unwed mother

thanks to all of u. i still have difficulty in sleeping. my body didn't adjust yet in the climate and time (4 hours difference from Dubai). but then i feel really good especially with my nephew. he's talking to my baby (tummy) everyday. he's too excited. i wish him to come out early so that we will have plenty of time together. thanks for you prayers..

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Still can't sleep properly, I don't know why. Maybe because of the weather, ambiance, excitement, pain, nervousness, etc. or all of the above. According to my doctor, I will deliver my baby anytime now. I'M SO EXCITED!!!

Hi everyone! I gave birth last week, 2 weeks earlier than my due date. It's a boy! I'm so happy to see him although he gave me too much pain in the labor room , the feeling is so different. I feel so blessed (although he looks more like his father ). I can feel the overwhelming love and care inside me. He's so sweet and seems to understand everything I say.
Thanks for all your prayers..

the punishment for it in most islamic countries is stoning to death, it is haram in the first place.

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hi. i'm pipay's friend. she allowed me to use her account so that i can understand everything well (hope it's allowed).

Actually, I went on vacation last december to my country but before that, my boyfriend forced me to have sex with him for his security. He's thinking that I will no longer be back. After my vacation, I came to know that I'm pregnant and he refuse to admit the truth. One night, he ask me to marry him, then I said yes. Suddenly he told me that he is already married and his family will not allow him to marry to a foreign country. I told him to end the relationship but until now, he doesn't want to let me go.

One day, he told me to abort the baby and I said no. I cannot let myself commit another sin and mistake in my life. I cannot correct a mistake with another mistake. This is life, this is human, I cannot kill my own baby. Sometimes, he's telling me that one day he may be lost, gone back to pakistan because of my decision to let the baby live. I'm afraid to lose him because practically I need his support for our baby.

Please advise me. Do he need to ask permission from his wife and family to marry me? What if she didn't agree? Is there any cases of "secret" second marriage? What if the first wife came to know that his husband has a second wife? Would that be void? If marrying is not possible, should my baby be a muslim or a christian?

first of all hes already a married man with a family he commited zina with you. don't bother this man again. you got preganant. it was your own decision at the end of the day to sleep with him.. this is not the question here weather the baby should be muslim or not,leave this with god. no human will know now what will become of this child with a father like that. you were never marrried with him in the first place. if he wants you to do all these selfish things,and still meet up with you and want an affair only i would suggest you leave him and live alone with your baby.

he will get his punishment you don't worry about that..because if he don't show you to islam and marry you.. theres no hope for this child at all, and the future generation, theres little hope. he willl reap what he sows..that will be the result of your foolish decision anyway of sleeping with him. on the other hand if he comes to you and says to you i want to marry you as a second wife well its good however the first wife must know about. if he tell you i want to marry you in secret. this guy is no good or worth it to a life of miseery with.

its not the best advice you are getting from others. you can't just decide to convert now because you got pregnant. it dosen't work like that at all. YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE IN IT!

thanks to all your support. i will try my best to give all the love and affection and be both a mother and a father to him.

Ramadan Mubarak to all the muslims here!!