Sorry this may seem quite rude and I sincerely apologise if it causes any offense to anyone.
I absolutely loathe black people and their extremely rude and arrogant attitude. I don’t know how to stop hating them so much. They make me so angry, I know hate is a bit strong but I honestly hate their guts, they make me sick!!!
I work with quite a lot of them and ever since I’ve been here I get b*tching and backstabbing left right and centre. The managers are Asian and they get scared of black people because they are so rude and they feel like they can’t do anything about it.
Even when I am driving they make me so angry, they think the roads belong to their dad and they don’t care if someone dies in the process. They barge past people and don’t even apologise. They give so much attitude and think its ok but when you give a tiny bit back all hell breaks loose.
How do I stop hating them so much? Please help someone. My hate for them is so extreme and I don’t want to be a horrible person.
Brother's lets try and find a solution for the op instead of dissing him/her in every post
he clearly knows this isn't the correct feeling to have and wants to remove it from his/her heart so lets try and give him solutions Insha Allah on how he can remove this bad thing from his heart.
to the thread op I can only tell you that you are immitating shaytaan be feeling this way and this is not good.
You have to remember that Allah swt could have made you african however he never, you don't get to choose your skin colour so don't hold it against anyone.
also remember that there's bad people amongst your race group too, there's bad people in every race group but we don't hate the entire race because of it.
what would be the state of the Muslim's if the entire world thought like this??
we would all be persecuted and every 1 would be calling us terrorrists and people would look at us with disgust.
but alhamdulilah this is not the case there is actually nice people out there who don't hate the majority because of the actions of a few.
so you should think like this also, look at every 1 person as an individual and don't judge them based upon the actions of others.
Last edited by KittenLover; 03-09-2010 at 09:04 PM.
Brother's lets try and find a solution for the op instead of dissing him/her in every post
he clearly knows this isn't the correct feeling to have and wants to remove it from his/her heart so lets try and give him solutions Insha Allah on how he can remove this bad thing from his heart.
Have Surah Baqarah playing in the house, recite the 3 Quls. And pray o Allah to guide his soul.
Mind your own business stick to the rules and use the rules and laws against the abusers. I hear what its called "london yard" not sure if thats the name of your police force there i heard that they are doing a good job. And stop being a kid
How do I stop hating them so much? Please help someone. My hate for them is so extreme and I don’t want to be a horrible person.
What's wrong with you people? The OP doesn't need to be attacked. Sure, what's said is racist but if the person is actively seeking help (as has clearly been written) and recognises that it is wrong, why the mob mentality? Who here is perfect in every way? We all have our flaws. As long as we know we're wrong and try to change, there's no need to attack.
To the OP: You're obviously generalising the behaviour shown by some to be indicative of the group at large.
From what you describe, you're against the gangster/rude-boy mentality. A lot of people, in this day and age, that have been affected by the media and have grown up in a ghetto-ish environment end up developing such attitudes. It's not specific to the black community.
There is a number of Pakistanis in the UK that behave like you described. In Australia, you'll see Lebanese primarily. In the US, there's the Latinos and African americans. In Europe, there's the Morrocons.
Alpha. Although I appreciate your calm response, Imagine if it was a 'Black' person reding that. We get fustrated when people call Muslim's terrorist and we hate to be generalised as extremists and blahh due to the actions of the minority of them which du exist.. How will we react if someone came on saying stuff like that about Muslims? And this post is equally offensive. It should be deleted.
What's wrong with you people? The OP doesn't need to be attacked. Sure, what's said is racist but if the person is actively seeking help (as has clearly been written) and recognises that it is wrong, why the mob mentality? Who here is perfect in every way? We all have our flaws. As long as we know we're wrong and try to change, there's no need to attack.
To the OP: You're obviously generalising the behaviour shown by some to be indicative of the group at large.
From what you describe, you're against the gangster/rude-boy mentality. A lot of people, in this day and age, that have been affected by the media and have grown up in a ghetto-ish environment end up developing such attitudes. It's not specific to the black community.
There is a number of Pakistanis in the UK that behave like you described. In Australia, you'll see Lebanese primarily. In the US, there's the Latinos and African americans. In Europe, there's the Morrocons.
Each group has their bad bunch.
true lets stop the mob mentality, if some 1 comes for help offer him advice to fix the problem he has.
Brother's lets try and find a solution for the op instead of dissing him/her in every post
he clearly knows this isn't the correct feeling to have and wants to remove it from his/her heart so lets try and give him solutions Insha Allah on how he can remove this bad thing from his heart.
to the thread op I can only tell you that you are immitating shaytaan be feeling this way and this is not good.
You have to remember that Allah swt could have made you african however he never, you don't get to choose your skin colour so don't hold it against anyone.
also remember that there's bad people amongst your race group too, there's bad people in every race group but we don't hate the entire race because of it.
what would be the state of the Muslim's if the entire world thought like this??
we would all be persecuted and every 1 would be calling us terrorrists and people would look at us with disgust.
but alhamdulilah this is not the case there is actually nice people out there who don't hate the majority because of the actions of a few.
so you should think like this also, look at every 1 person as an individual and don't judge them based upon the actions of others.
Alpha. Although I appreciate your calm response, Imagine if it was a 'Black' person reding that. We get fustrated when people call Muslim's terrorist and hate to be generalised as extremists so on due to the actions of the minority. And this post is equally offensive. It should be deleted.
Are you serious?
This post is one that is asking for help. It's not an open attack on black people. Pay attention to the person's intention.
Pft. I don't get frustrated when people call muslims terrorist. You know why? Cos they are ignorant. Meaning they don't know better. It's a bit like laughing at a recently graduated engineer for not being able to do open heart surgery on somebody. Absurd. How could he, if he hasn't had the exposure?
Like I said, it's a problem of ignorance and the only way for them to know better is if the ignorance is dispelled. Teaching and rectifying, as opposed to being 'frustrated' at them. Frustration achieves nothing.
Patiently explain, teach and dispell myths!
Same sort of solution is required here. Not lambasting, attacking and then deleting. A person is asking for help from his brothers and sisters. Not intentionally trying to offend!
I love black people.. some of the sincerest most observant Muslims I have encountered were black.. they are humble and sweet, and willing to walk the distance to help a brother or a sister, they are the only ones who openly say salaam, and I see kindness in their souls, they come with their heart on their hand just willing to hand it over for a good friend..
One time when I was in middle school, I lost my school bus pass, and had to take regular transportation, I had no money and knew if I went back home my parents would be livid, and if I walked to school, I'd surely be late and get detention and then my parents would be livid again for my lateness.. I leaned on a fence and put my head down on my hand not knowing what to do, and a black woman approached me (non-Muslim) and asked what was wrong, when I told her, she gave me a token to the bus and I wasn't late to school, and I walked home in the afternoon..
I'll never forget what she did for me.. she alleviated a hardship and I hope that Allah swt guides her to Islam for it and rewards her..
so yeah, I love black people!
Last edited by جوري; 03-10-2010 at 03:34 AM.
Text without context is pretext If your opponent is of choleric temperament, seek to irritate him
"Oh no he didn't"... seriously though if the all the ones you see are like that then of course you'll end up thinking they're all bad, making links like that is only human.
Acquaint yourself with some different/nicer black people, then after some time you'll lose the bad feeling. Why not look up some famous people? Or current black stars (not rappers).
Once you go black *cough cough*, but that's for another forum.
I don't think you hate black people as a race. I think you are being exposed to certain black people that are ill-mannered and uneducated. And any rude person-no matter their color- will be disliked by most people. So maybe the place you are from has a lot of rude blacks. I mean there are also many polite and friendly black people.
People could say the same thing about Muslims, like if they only know Muslims from the media.
People are people. All kinds come in all colors. I've known some black people who treated me great, others who treated me bad. Same with white people. Same with asians, arabs, mexicans, etc.
“All day I think about it, then at night I say it. Where did I come from, and what am I supposed to be doing? I have no idea. My soul is from elsewhere, I'm sure of that, and I intend to end up there.”
these advice and support threads are unfaire cos here in this matter "hate blacks" it seems that we are listening to one side of the story.
this guys works with them and he is complaining , whyyy ??
maybe he is the type of the saloon perfectionist people and stuff. he didnt say anything that happend between him and them except the backstabing...meaning he knows them they backstabed him for a reason??? and the driving well the whole world drives like hell :@ what now man???
i think its unfair to talk about it here cos the picture will never be clear unless its detailed :@ what is this? :@
People who aren't black can be extremely rude and arrogant also.
The point being is that being rude and arrogant or inconsiderate are all behaviors or characteristics.
That has nothing to do with race or ethnicity. It is just the person in general.
I'm sorry that you are having a hard time..
Try to think of it this way.... you have it set in your mind that black people are a certain way based on what you have observed or been exposed to.
Is it possible that because of that you assume that every black person you come into contact with will be the same way?
Point being is that if that is what you are looking for, then that is what you will most likely see.
Example..
If someone thinks Muslim women wearing the hijab are uneducated.
So when they go out and they see a Muslim woman asking where a particular section is in a store, then they will justify how they feel about Muslim women and say she doesn't know where the section is because she's dumb.
In reality, it could be because this is her first time in the store and she's not familiar with it..
Seek refuge with Allah from shaytan.. and let your anger go. We are all just people.
I appreciate your honesty and your effort in trying to rid yourself of this hate though..It is not an easy thing to talk about because too often people respond in a hostile way. May Allah guide and help you. Ameen.
"And hold fast unto Allah, He is your protector, the best to protect and the best to help"
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