Sometimes we don't fancy eating a particular food even if we're allowed it. That shouldn't give anyone reason to be suspicious. Just say you don't feel like ham sandwiches today.
You really should tell your wife you're a muslim. But, do it after the party - don't want a domestic! Until then, simply avoid eating the pork sandwhiches.
Someone said to the Prophet, "Pray to God against the idolaters and curse them." The Prophet replied, "I have been sent to show mercy and have not been sent to curse." (Muslim)
Your wife has the right to know that you have been guided to the true path,as soon as possible. But,do it after the party as you might not know what to expect. You should give her the English translation of the Holy book the Qura'an. Give her Hadeeths and specific reasons why you converted into Islam. If she is loyal to you,she must convert or else you may have to divorce her. Give her sometime to intake the pressure. Be patient and gentle while explaining to her clearly on what Islam really is rather than a few sterotype views. Be determined to convert her. The best time is during the month of Ramadhan because the Shaitayn is locked up and your faith in Allah is high. Keep your trust and faith in Allah. Make dua that she converts onto the path of truth and fully understands the aspects of Islam. If she has any doubts ask her to write them down. Ask the ones you think we can answer here and the more scholarly ones on websites such as (www.askimam.org) May Allah give you the will to convert your wife and immensly grant all of us Paradise. Ameen. May Allahs blessings be upon you two. Ameen.
BTW you really should tell your wife you're a Muslim as soon as possible. Tell her when she is calm and relaxed.
I was looking at myself talking to myself and I realized this conversation...I was having with myself looking at myself was a conversation with myself that I needed to have with myself.
and in future you should buy meat from the halal meat shop for when your having party next time because it would not be fair on your wife to go through all that bother of making something you will not eat
you should really tell your wife you are muslim.. i think you people do not open up? most married couples are like best friends also they are free and open with eachother but i think yous are not like this?
i will make make duaa Allah makes things easy for you, Ameen
Have you considered getting a third party involved?
I was looking at myself talking to myself and I realized this conversation...I was having with myself looking at myself was a conversation with myself that I needed to have with myself.
^ A mediator or a counsellor could help you ease the communication with your wife...even a friend or a relative could help you explain to your wife you're a Muslim.
It might help.
I was looking at myself talking to myself and I realized this conversation...I was having with myself looking at myself was a conversation with myself that I needed to have with myself.
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for a party.
i don't communicate a lot with my wife
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