I have a friend, she's an unwed christian. She got pregnant by a muslim boyfriend. Her boyfriend wants the baby to be aborted, is it haraam? Should the baby be a muslim or a christian? Can somebody give advice to my friend?
No matter what happen, I will deliver the baby at any risk, even if it means taking my life.
For him, I really don't know.. Maybe, if I will be given the opportunity to talk to his family, then I will tell them the truth what really happened up to last moment I talked with him. Then, it's all up to them whether to hate him, advise him, etc.
Actually, I just want him to acknowledge our baby especially in case something happens to me. Even if he will not take the baby with him, at least, my baby knows who is his father and that he has a father. Financial support is just a second thing.
Hopefully, I can think of better ways. Thanks to everyone who has given their time to give me advises. I really appreciate you guys.
In the name of Allah , Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Salaam/peace
format_quote Originally Posted by pipay
No matter what happen, I will deliver the baby at any risk, .
It's better if u go back to your country now. Facing tension so much alone in a foreign county is not good for the health of yourself & your baby. U may go for other legal steps later.
What your parents & other family members want you do now ? Go back to them or stay here & may face legal punishment ?
Christ will never be proud to reject to be a slave to God .....holy Quran, chapter Women , 4: 172
They want me to keep my baby.. I will go back to my country for delivery and come back here in Dubai after a few months to support my baby. My mom said that I can leave my baby with her and my father so that I will not be worried and I agreed. My family is very supportive to me.
My boss and my colleagues knows that i am pregnant. Some of them are asking about my husband and I told them that he was here before but decided to go to other foreign country because he has a better offer there.
In the name of Allah , the Most Gracious , Ever Merciful
Salaam/ Peace
format_quote Originally Posted by pipay
My boss and my colleagues knows that i am pregnant. Some of them are asking about my husband and I told them that he was here before but decided to go to other foreign country because he has a better offer there.
yak , so many tensions ...very sorry that because of a Muslim , you are facing so much troubles . I hope , u won't start hating all Muslims
Christ will never be proud to reject to be a slave to God .....holy Quran, chapter Women , 4: 172
yak , so many tensions ...very sorry that because of a Muslim , you are facing so much troubles . I hope , u won't start hating all Muslims
Well honestly, i did (just an initial reaction from humans) but then as time goes by I came to realize that not all people are the same. I just want to get out of this situation for the meantime and after i give birth, I will face whatever I need to face.
Life is just too ironic. Last sunday I was surprised because he was waiting for me down my office building and he told me that he will drop me home. I don't want to argue wiht him in front of my colleagues because they might come to know that we have had a relationship before (because we agreed to finish up everything and nobody in my office knows about the relationship). Before I got down the car he asked me so many questions about my male colleagues and he told me not to talk like that to them and not to entertain any friendship to any males. I asked him if he is jealous and he told me no and changed the topic. He even told me to keep myself at home and never talk to strangers (well, i have my own mind and thinking, right?). Whenever i asked him if he is jealous, he's changing the topic.
I've got a small accident this week and had a bandage at my left arm. He sent me a message late night asking what happened at my arm. I didn't answer. The next day he asked again. I said "why? u told me that u don't care about me". He said yes, but he just want to know what happened. Is he crazy? :rolleyes: Why is he acting this way?
I wish you the best of luck with your situation. Allah does not burden us with more than we can cope. InshAllah all will be ok for you, at leastyou have the love and support of your family. Ameen....................
In answer to your question 'why does he behave this way' .................. All men do.........they just cannot show their feelings and express themselves a easily as women..................
In answer to your question 'why does he behave this way' .................. All men do.........they just cannot show their feelings and express themselves a easily as women..................
but what does it mean? if he cares about me then why should he tell me again and again that he doesn't instead of just shutting up and hurting my feelings? and one time when i tries to take off some dirt from his shirt, he removed my hand and told me not to show any love to him, i didn't say a word. Why? Men doesn't know when they hurt???????:mad:
Sigh...this dude is just driving you nuts, do u want that?? His wife didnt know about u so im guessing he doesnt care about her, so how does he care about you? I'm not trying to like make u feel bad or anything, it's just something that came to mind. I mean if he cared, would he have done ANY of this...I believe not...
I really, truly hope ALL the very best to you sister. We will be here for u whenever u need us. tc
May your baby be the coolness of ur eyesss InshaAllah
*Without Allah, without Islam, life would be meaningless. If I've ever learned patience, it's because of this. Alhamdulillah...*
I have to agree with Light of Heaven, pipay's friend.
Much as you may be infatuated with this guy, he sounds like trouble!
My advice would be to let him go!
Peace glo
Here I stand.
I can do no other.
May God help me.
Amen.
Come, let us worship and bow down •
and kneel before the Lord our Maker
[Psalm 95]
i already agreed for us to separate. but why do he need to bother me from time to time? why can't he just shut himself up and run away from me as far as he could? sometimes i really want to call his wife, maybe in that way he will stop bothering me. can i?
i already agreed for us to separate. but why do he need to bother me from time to time? why can't he just shut himself up and run away from me as far as he could? sometimes i really want to call his wife, maybe in that way he will stop bothering me. can i?
Just be firm with him, pipay's friend. Tell him you want no more contact (if that is what you have decided). Don't answer his calls, don't speak to him. You can always threaten to tell his wife - perhaps that will deter him.
The problem is, when I hear you talk about this guy, I detect that you may still have feelings for him ...
That's something you will have to deal with, and be quite clear in your mind what it actually is that you want.
Take care.
Peace glo
Here I stand.
I can do no other.
May God help me.
Amen.
Come, let us worship and bow down •
and kneel before the Lord our Maker
[Psalm 95]
yes glo, i admit that i still have feelings with him. but i cannot take this feeling out of my heart in just one day. that's why i really don't want to see him again and never to bother me.
next time if he comes in front of u , on behalf of me , give him this gift
Seriously ....he should bear all the expenses , what's his excuse for not giving u the cost ??
hehehe. from where you got that icon? don't worry, as soon as my injured arm got well, i'll give him as much as i can..
before he asked me if it's ok that he will give financial support but through another person. he will not show his face to me or even call me. maybe only once in six months. i said that is very well fine to me. but he didn't finished tha talk, he changed the topic and when i tried to put that topic again, he's not answering anymore.. i don't know why....
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I wish you the best of luck with your situation. Allah does not burden us with more than we can cope. InshAllah all will be ok for you, at leastyou have the love and support of your family. Ameen....................
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