AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu
Ive been stressing out the last couple of days. And i need loads of advice.
People are spreading rumours about the wedding and its not just 1, but its from A to Z and its stressing me out. The rumours are becoming widespread and issues are building up.
So far i have been ignoring it, and just swallowing my tongue, and trying my best to protect my family and theirs.
Najm, remember one thing: irdaa un-naas ghaayatun laa tudrak "Pleasing people is matter you will never attain"
And verily for everything that a slave loses there is a substitute, but the one who loses Allah will never find anything to replace Him.” [Related by Ibn al-Qayyim in ad-Dâ' wad-Dawâ Fasl 49]
Najm, remember one thing: irdaa un-naas ghaayatun laa tudrak "Pleasing people is matter you will never attain"
AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu
Its not about pleasing people, to be honest i couldnt care what they say. At the end of the day i just want to see the wife-to-be happyfor herself and me. And yeah i want her parents and my parents too.
I just doesnt understand how people just make up lies and just pass it everyone. And nobody close to me, tells me, which makes me feel like they are part of it, and really it means i dont trust them (i.e people who are close to me).
And i have already swallowed my tongue so many times, about the same things that slow slowly the opinions feels like hardcore facts. And no matter how much counter-arguments i say, they end up winning.
Anyways i dont care anymore, i dont think i can even stand my ground. Its all out of my control, so im just going to enjoy the ride and whatever happens, whatever happens.
I really do like the girl, and i hope she likes me, and in the end thats all that matters to me. Its my marriage, and id be happy if the girl is happy. Alhamdulillah!
How do i take comfort?...
"And put your trust in Allah if you are believers indeed." (5:23).......
"And in Allah therefore let the believers put their trust."(64:13)..........
Be mindful of Allah in prosperity, and He will remember you in adversity." [.Sunan al-Tirmidhî (2516)].........
Brother, may Allah help you overcome this hardship and make your wedding go all right. Insha-Allah all will be fine. If anyone questions you about whatever is being said, have those close to you bear witness the truth.
Those close to you who haven't told you about the rumors may have kept silent because they probably didn't want to see you get hurt or anxious. marriage is already such a stressful occasion and i'm sure your family doesn't want to see you stressed out anymore.
In a hadith it is written that if someone tries to ruin the reputation of someone, then Allah swears by Himself that He will raise the honor of the person being insulted. And I've seen this happen myself. (In my own words, don't remember the exact hadith.) So put your trust in Allah and pray that all goes ok. and don't worry too much.
akhee, why do you care about attention seeking, envious people who have nothing better to do with their time expect spread malicious gossip. as long as your fiance and her family are happy with you, just ignore what idiotic people have to say. people like that aren't even worth an iota of energy.
don't worry about those who dont worry about you
...desperate for husnul-khitaam...
please make dua that Allah grants me a good end (to my life). please make dua that Allah guides me.
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