Can I make Dua? That is my only hope :(

format_quote Originally Posted by AnonymousGender

Someone please advise me.

To make a long story short, I was seeing this guy for about a year (please don't tell me I shouldn't have been in a haram relationship) I already know it was wrong.

I found out 6 months ago that he cheated on me and he was in another serious relaionship all along. I haven't got over him and I can't see it happening :'(

Although I know thisman is not for because of his actions, I still love him very much.

Is it possible for me to make Dua for Allah swt to put me in my ex's heart?

I'm so upset, I know Allah swt doesn't want me to be with this man but I can't let go it's so hard!!

Is it possible to still make Dua for my ex to fall for me? Afterall Dua can change someone's destiny right?

Please tell I can, I need something to hold onto otherwise I will go insane!!!

i dont know if there is a dua for that, but i do know that everything happens for a reson. as hard as it could be maybe he is not right for you. i think you should try and be strong dont think about him, i know easy said then done, but Allah knows what best.

Why would you wanna be with a cheat? Come on sis, have some respect for yourself. Avoid falling into sin. You are lucky Allah saved you from more harm. Be grateful, repent, seek forgiveness and avoid which Allah hates. Life can be hunky dory if we follow the right path.

I know he is a cheat, but Allah swt can change peoples hearts. He can change someones destiny if they make dua right?

I'm just looking to olh on to anything at the moment. I can't do simple daily chores without this man in my head.

I am repenting for my sin of being with him before and I am still repenting, but I also want him to be part of my life, I don't want anyone but him.

How am i ever going to marry someone else if my heart is with this man? He left me 7 mon ths ago and is now playing happy with this other girl while I am left facing the consequenses

But, I still have a little hope that Allah swt can change his heart if I keep making dua. I can't live if I don't have hope....

please...you must let go of him, he will only hurt you more sis. i have recently gotten out of a very abusive relationship, he cheated on me all the time and expected me to wait and watch...i wanted him to change, i tried with everything i had to give...but in the end he told me that i was nothing to him, and told me to get lost he never wanted to see me again...
i dont want this to happen to you sis, i dont want you to have to suffer the way that i have. i understand what you mean, and if you need support i am always here for you, i stayed in a relationship for 2 years even though i was being cheated on, unappreciated, and emotionally abused because i loved him and i expected that any day he would change. i will make duaas to allah for you, that you may find the strength to know that you do not deserve to be cheated on, and that you will find much better, 10,000 times better than this man ever treated you!

Thanks for the replies.

I'm sorry to what happened.

I am extremely depressed about everything going on in my life, Allah swt can change anyones situation with dua. If I don't make dua to be with him, what other hope do I have?

I do make Dua to move on from him, but I also make Dua for Allah SWT to put me in his heart.

format_quote Originally Posted by Al-Zaara

^ So you are contradicting yourself in your dua? Y'know, God doesn't get confused, but you do. Think about this really throughly.

In my opinion, you dua should be along the lines of getting a righteous Muslim and respecting man who loves you and respects you and will be there for you and your child, be it this man or another.

I'm not contradicting myself, could just mean that I am making Dua to move on from him, but Allah SWT can still put me in his heart.

Say if I found someone and got married, and my ex was always thinking about me and he called me out of the blue one day to tell me he wants me back etc... I will turn around and tell him, you know what, I have found someone a million times better than you and I have moved on GOODBYE!!

I want him to feel the way he made me feel. That'; why I want to be in his heart even if I move on from him.

format_quote Originally Posted by Al-Zaara

I knew you'd say that... Don't sister. Really, there is no use. Do you realize he might never want you back again? You are the one left heartbroken here, he was playing you all along. What good will a broken heart of his do to you in the future? And besides, you should put all strength on asking Allah for forgiveness and not asking for a revenge.

You're hurt and depressed, it is not unusual to feel this way now. But you'll think about this later, when you're stronger than before and inshaAllah content about your life.

I really hope for your best, I know this ain't easy, believe me, I really hope Allah will help you.

Yes I feel like... I feel like.... no words can describe this pain and if I have any little hope of aomething happening, then I am NOT giving it up no matter what anyone says. It is up to Allah swt at the end of the day and He can make ANYTHING happen.

Thanks for yours Duas I really do appreciate it.

format_quote Originally Posted by Woodrow

OOOps, I did not read this before I did my above reply.

That sounds like wanting vengence. Very understandable. but, let Allaah(swt) handle the vengence, he is much better at it. Also keep in mind, you have gained, you are on the path to have your sin removed, while Mr. Idiot is blindly going forward into deeper sin.

Alhumdullilah... that has put a bit of light in my heart. Thank you.

format_quote Originally Posted by Umm ul-Shaheed

sorry sis, why do you want someone who doesnt want you? really, do explain to me, cos i dont get it! if someone doesn't want you, why are you wasting your energy on them?

and secondly as mentioned, ask for forgiveness before anything

Sis, you will only understand this when you have loved someone so much and they don't love you in return.

You CAN love someone even if they don't love you in return. Love is a very strong feeling and you can't just snap out of it because the other person doesn't love you. It takes time to move on and so what if I am making Dua for him to love me, i'm allowed to have some hope, there is no harm in that.

format_quote Originally Posted by Umm ul-Shaheed

i dont differ with you. what i dont get, is why do you want them to love you back when they don't feel the same

i thought it wudda been easier to move on if the other person didnt feel the same.

Let me explain again,

It doesn't make it any easier for me to move on just because he doesn't love me, in fact it makes it that little bit harder. You know how that saying goes "We always want the things we can't have" and "The less they give, the more we want". I hope that clears it up for you.