Does Allah swt still love me? for the sake of Allah swt plz help

Assalam alaykum,

Are you regular in salah? Salah is the first of the obligatory acts you will be questioned about. But the benefits of salah aren't only for the hereafter. Salah helps to keep one away from sins. If you pray attentively, it also balances your emotions and relaxes the mind. You should also make lots of dikhr and recite al Quran as much as you can as there is healing in it and Allah, subhana wa ta 'ala has told us that it is in His rememberence that we find peace. InshaAllah, as you start feeling stronger and purer spiritually, you will feel more positive and confident about everything. Once you, feel positive in general, people will feel more comfortable around you.

The thing is, negative people are draining. Being around them makes a person feel tired as it saps their energy. People who are negative are seen as 'toxic' by psychologists. That should stress the impact negative people have on others. Imagine you are outside of your body and can see yourself and how you behave. Imagine hearing the negative comments and the lack of enthusiasm. Ask yourself. would you like to be around yourself for very long?

Do something in life. Be a go-getter. Who cares if you fail. At least you'll have tried. At the end of the day, what is there to lose? The whole world is there. A million and one things to do. Don't waste your life doing nothing. Doing something for others is also doing something for yourself.

^ Nice reply mashallah

format_quote Originally Posted by Scents of Jannah

Assalam alaykum,

Are you regular in salah? Salah is the first of the obligatory acts you will be questioned about. But the benefits of salah aren't only for the hereafter. Salah helps to keep one away from sins. If you pray attentively, it also balances your emotions and relaxes the mind. You should also make lots of dikhr and recite al Quran as much as you can as there is healing in it and Allah, subhana wa ta 'ala has told us that it is in His rememberence that we find peace. InshaAllah, as you start feeling stronger and purer spiritually, you will feel more positive and confident about everything. Once you, feel positive in general, people will feel more comfortable around you.

The thing is, negative people are draining. Being around them makes a person feel tired as it saps their energy. People who are negative are seen as 'toxic' by psychologists. That should stress the impact negative people have on others. Imagine you are outside of your body and can see yourself and how you behave. Imagine hearing the negative comments and the lack of enthusiasm. Ask yourself. would you like to be around yourself for very long?

Do something in life. Be a go-getter. Who cares if you fail. At least you'll have tried. At the end of the day, what is there to lose? The whole world is there. A million and one things to do. Don't waste your life doing nothing. Doing something for others is also doing something for yourself.

The bits highlighted is NOT very good advice at all. You will only make him/her feel worse. Do you think 'negative' people WANT to be negatve? The fact that 'anonymous' has admitted and accepted that he/she is depressed and having a negative affect on others which is great BUT you have to be very careful with when speaking to depressed people.


Maybe the people around this person are very optimistic which is also very good of course, but that might not always have a good affect on the person who is negative/depressed. They just want someone to understand what they're feeling and what they're going through, not people who brush them to the side.

Anonymous - the people who have turned away from you, are not very good people in my opinion, they should be there for you through thick and thin no matter what your mood is like. They're not worthy of being part of your life if thats what they do, I'm sorry but they sound heartless.

Please make sure you don't miss or delay your salah, wake up in the last third of the night and make sincere dua, Allah WILL listen. You have to be patient, as hard as it may seem, you HAVE to do it, what else can you do? You have to believe that Allah's help will come one day. Be in this life or the next.

I'm not going to pretend like others and say oh don't worry life will get better blah blah blah, I don't know that for sure and they don;t know that either, but some people just like to make others feel better by saying things like that even though they haven't got a clue. Only Allah knows. Some people suffer a great deal in they're lives, but it's for their own good and they will only see the reason behind it in the next life. Some people get relieved of their hardships sometime in this life, but then another calamity befalls them, again this is for their own good.

Don't ever lose faith in Allah and never give up on dua.

may Allah help you bro/sis.

jazakallah khair to everyone. Scent of Jannah jazkallah khair sister is funny because it took people leaving me to realise that i need to change, you never know what you got until they gone, however i have always been by people side though thick and thin so i just expected the same.

Anon jazkallah khair for the advice i though it was a bit heartless, funnily enough i am now closer to Allah swt. lol isnt it funny? I am alone dont have any friends yet i am slowly getting my iman back. Allah swt does love me maybe it took her leaving me to make me a stronger person?

Gossamer no sis we clicked we were friends for 6 years thats why is hard i feel unappreciated but Allah swt knows best.

Lamees i think he does.

LoL guys i am not this horrible negative person i have many good qualities to me but unfortunetly people over looked it and concentrated on the negative thanks to my depression. Allah swt knows best.

I sended this sister a text asking for forgiveness and quote Surah Al noor to remind that Allah swt forgives so should we. she didnt reply but ALHAMDULLAH i am glad i asked for forgiveness.

Salam Alikom,

Your post shows how depressed you are; however, what you fail to see in my opinion is your insight and your progress! You have not only successfully identified your problem( negativity ) admitted your current state ( depression ); this is half the fight...

You also spoke of times where you cry without reason and your loneliness; in order to end that i suggest you join some club(s), where you can release that negative energy by either hitting a dummy( if you do martial arts ), or express your emotions in paintings( if you take art classes ). The latter will enable you to release your energy in a health and productive manner instead of spending the whole day in some dark room alone. I know this because I have been where you are and i can confidently say it ends. Another benefit is that you will have the chance to make new friends and maybe that can lead to other healthy social activities; which will eventually reveal to you that theres alot to live for and not much time to waste it on depression.

After releasing your energy it is very important to meditate; since you are a muslim I will assume that the importance of worship is already established; but just to emphasize do as other brothers and sisters have advised: remember to pray 5 times and do it with all your heart, night time is time where it is easy to get depressed because you are alone, in a state where it encourages you to submit to your emotions; but you should used that time in Salat Al Lyl where you have a chance to 'open up' to Allah ( SWT ). Before you pray Fajir, read at least 5 pages of the Holy Koran because there is cure in it as someone earlier mentioned; especially for 'spiritual dieases'.

You have also asked why Allah ( SWT ) has showed signs in which point to or tell people to leave you. I am not God but i will try my best to show His divine wisdom on this issue. Maybe He recognizes the limits of your friends and they may not be the right people to solve you problem, maybe He wants you to learn not to be negative & make you stronger by making endure this trial. Maybe you are dragging your friends down and endangering them spiritually. Maybe God has chosen to punish you now rather than in the after life due to His infinite mercy, wisdom & LOVE FOR YOU.

I hope I have helped you, keep me updated with your situation & status as I may be able to offer even more inshallah.

Peace

format_quote Originally Posted by Jafari_4_Life

Salam Alikom,

Your post shows how depressed you are; however, what you fail to see in my opinion is your insight and your progress! You have not only successfully identified your problem( negativity ) admitted your current state ( depression ); this is half the fight...

You also spoke of times where you cry without reason and your loneliness; in order to end that i suggest you join some club(s), where you can release that negative energy by either hitting a dummy( if you do martial arts ), or express your emotions in paintings( if you take art classes ). The latter will enable you to release your energy in a health and productive manner instead of spending the whole day in some dark room alone. I know this because I have been where you are and i can confidently say it ends. Another benefit is that you will have the chance to make new friends and maybe that can lead to other healthy social activities; which will eventually reveal to you that theres alot to live for and not much time to waste it on depression.

After releasing your energy it is very important to meditate; since you are a muslim I will assume that the importance of worship is already established; but just to emphasize do as other brothers and sisters have advised: remember to pray 5 times and do it with all your heart, night time is time where it is easy to get depressed because you are alone, in a state where it encourages you to submit to your emotions; but you should used that time in Salat Al Lyl where you have a chance to 'open up' to Allah ( SWT ). Before you pray Fajir, read at least 5 pages of the Holy Koran because there is cure in it as someone earlier mentioned; especially for 'spiritual dieases'.

You have also asked why Allah ( SWT ) has showed signs in which point to or tell people to leave you. I am not God but i will try my best to show His divine wisdom on this issue. Maybe He recognizes the limits of your friends and they may not be the right people to solve you problem, maybe He wants you to learn not to be negative & make you stronger by making endure this trial. Maybe you are dragging your friends down and endangering them spiritually. Maybe God has chosen to punish you now rather than in the after life due to His infinite mercy, wisdom & LOVE FOR YOU.

I hope I have helped you, keep me updated with your situation & status as I may be able to offer even more inshallah.

Peace

Jazkllah khair. Allah swt knows best. I tend to rely on people for emotional support I guess i have to be strong now and rely on Allah swt. I am hurt but alhamdullah getting stronger. may Allah swt reward you all for your effort.

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jazakallah khair to everyone. Scent of Jannah jazkallah khair sister is funny because it took people leaving me to realise that i need to change, you never know what you got until they gone, however i have always been by people side though thick and thin so i just expected the same.

In a way sis, if these things didn't happen to us, we'd never realise that the only one we can rely on totally is Allah subhana wa ta'la. When I remember all those people who have wronged me, I see that their actions made me realise how fickle man is and that makes me closer to Allah. No matter how much you do for them, they never think twice before wronging you. Very few friendships stand the test of time. A very good friend of mine, who was related to my best friend but had fallen out with her, accused me of doing blackmajic on her. Her logic? That when she fell out with my best friend, I hadn't visited her in those days! I didn't even know they'd fallen out as I was in one of my periods of 'hibernation' and it was pure coincidence that I hadn't contacted her. It hurt so bad, I went to see her, but she said she asked a fortune-teller and he said me and my best friend had done black majic on her. It's so absurd, that I have to laugh. I dealt with the hurt by talking some sense into myself and telling myself that she is just not worth my friendship. Life is an on-going learning process and at this stage, I have learnt well that, no matter how reliable, trustworthy and sincere someone may seem, they are still not infallible and can make mistakes anytime. Me including. Which goes to open our eyes and see that only and only Allah is Perfect. And at the end of the day, He is all that matters.

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Jazkllah khair. Allah swt knows best. I tend to rely on people for emotional support I guess i have to be strong now and rely on Allah swt. I am hurt but alhamdullah getting stronger. may Allah swt reward you all for your effort.

MashaAllah sis. It's good to hear you saying that. That's all you need to do sis. May Allah be your friend always. Ameen <3

She replied to my text saying that i am a sicko who shouldnt quote Allah swt words to suit me. I am evil..horrible..jelous..muslims should stay awat from me, Ya Allah swt. anyways you get the picture, very hurtful comments. When i asked for forgiveness it was from my heart I swear by Allah swt.
I ignored it did not text back. I am worried that she might try to spread negative things about me to other sisters.

U dont need people like that - why dont u talk to the people who care about u, rather than going after the people who dont give a c.r.a.p
why dont u talk to the people who want to know how u r, want to understand how u feel, want to help u