My reason

assalamu alaykum,

I believe in not worrying about such things. A perfectly healthy person with no family history of disease can drop dead in a split second. I'd rather spend a few years of married life with a man who has taqwa than decades with a man who has none. Most important of all is the fact that...


[No calamity strikes except with the permission of Allah.] Qur'an 64/11

[Say: Nothing will befall us except what Allah had decreed for us, He is our protecting Ally, and upon Allah let the believers depend.] Qur'an 9/51

http://www.new-muslims.net/aqida/iman6pillar.htm

format_quote Originally Posted by AnonymousGender

I said no to a man who proposed to me because i found out almost every family member of his that has passed away in the last 40 years has had cancer or died from it. His grandfather, great grandfather, aunts, uncle are all people who have had it. At first when he told me his one uncle has it, i didnt not think much of it because his uncle fought in a war where chemical warfare was used. But a few days ago he revealed to me how many relatives had it.
I thought he was a good match, but I just dont feel secure anymore in marrying into a family that has that genetic risk cancer.

Would it bad if i told him that was my reason? Or should i just say i dont think we are compatible?

Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, my sister there is no such thing in Islam because life and death are ONLY in the hands of Allah.

It may also be the case that a person may have a clean record of health in ones family and may never have smoked or polluted there body and be a regular at the gym eating healthy etc but they may fall dead at any second and i myself have read of such cases.

A women should only choose a person for marriage on the grounds that they can provide for her aswell as being a pious man who is fully practising in their deen and one who would lead their partner towards Jannah. Then one should do isthikhara and ask of Allah and whatever is best will happen inshallah.

So there is no need to worry as death is ONLY in the hands of Allah and ONLY he has the knowledge of when a person will die.

what if you married a man and he died early from a heart attack. what if you married another man and he got cancer? what if you got cancer and died?

my own grandfather had cancer and passed away. he was old, like 70. he could have had a heart attack. could have been diabetes etc. the thing is, we all die, in different ways and if youre gonna get cancer it is the will of Allah. sure some cancers are hereditary. if you want you could ask if all his relatives had similiar/same cancer?

in the end the decision is yours, but put yourself in that position and ask yourself if youd like it if someone turned you down even though you were healthy, because of genetics.

i don't know why he told you that because that would naturally scare anybody and make some people run a mile. well the way i see it cancer is on the rise anyway.. nearly everybody you already know in your life time will get it. thats how common it is but i do not blame you for how your feeling. brothers and sisters already gave some good answers here mashaAllah

u never know it cud be tht a perfectly healthy man dies be4 him. Its not worth to stress about matters of death its in Allahs hands.