Tell the police. CCTV cameras may have caught this idiot in the act.
last night whilst walking to taraweeh on a dark and deserted road with my female cousin, a guy suddenly came out of some dark corner and .....how should i say this.....well indecently exposed himself....he was asian, possibly muslim..i think he saw us coming and since i was fully covered, thought he would get a kick out of shocking us.
unfortuantely i will not be going to the mosque to pray taraweeh anymore, and i dont feel safe where i live , ....its an area full of crime, drugs and bad people.
What saddens and sickens me the most is that this guy, was probably 17/18 or something, and can go home and mingle and be normal, and no one will know what he has done, he must have a mother and sisters and family, and being an asian boy they prob think the world of him....which sickens me.
my poor cousin is only 15...and she panicked so badly, because ofcourse she assumed we were going to get raped, she nearly ran into traffic.She had tears in her eyes and was shaking and could not read her prayers, so we had to miss them and instead i took her and sat in the washroom area comforting her.
the worst thing was had to walk back down that way,we were terrified and we kept thinking he would still be there, so we held hands and ran all the way down, passing the canal where the boys usually go to do drugs and past the pub which for once didnt have drunken men outside it.
...sometimes i really hate being a vunerable, fragile girl.
Tell the police. CCTV cameras may have caught this idiot in the act.
May Allah protect all the sisters of the Ummah from the shayteens. Ameen.
Sayyida Umm Salama (Allah be pleased with her) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “The best Mosque for a woman is the inner part of her home.” (Musnad Ahmad & Tabrani)
Sayyiduna Abd Allah ibn Umar (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “Do not prevent your womenfolk from attending the Mosque, even though their houses are better for them.” (Sunan Abu Dawud)
Sayyida Umm Salama (Allah be pleased with her) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “A woman’s prayer in her inner room is better than her prayer in the outside room, and her prayer in the outside room is better than her prayer in the courtyard, and her prayer in the courtyard is better than her prayer in the Mosque.” (Mu’jam of Imam Tabrani)
“And stay in your houses, and make not a dazzling display, like that of the former times of ignorance; and establish regular Prayer, and give regular Charity; and obey Allah and His Messenger. And Allah only wishes to remove all abomination from you, O members of the Family, and to make you pure and spotless.” (Surah al-Ahzab, V: 33)
Sayyiduna Umar ibn al-Khattab (Allah be pleased with him) in his time felt that the concession given to women for attending the congregational prayers in the Mosque is sometimes being misused and could be misused even more in the future. He felt that women were no longer taking care of the Shariah requirements as they used to in the time of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace), and he was also aware of the fact that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) advised women to offer their prayers at home. Hence, keeping all of the above in mind, he issued a verdict that women should no longer attend congregational prayers in the Masjid, and this decision of his was collectively accepted by the other Companions. (See: Ayni, Umdat al-Qari, 3/228)
It is better for women to pray at home and especially so when we know there is danger going out after dark without a mahram accompanying you. I hope you both get over this frightening incident soon. Ameen.
May Allah give him what he deserves, especially if the idiot was muslim. I can't imagine a muslim doin that over here.
Don't let some faasiq or kafir spoil your chance to pray taraweh and earn rewards in this month, get a mahram to drop you off or accompany you or take a safer route and keep praying ayatul kursi
And don't feel vulnerable just remember Allah is watching everything and there are many ways He can protect you, I don't know where you live but its a shame something like that can happen there
Alhamdulillah that you 2 are safe . Next time , pl. avoid the place that is dark and no people are around . Try to go in a group or take male relatives with u .format_quote Originally Posted by Sahabiyaat
Also , women are allowed to stay at res and offer salat there . To my knowledge , reward is same for woman if they do it at home . So , don't take any risk if u can't manage a safe arrangement for going out at night prayer.
InshaAllah that shameless man will get his due punishment .
awwww you poor things. i really feel for yous. i am so sorry that happened. you must be careful in future and walk with somebody like an older brother somebody like a family relative who can protect you. or why don't your parents drive you there and then pick yous up when your finished. i would not stop going to the mosque just because of this dangerous idiot... knowing me id probably pick up the closest thing like a rock and threw it at him. my blood would boil if anyone scared my sister or relative! and how is your cusan now? i guess there is reason also why the prophet mohammad pbuh told the women to recite taraweeh in the home only.format_quote Originally Posted by Sahabiyaatlast night whilst walking to taraweeh on a dark and deserted road with my female cousin, a guy suddenly came out of some dark corner and .....how should i say this.....well indecently exposed himself....he was asian, possibly muslim..i think he saw us coming and since i was fully covered, thought he would get a kick out of shocking us.
unfortuantely i will not be going to the mosque to pray taraweeh anymore
What saddens and sickens me the most is that this guy, was probably 17/18 or something, and can go home and mingle and be normal, and no one will know what he has done, he must have a mother and sisters and family, and being an asian boy they prob think the world of him....which sickens me.
my poor cousin is only 15...and she panicked so badly, because ofcourse she assumed we were going to get raped, she nearly ran into traffic.She had tears in her eyes and was shaking and could not read her prayers, so we had to miss them and instead i took her and sat in the washroom area comforting her.
the worst thing was had to walk back down that way,we were terrified and we kept thinking he would still be there, so we held hands and ran all the way down, passing the canal where the boys usually go to do drugs and past the pub which for once didnt have drunken men outside it.
...sometimes i really hate being a vunerable, fragile girl.
my sisters experienced something similar it made me so angry wanting to fight back for my sisters but not being able to .....
sister sahabiat ......hope you are still ok after that shock of an incident .....
this just shows the importance of having a mahram,,,dad,brother..uncle .....even mum's presence can help
Last edited by Cabdullahi; 08-30-2009 at 06:07 PM.
SubhanaAllah sis I'm so sorry....all evil usually comes out at night, pls sis try to avoid walking to taraweeh until u can get someone like a mahram to come wit u or walk as a group of sisters.
Or u can ask around sisters in ur area who drive that way u can go wit them, or even go wit a family who lives close by.
May Allah keep u safe ameen.
no, trust me, when u hear of these things, u say i will do this or that, but when it actually happens u panic SO much....my poor cousin really lost it....even after he walked away laughing, she tried rushing across the road with so much traffic....and kept saying we have to cross...we have to cross now! right now! ...thank God i was holding her back, and kept saying its ok, hes gone now!!! calm down!knowing me id probably pick up the closest thing like a rock and threw it at him.
but she wouldnt calm down....it was terrible, shes just a child, only 16.
and ofcourse we asian girls have to conceal such incidents, as the first person to be blamed will be us, for being in that place at that time....which ofcourse is so typical of asian people, when it comes to protecting their honour and image.
i think i saw him walking past my house today..........
*sigh*.......this has really shaken me.......he was INCHES away from me with his trousers pulled down saying 'cmon girls'......God i feel humiliated.
I will be saying at home, if i ask to be accompanied, it will only raise suspicions.and i have to check up on my cousin today...i hope thhe poor thing is ok.
Please keep me in your duas.
Last edited by Sahabiyaat; 08-30-2009 at 06:14 PM.
omg sis he pulled wat down?oh: I understand why ur cousin ran, I would too! Wat an animal.
Keep reciting aytal kurs sis InshaAllah.
May ALlah punish him ameen, & distance him from our sisters ameen.i think i saw him walking past my house today..........
Sis this is jst a suggestion, wear niqaab while u go to taraweeh? I wud consider it tho im not even a niqaabie.
Assalamu ALikum
Don't take my advice but It may help.
Next time, if anything similar happens, throw stones at him or something. You can't show them that you're scared and that you're innocent.
I wouldn't go to the mesjid at all. I don't even go here because I don't like the way people act. I know that we should go to the mesjid for the sake of Allah but the Prophet,saws, encouraged us woman to stay home. It's safer ...
Here is a fatwa:
Ruling on woman going to the mosque.
http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/983/s...20the%20mosque
Ruling on women going to the masjid (mosque)
http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/49898...20the%20mosque
Sister, If you don't have it tough with the family, wear a niqab. It'll probably take a little to get used to it but in a while you'll feel closer to Allah,spw.
Last edited by Rasema; 08-30-2009 at 06:29 PM.
AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu
Uhkti stay calm, and keep her calm, for surely Allah will protect you.
May Allah keep you and your family safe and protect against any harm. Ameen.
FiAmaaniAllah
sister,
For the sake of your security, you can call police to stop this guy because your little cousin is witness of what happened police like to hear proof. It is up to you.
my areas like that too
my sisters/girl cousins got taunted many times (not whilst I was around though)
once wen i was 14 i was walking home from school and saw a grown man peeing whilst walking in a VERY public area and he wasnt handling himself well at all
theres racists and thugs everywhere
thats why... i wish the sisters would take more precaution...
plz dont go out wivout a mahram unless its absolutely necessary...
heh feminist inclined sisters would probably find fault with my saying this
assalamu alaikum
It is better for sisters to pray at home. This is what has been recommended for us. Then inshaAllah this is what we should do.
And yes, definitely call the police. He should be punished and stopped before he does it to someone else.
is it realistic to assume that the cops will do anything about this sort of thing?..
I believe they shud, but whether they actually will is a diff story.
Yes.format_quote Originally Posted by Yanoorah
Inshallah, they will, as long as the OP gives them the information they require.I believe they shud, but whether they actually will is a diff story.
Theres a lot of sick people in this world.
Sis, i mean this with the best intentions, dont go out at night without a male relative with you especially since you live in a bad area. Even if you are with a group of girls, men with bad intentions can still bring harm to you. Be careful.
I think the guy was not a muslim, or may be he is intoxicated or mentally ill. I have seen it happen so many times.
Ring the police before he does it to someone else. There was news of this type of guy being arrested about a week ago for exposing himself.
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