Well i posted a thread abowt homeschooling
BUT
its really not working for me..i did try to go school this week but I only went for half a day (half of wednesday) and it was mostly a meeting about things...after that I had the choice on wether to go or not.
Ok, basically, my parents have 0 patience and alot of time. They dont work, because my dad lost his job, and I gave up in the second day and said:
'Know what, no one in this family will get n e where. Were all gonna fail so lets jus take the shortcut..'
so i give up, i really dont care about the education bit anymore, but i do care about my social life (may god rest its soul). I MEAN, i used to be a social person. i used to hang out with my friends after school everyday.
My parents are tryna get me into a muslim school, here.
But that wont be til next yr.
Anyway, my new school was mixed and thing is, even though im strong, you cant really be that strong if theres a really fit boy talkin to you..next tym ur gonna want to talk to him, then touch him...etc.
So thats why i pulled my self out. Cuz i could see jus where I was gnna go..the first day I started a whole group of boys came up and started asking me questions and tellin me how 'boom' i looked and i felt trapped but then all my new girlfriends came along and told them to go away pretty sharply.
but u see what I mean...me going to school will lead me only to trouble and sin.
So i thought...best to stay here.
but now its horrible and boring and i feel sooo lame and tired of it all and depressed.
Helppppp?! I can jump from the frying pan to the fire, or jus stay in the frying pan for another...3 months, thats if the skl accept me considering my appaling behaviour record!
sister nebula said it well. The thing is sister feeling attraction toward boys/men will always be there. I have to live with feeling attracted to women and it's not so bad.
It can be difficult at times but if you lower your gaze, go around people with good morals, and be realistic about life then everything will turn out good insha'Allah.
I remember back in puberty I felt so much pressure. It was kind of crazy. You get these new desires that were not there before and you feel like you cannot go on anymore. There is some good news when you turn into an adult things will calm down and it will be much easier to handle it. Best wishes.
but bro i dont wear hijab and am not yet ready to so thats not an option and people think im 'that' type of girl.
and bro their arent any of the good people ur talkin bout in my school...i dont like the boys they like me! and u get alooot of unwanted attention especially when ur hangin out alone and not with ur friends..anotha thing when i was at skl i forgot all bout islam and allah and jus focused on other things like..my hair, going out, etc!
but bro i dont wear hijab and am not yet ready to so thats not an option and people think im 'that' type of girl.
and bro their arent any of the good people ur talkin bout in my school...i dont like the boys they like me! and u get alooot of unwanted attention especially when ur hangin out alone and not with ur friends..anotha thing when i was at skl i forgot all bout islam and allah and jus focused on other things like..my hair, going out, etc!
maybe i shud jus get ova myself lol
uktih maybe you should make yourself ready, when you wear the hijab inshallah you'll see things change inshallah! May Allah protect you ameen
Ops I am sorry brother nebula. I will remember that for next time.
idk where do you live? What country? There must be some good muslims around you, no? Also, do you do something that makes boys think it's ok to talk to you? (i.e. maybe you show that you like it and it encourages their behaviour)
I'd say do go to school, it's benefits outweigh any potential losses, and you probably felt that way because it was your first time, just hang out with the other girls in class, being in a group of even two or three should usually deter unwanted attention.
^ don't smile at them sis that may encourage them e.g they may think 'she smiled at me cool i'm in there now i think she likes me' type of thing... no?
wa/salam
سلامة الإنسان في حلاوة اللسان
The safety of a human is in the sweetness of his tongue.
بسم الله الذي لا يضرّ مع اسمه شيءٌ في الأرضِ و لا في السّماءِ و هو السّميعُ العليم
Anyway, my new school was mixed and thing is, even though im strong, you cant really be that strong if theres a really fit boy talkin to you..next tym ur gonna want to talk to him, then touch him...etc.
See that just shows you're not actually that 'strong' you're just the opposite, see anyone can play a girl these days its so easy and I've seen it done so many times by 'muslims', usually asian girls are the weakest and easily influenced; a few laughs together a few smiles and the stupid girl will fall for even the ugliest bugger with a hairstyle and new clothes. If you were strong, you'd be raw with anyone tryin that, you'd tell them to f off(not that a muslim should do, but you know what I mean) and make them feel like shiite, thats what I do anyway, make em feel ugly and nasty so they'll keep their distance for next time
the first day I started a whole group of boys came up and started asking me questions and tellin me how 'boom' i looked and i felt trapped but then all my new girlfriends came along and told them to go away pretty sharply.
'boom' lol - did you look like you were about to detonate? you mean 'bum'. Don't mind me asking, what were you wearing? I'll tell you now if you dressed and acted like a proper 'hijabi' and not a 'hoejabi' then lads would not look at you twice. Boys can and will easily interpet any girl if shes not not wearing loose clothes. And muslim guys are aware of 'hoejabis', if you even smile at a guy then in his eyes you are a slag and a potential target, so watch it
The best way to deal with guys is to pretend they don't exist. That sounds kind of mean, but it's not really. Smile at them, they get interested, glare at them, they get interested, but stare straight past them... always works for me!
sister, theres a massive test in the big wide world, what happens when your out on the street, isnt there more guys about . Obviously your in school age now and boys will hit on you.
BOYS . When your get around college age, MEN yes MEN not boys, are going to hit on you.
Well done for at least realising it is a problem, and asking for advice, a lot of girls dont think its a big problem.
people might take it wrong and think im, a you know, lezbo.
you really shouldn't care about what people think, trust me, they are not worth it.
And as for the onewho fears standing in front of His Lord and restrainsthe soul from impure evil desires and lusts, verily, Paradise will be his abode [79:40-41]
inshallah, i wish it will..
school is jus so bleurgh, i cant deal wit goin into a building everyday and comin out havin learned nothing...i just dont learn the textbook way, i like findin out myself, and seeing things, so if we was doin science, biology, id rather go check out a zoo and see the way the animals lived rather than learn bout how they lived from a few faded pictures off a old textbook.
As well, i seriousely doubt that im gonna get anywhere cuz ive already missed half of the gcses.
Whoops
I think i'll put myself in the 'special needs' kids section, not cuz am mentally - ya know, but cuz i need special attention or an interesting, physical lesson otherwise am jus gonna zone out tha whole thing.
So id rather hav someone one to one me and stuff rather than do all the 'whole class' crap.
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