Husband Lieing

format_quote Originally Posted by Lonely Gal

...so if he is talkin to her to comfort and give a leanin shoulder.. why not tell me..

Don't suspect without any solid proof . If she is a friend / relative , tell ur husband you are ready to help her . Or u may also talk to her directly - tell her if she needs any help , u are there .

May Allah bless your marriage , Ameen.

format_quote Originally Posted by Lonely Gal

My husband and lied about being in contact with a lady relation.. this is playin on mind and how to deal with it..
I have seen text's frm him and miss/received calls in her phone.. but when ive asked have they ever talked on phone, he has said no.. know if its innocent why lie?

he should not be talking with her sis. if she needs support she should take help from another sister. this lying creates lack of trust and it gives the wrong impression to the other person that they have something to hide. sis did he get angry when you questioned him?

dont get suspicious without solid proof, as undermentioned, but do talk to him and make him try to understand that you dont like for him to talk to other women.

may Allah bring happiness and success 2 ur marriage

format_quote Originally Posted by Lonely Gal

My husband and lied about being in contact with a lady relation.. this is playin on mind and how to deal with it..
I have seen text's frm him and miss/received calls in her phone.. but when ive asked have they ever talked on phone, he has said no.. know if its innocent why lie?

Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, my sister you do have a right to feel this way because he should not have lied to you if he has nothing to hide, but you should also not suspect anything until you have solid proof and evidance as shaythan is playing with your mind but i do think you should make him open up as to why he lied about being in touch with her and you should also make him feel comfortable about sharing anything and everything with you no matter what it is.

He should not be comforting her at all because when a person is feeling low or vulnerable then these are the occassions where things are likely to happen but again you should make him open up about this situation and make him aware that his lies are causing you to suspect him and that he does'nt ever have to lie about anything in front of you.

You should also make him realise that it is forbiden for him to be talking alone with with this girl and that he should cut off contact with her immediatley as it is a big sin on him to continue to comfort her and talk with her when they are both alone.

Try to make him feel comfortable about opening up and sharing everything that goes on in his life even if it hurts you. Try to maintain good communication in the marriage because once communication breaks down then the marriage is doomed.

Ask of Allah to help make your marriage strong and to make your husband open upto you about everything.

May Allah give you a successful, happy and prosperous marriage. Ameen

its hard to trust when she knows her husband is in contact with another woman. the trust will come when he will finish his communication with her and if he wont it will give shaytan more power over the marriage and who knows what could happen next thats why its a big sin for a married man to comfort another woman. may Allah guide him

format_quote Originally Posted by Lonely Gal

how can I talk to him calmly, as I have already in passing asked if he talks to her as she is going tru a tuff time with her hubby and he said no, he's never rang her..
I have an issue if i ask him outright again, and if im fed lies, ill burst out in anger and make the situation worse.
I have concerns, he has another number too but have not yet been able to prove it.. over the weekend i found another message which suggested its him.. but what can i do..
please pray Allah swt shows me the truth as I cannot go on like this and asking him i honestly belive i will be fed more lies.. which will cause a bigger distance in our marriage than already what we have..
are there any dua's that i can read to help in such situations?
thanks for all your advise.

Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, my sister just make sincere dua to Allah that he reveal the truth to you whether that be that he is innocent or not.

As mentiond before do not let shaythan mess with your head. It could just be shaythan trying to make you feel this way.

It is always best to trust until you have solid proof and at the moment you do not. But ask of Allah to help you and to resolve this situation by revealing the truth to you of this situation.

Sit down with him and talk to him encouraging him to open up to you and make him feel comfortable enough for him to feel that way.

Keep communication strong and if the situation does not improve then need get an elder member of the family tro act as a mediator.

We pray that Allah makes your marriage a happy and prosperous one. Ameen

if your uncomfortable with him contacting this relation then tell him

You can be suspicious...but don't attack him. Just communicate with him... if you can contact the other girl...probably you should ask her too...but please be nice to her.

People lie ukhtee...and there are many reasons to it. Don't blame him...until you let him explain it to you. If he still trying to avoid your questions, probably you need to ask his closed friends. If you still think this is a problem...i think you need to find someone that can advise you and your husband on this issue. Please don't leave it until the matter get worse.

Sister pray Allah to give you strength to get thru this tough time.Also i think he just must be lying to avoid creating suspicion in your mind.Tell him that you are ready to offer help/support to her.Be calm dont let anger take over you