after many doomed relationship enrolled in one of those matchmaking and found one she addresses as the love of her life..
she now teaches handicapped children, has a wonderful full life, is happily married throughout all the yrs, I have always known her to have a smile on her face. I have lost touch with her since under-grad, but she truly was an inspiration to me.. though she wasn't Muslim, and I couldn't be happier for her.. she truly beat the odds...
Now I ask you, because from what appears to me, you are very sociable, you have endeared yourself to many brothers and sisters here, you speak and write in proper terms, your thoughts flow.. I sense from several of your threads that you want to get your life back on track.. I just don't understand what it is that is holding you back?
Do you have as my friend did, a miserable family? a physical handicap, serious emotional problems that everyone truly can pick on and inability to concentrate on course work to the point where you'd hit rock bottom and have to start all over again?
from where I am sitting.. I think you have true and proper ability to get your life back on track.. I assure you most severely depressed pts, don't even have energy to sit on the computer and engage others the way you do.. in fact part of the many reasons many antidepressants were linked to suicide is because, once the depressed pts take them, they get enough energy to commit suicide but don't have enough of it in their system to actually correct the chemical imbalance .. also if depression is on and on for years, it is no longer considered depression, rather what we call dysthymia and unlike major depression, people are able to carry on normal function, even if they are down all the time..
I think if you want to change your life you can set a date and start.
you think to yourself, by this time next year I'll be 1/3 of the way toward my course work
by this time next year I'll have a wonderful wife
by this time next year I'll have a part time job
and then go after it
my two cents
and Allah swt knows best
Last edited by جوري; 12-10-2008 at 01:11 AM.
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I dont have any close friends since I just moved country and all that. But I have loads of cousins, about 38 of them and i'm amongst the eldest so I just get to play big sister all the time lol. I'm pretty happy with that though.
During the weekdays I usually just see the fellow teachers at school and they're all in their early 20's, pretty much around my age and we get along great.
On the weekends I usually just take my cuzzies out and we go ice skating at the mall or do some other enjoyable activities like that
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lol I used to be a social butterfly in college, but now that I'm uni I'm more into my studies so limit going out to days off.
I'm the eldest child, I'm the eldest grandchild too...that means my siblings and cousins are all younger than me and most of them are dribblers 
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, n they're like " comin over at ur place". My friends are like family!!
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