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    Muslim man shaking womens hands - how do I avoid it?

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    Right,

    I am a muslim man, and work in an enviroment where I am constantly meeting new people, both men and women. And obviously I have to shake their hands and greet them and often they extend me their hands.

    Which I am now really really worried about because by chance I found a post where someone said: (not this site)

    "Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h.) said: “ If one of you were to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle, it would be better for him than touching a woman whom he is not permitted to touch”. And the Prophet (p.b.u.h.) also said: “ Whoever touches the hand of woman, who is not permissible for him, he would be handed a burning coal the day of resurrection”. "

    What can I do if it were just the same women I could maybe sit her down and tell them and give them the islamic reasoning(which I entirely agree with), buts its new people all the time.

    I cant not shake their hands and come across rude, can I?????

    Thank you

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    Re: Muslim man shaking womens hands - how do I avoid it?

    Brother just tell them that my religion does not allow me to shake hands with the opposite sex.

    Simple. I have said that and it has worked for me many times, in fact they even respect me because I say that.

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    Re: Muslim man shaking womens hands - how do I avoid it?

    Where are you living brother ?.
    Except shaking hands, is there another style of greeting that you can use ?.

    I'm living in Southeast Asia, and when I meet a woman I never shake her hand but I use a traditional style greeting without touching her hand.

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    Re: Muslim man shaking womens hands - how do I avoid it?

    Even when I first meet someone?

    It could be a little awkward, that all me colleagues shake a group of peoples hands but when it comes to me and greeting the opposite sex, I say sorry I cant? (I dont mind trying lol)

    It is a non muslims environment I work in, could that not appear a little sexiest to non-muslims? Even after I explained why, the may see it as oppressive. How do you recommend I explain it (like exact word-for-word of what I would say please)

    and then if I did explain it that could get a little embarrassing for the persons, whom i did shake hands with.

    I just want to re-say that I completely agree with this islamically, but I dont want to portray myself in a way that gives my religion a negative appearance.

    thanks

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    Re: Muslim man shaking womens hands - how do I avoid it?

    I just say hello or good morning/afternoon to avoid shaking hands with them. It works all the time.
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    Re: Muslim man shaking womens hands - how do I avoid it?

    format_quote Originally Posted by Guestfellow View Post
    I just say hello or good morning/afternoon to avoid shaking hands with them. It works all the time.
    Thats what I do when I can, but what when they extend their hand to shake.

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    Re: Muslim man shaking womens hands - how do I avoid it?

    format_quote Originally Posted by Guestfellow View Post
    I just say hello or good morning/afternoon to avoid shaking hands with them. It works all the time.
    Good Idea.

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    Re: Muslim man shaking womens hands - how do I avoid it?

    format_quote Originally Posted by ardianto View Post
    Good Idea.
    Yea, thats actually perfect lol. Never really thought of that.

    I shall give it a go lol lol

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    Re: Muslim man shaking womens hands - how do I avoid it?

    format_quote Originally Posted by ardianto View Post
    Good Idea.
    ya it worked thanxxxxx

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    Re: Muslim man shaking womens hands - how do I avoid it?

    You can do several things:

    - You can put your hands behind your back and give a nod of the head to acknowledge them.
    - You can put your hand on your heart which is common in the Middle East.
    - You can just explain to them the reasons why you can't shake hands of the opposite sex. Whatever you do, don't say "its because you're a woman" because they will get the wrong idea and deem you to be anti-female.
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    Re: Muslim man shaking womens hands - how do I avoid it?

    just tell them nicely with a big bling smile 'sorry I don't shake hands'. Surprisingly 100% of the Non-Muslim men I come across show understanding/respect for this. Many will even ask me be4 hand 'u don't shake hands do u' wen I answer no they say that they don't mind.

    It's all about ur attitude/energy u portray.
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    Re: Muslim man shaking womens hands - how do I avoid it?

    This is what I do, just look em in the eyes and pretend you can't see their hands or carry stuff in both hands so you don't have any free hands to shake brapp! brapp!

    sometimes I just ignore em straight and leave them hanging, then they can work it out, bruv if you have a beard it might make them think about it themselves

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    Re: Muslim man shaking womens hands - how do I avoid it?

    In western culture, the handshake means so many positive things and refusal to shake that extended hand brings many negative connotations. Like it or not that is fact, it is right at the top in terms of importance as part of that culture. You are deluding yourself if you think that it will not be badly received. Another part of that culture is being polite and not making someone feel uncomfortable and that’s when people will tell you that “they understand” and “it’s perfectly alright;” they don’t understand and they will perceive you as culturally incompatible with them. That’s just the way people are, it would be the same in a Muslims country if someone did something which was similarly contra culture.

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    Re: Muslim man shaking womens hands - how do I avoid it?

    format_quote Originally Posted by bamboozled View Post
    Thats what I do when I can, but what when they extend their hand to shake.
    lol idk... :/

    Though with girls, I tend to be at distant from them. If I have to work with a girl, I tend to avoid to having close contact with them. They don't notice it at all.

    format_quote Originally Posted by ardianto View Post
    Good Idea.
    Thanks :P
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    Re: Muslim man shaking womens hands - how do I avoid it?

    salaam. whenever this happens to me, but the other way round with a guy i just simply say 'sorry i don't shake hands' and they usually understand and apologise for putting out there hand! lol and if they ask why, just give them an honest answer, it'l make them more aware next time. although no1 has asked me why theyre usually (actually all the time) very understanding. after all to greet someone you dont have to make unncessary physical contact. im in a profession wich requires a lot of contact with people from al walks of life and they usually hold out there hand to be greeted so its no big deal telling them how it is.......hope that helps

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    Re: Muslim man shaking womens hands - how do I avoid it?

    i went to view a property today and didnt expect a mushrik sikh woman to turn up, anyway she extended her hand and i just thought is she muslim? she should know we dont shake hands.

    So i said "Sorry i'm muslim i dont shake hands with women"

    She was like "Oh. Ok."

    But we carried on as though nothing happened.

    Then the muslim guy (has a beard) who is the land lord of the property, walks up and shakes hands with the woman!!

    I'm left thinking, there's me trying to give dawah by example and this silly person ruins it all.

    What impression of islam must she have been left with?

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    Re: Muslim man shaking womens hands - how do I avoid it?

    just tell them u have a rare skin disease which effects others if they touch you. muahaaahahahahahahah

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    Re: Muslim man shaking womens hands - how do I avoid it?

    format_quote Originally Posted by The_Prince View Post
    just tell them u have a rare skin disease which effects others if they touch you. muahaaahahahahahahah
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    Re: Muslim man shaking womens hands - how do I avoid it?

    Yeah I think you should just simple clarify it to them and tell them straight forwardly that you can't shake hands with the opposite gender. This happened to my dad once when he came to college for parents evening and my teacher extended her hand and my dad was like:'' I don't want to be perceived as being rude person but I can't shake hands''. And she was like totally fine with it. I hope it helps Insha'Allah.
    Salaam alaikum..

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    Re: Muslim man shaking womens hands - how do I avoid it?

    AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

    Alhamdulilah!! Good pratical advices.

    Its an issue that needs to be dealt with

    Just be honest. Keep it short and simple. No need to give a lecture.....

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