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    Asalam Alaikum,

    For many years I have been battling the answers to my questions however I find myself today at 30 yrs old still lost and confused.

    I was abused at a very young age by my cousin. Growing up was very difficult as my family broke apart and I grew up with no guidance. All my life I have known myself to be female however being born as a male I was led to believe that I am gay. Just over a year ago I started taking hormones to correct what I thought was gone wrong with my body and set on the path of matching my female soul to my body. During this process I met a muslim boy in Pakistan online who I fell in love with. He pleaded with me that what I was doing was haram and not to follow this path and to start praying. After telling him my life story he spoke to an Imam in Pakistan who advised him that long term use of these medications is harmful, however that he and I can live together and he can request that in the next world I be his wife that of which I can not be in this world.

    One day he became ill and I listened to the Quran for the first time and started to weep. I realised what I was doing was not right and stopped hormones. I finally went over to Pakistan and met this young man who changed my life and brought me to Islam.

    As I suddenly stopped taking hormones my body, my mood swings etc changed and I became very unsettled so shortly after returning back to Australia and after speaking with him we both agreed that I should start taking the hormones again and gradually wean off them which I started taking less than a month ago.

    All my life I fought with my family when they said that what I am is the making of shaitan and I was blammed for being abused when I was a child, (and I have had many attempts at suicide, all of which failed), however since that day my soulmate became ill and I started listening to the Quran I realised that this is not the case and that we are tested by Allah every moment.

    I find myself today in the same situation I was a few months ago and weeping as I do not know what path I should take as my eyes were opened by this young man who I call my soulmate and life partner, however for some reason I do not have answers to my questions and I am not entirely sure if what the Imam said to him was correct as my knowledge on Islam is very basic even though I belong to an Islamic family.

    I have done many wrongs in my life and I am scared that I have crossed the limitations set in Islam to be forgiven by Allah.

    Do I have the right to ask Allah to make me a woman in the next world and to be this man’s wife and vice versa for him to ask Allah? I am afraid this is a topic that is hardly spoken about either people do not want to hear or they are scared to speak the truth.

    My only request is that I do not get any abusive messages here and that I find someone here who can guide me to the right path.

    Asalam Alaikum

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    I also found this article online which is confusing:

    n the current era, scholars in Iran, and Egypt have issued Fatwas supporting the right for those who fit the description of Mukhanathun to have sex reassignment surgery. In Pakistan to this day, there live Hijras. The Muslim Hijras have been known to refer to themselves as Mukhannathun when speaking Arabic.

    Why would it be allowed in Iran and Egypt if changing ones sex is haram in Islam?
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    Walaikum Asalam,

    I must say that I spent the last 3 prays weeping with joy and sorrow from the words and wisdom you have shared with me. It is a shame my knowledge on Islam is so basic as is everyone around me that instead of telling me what I am and preparing me for the world, I was thrown out and cast as a sinner. It took 7 years before my family asked me back and for the last 1.5yrs we fought regarding everything including Islam.

    My tears today brother Humza is that I no longer feel like shaitans child, nor do I feel like a freak. I cried cause the answer I was looking for all my life laid in the Haddith which you introduced me to do... May Allah forgive me for not knowing and acting in sin all these years.

    If Mukhannath's back in the day of the prophet held respect, why has it changed over the years? .

    You have given me a new lease on life, a purpose to live and for that I am truely grateful.

    With regards to this man, he is mearly still a boy of almost 19yrs of age... Maybe this is my biggest test in life is to leave the one I have been searching for my entire life for the happiness of Allah.

    He has told his mother and brother about me who I went and lived with and met for a month, they were very sweet and caring towards my needs and happiness and have advised that I am permitted to live with him provided we do not sin. His mother went to the extreme of covering me and protecting me when sinful police and certain men were near by.

    Living with him brother Humza is not going to be so easy as he lives on the other side of the world, bringing him here to Australia will be a enormous task which could take years and could be next to impossible.

    I have constantly asked him about him wanting children and finding a wife and to forget about me, but he has assured me that he is not interested in anyone else and that he has no desires to have children.. should he want children he will adopt. Believe me, being 11years older than him I have been burnt by the tales of lies men spin in order to get what they want, however somehow with him it seem different as mostly we speak about islam.

    Are we not permitted to live with each other even if we promise to become brothers and have a brotherly love, and also go to haj as brothers?

    I guess my fears of growing old alone is part of my punishment for the sinful life I have lead.

    During my prayers tonight I told Allah that if this is what he wants than this what he shall have.. I ready to accept my punishment and end all ties should Allah want this, the answer will yet to be revealed to me inshallah soon enough.

    Before meeting this guy, I told myself, I will come back to Australia with a soulmate or a best friend, for it was he who brought me to Islam when no one else could.

    Thank you Humza truely for being honest with me and opening my eyes. It is times like this that ones views on human beings is restored.

    May I ask another question which has nothing to do with this.. I own a small dog, approx 4-5kgs who I have had for nearly 7-8 years along with a cat which I know is not haram to have.

    I have been told many different views with dog and islam and would like your opionion on the matter.

    Currently my dog stays mostly in my bedroom, the garage or out in the back yard. We do not let her run around the house, firstly as it is my parents home and 2ndly I have started praying and know that much that a dog should be that close to you when praying.

    I have been told I need to get rid of her, but how can I get rid of an innocent animal who has been with me for all her life and who is so small that she can not fend for herself.

    I read an article once that they said you are permitted to have a dog provided you keep the dog clean and that it is the nose of that is what is dirty.... So your views on this matter would also be very grately appreciated.
    Asalaamu Alaikum, you should thank Allah abundantly for he has lead you here to find the answers you have been looking for. In life we will come across many people who lack knowledge and understanding of certain matters and will therefore be ignorant out of fear of that which they do not understand.

    It is Almighty Allah's decision to make you the way you are and this alone should be enough to make you content and happy with the way Allah has made you. Allah never makes mistakes and anyone who says he does is out of the fold of Islam.

    Scholars of Islam need to break this taboo of discussing this topic and should make it well known to people because any parent may be faced with the issues your parents faced but if they have the necessery knowledge then they can be much more supportive and be able to handle these issues much better. Unfortunatley because these situations are not well documented or well known then people are ignorant about them and do not know how to deal with them. So it is knowledge that will bring clarity to this matter so that parents can deal with these situations in a much better way being supportive and helpful instead of the opposite.

    However your parents and family treated you forgive them in your heart and continue to be the best towards them. Understand that they knew not and never have bitterness or resentment in your heart for how they treated you as i am sure they also went through a lot of torture as well as confusion and this led them to be in fear and fear led them to react the way they did towards you. They love you more than anything but just don't know how to handle this situation. Always make dua for them and give your love to them. Give them information about your situation in relation to Islam so that they may better understand. Continue to be patient with them and in the end everything will work out well inshallah.

    Now that you know the truth you must never let other peoples ignorance get to you but you should put your hopes, faith, reliance and trust in Allah for he created you the way you are and as long as you do everything to please him and abstain from doing anything to displease or anger him then that is all that should matter to you.

    In regards to the young man then it is clear that he is very young and naive. He has fallen for you but is clearly not thinking straight. We all want someone to love and cherish us but this is not the right way to go about it and it is this desire to find a life partner that causes so much pain for so many people. If he is saying what he is now then surely later on when he matures and starts to think straight he will definatley change his mind especially because he will want to start a family of his own.

    Regardless of how he will feel for you in the future it is still not permissable in anyway for you to stay in touch with him let alone for you to live with him. No Islamic scholar will ever say to you that it is permissable and in the eyes of Allah how can two people who are not married live with each other let alone people of the same sex living with each other as a couple.

    Your going to have to wake up from the dream world that you and him have created for yourselves. It is this dream world that so many couples create and when the bubble finally bursts and reality hits that is when the extreme pain sets in. These dreams will remain dreams and as Muslims we must live in reality because the reality is that we can die at ANY moment and therefore we must prepare for our final destination which is the hereafter.

    You cannot live with someone you are attracted towards. That is like me living with a women i am not married to saying that i will live with her and treat her like she is my sister but shaythan will still alwys be third party and it is not permissable for a non married couple to be alone with each other and be in contact. Therefore it is not permissable for you to be alone with a non mahram male or female. There needs to be others there present whenever you are alone with a non mahram male or female. It is not a punishment to be without a partner for you can adopt and do many good works in your life for the pleasure of Allah.

    How long is our life? You are 30 now and the average life is 70 so let us say if you did make it to 70 that is 40 years you have left. If you devote those 40 years to Allah then you have ETERNITY of bliss and you can forever spend your eternity with a partner in Paradise and have whatever you want to your hearts content. This world is temporary and we may die at any moment so let us not devote ourselves to this temporary life but let us focus on the hereafter which is our final and eternal destination.

    You will have to make sacrifices in order to be on the right path and these are sacrifices many of us have to make. We sacrifice this life for the next because this life is temporary and the next life is eternity. Therefore it is logical to concentrate on the long term rather than the short. These sacrifices for the pleasure of Allah will be rewarded abundantley on the day of judgement inshallah.

    The path towards Paradise is never an easy one because it is surrounded by hardships, trials and tests but if you focus on doing everything to please Allah and putting your faith, trust, reliance and hopes in him then who can ever deter you from the right path?

    It is this reliance and trust in Allah that will help you get over any issue, hardship, problem and trial. It is your faith and patience that will get you through ANY difficulty in life. You have faced many problems and have now realised your purpose and solution to your issues.

    Therefore Allah has listened to your prayers and now you know what you have to do and it is upto you to make the right choices and act upon the advice. Allah will judge you on the choices you made in this life so make the right choices which will please Allah and not choices that will anger or displease him.

    In regards to your dog then it is not permissable to keep a dog except as a guard dog for protection of property and for hunting. The saliva of the dog is unclean.

    Sahih Muslim. Hadith 551. Narrated byAbdullah Ibn Mughaffal: .....When the dog licks the utensil, wash it seven times, and rub it with earth the eighth time. [/COLOR]

    Sahih Al-Bukhari 3:515. Narrated Abu Huraira: I heard Allah's Apostle (saw) saying; "Angels (of Mercy) do not enter a house wherein there is a dog or a picture of a living creature (a human being or an animal)."

    Keping a dog in your home is stopping angels from entering the house. Pictures as in portraits or photographs of animate objects on the walls.

    Losing good deeds by keeping dogs:

    Muslim, in his Saheeh, Tirmithi and an-Nissaai narrated on the authority of Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, that the Messenger of Allah, may peace and blessings be upon him, said, "Whoever keeps a dog, other than the dogs for hunting, securing agricultural land or livestock, indeed two qeerat (a weight of about .195g) are taken away from his rewards everyday." [Saheeh al Jamie]

    Keeping dogs inside the house without any necessity merely as pets was forbidden by the Prophet (Sallallahu Alahyi Wasallim). When we observe how lavishly the well-to-do treat their dogs while despising their relatives, and how much attention they give their dogs while neglecting their neighbors, we realize the wisdom of this prohibition. Moreover, the presence of a dog makes the household utensils unhygienic due to their licking of them. The Prophet (Sallallahu Alahyi Wasallim) said, "If a dog licks a plate (or pot), clean it seven times, of which one time should be with sand (or earth)." (Reported by al-Bukhari.)

    Some scholars are of the opinion that the reason for prohibiting the keeping of dogs may be because they bark at visitors, scare away the needy who come to ask for charity, and chase and try to bite passers-by.

    The Prophet (Sallallahu Alahyi Wasallim) said, Jibril came to me and said, 'I came to you yesterday but what stopped me from entering was that there was a statue at the door, a curtain with figures on it in the house, and a dog inside the house. So order that the head of the statue be broken off so that it resembles the trunk of tree, that the curtain be cut and made into two pillows to recline on, and that the dog be taken out.' (Reported by AbDaoud, al-Nisai, al-Tirmidhi, and by Ibn Hibban in his Sahih.)

    We must not do anything to comprimise our deen for the purpose of our life is to worship Allah so we must NOT let anything deter us from that or get in our way and keeping a dog is contrary to Islamic teachings and certainly gets in the way of worship as well as the fact that one has to constantly clean themselves of the saliva of the dog as well as dog hairs being all over the place. On top of that the life of a dog is comparitively short to ours so it is inevitable that if we keep a dog it will most likely die in our lifetime and this will cause immense pain.

    Obviously you will have gained a very strong bond with the dog over the perioud of time that you have had it and it will be difficult to let go of but this is just one of the sacrifices you will have to make in order to go towards the right path in order to please Allah. We as Muslims sacrifice this life for the next and suppress our desires for the plasure of Allah for we can have whatever we desire for eternity in Jannah whilst those that indulged themselves in this world and sacrificed the hereafter for this world and rejected the laws of Allah will have no portion of the hereafter.


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    Re: Would like an Iman or someone of same knowledge on Islam to assist with my questi

    format_quote Originally Posted by Need guidance View Post
    Meant to type :Surrendered, not surrounded.


    I also found this article online which is confusing:

    n the current era, scholars in Iran, and Egypt have issued Fatwas supporting the right for those who fit the description of Mukhanathun to have sex reassignment surgery. In Pakistan to this day, there live Hijras. The Muslim Hijras have been known to refer to themselves as Mukhannathun when speaking Arabic.

    Why would it be allowed in Iran and Egypt if changing ones sex is haram in Islam?
    Asalaamu Alaikum, firstly in regards to Iran then we do not follow what they do as we are Sunni Muslims who are followers of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) and they are Shia.

    In regards to Egypt then some scholars of Al-Azhar are of the opinion that hermaphrodites or intersex people (Khunsa) who have both male and female organs can on medical grounds to correct to have gender re-assignment operation in order to reveal what was hidden of male or female organs. So if they are mainly male then the female organ is taken away and if they are mainly female then the male organ is taken away. This done not apply in your case as you only have a male organ and are not a khunsa or a hermaphrodite.

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    By the way brother Humza, why did the views on Mukhannathun's change after the ottoman period?
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    format_quote Originally Posted by Need guidance View Post
    By the way brother Humza, why did the views on Mukhannathun's change after the ottoman period?
    Asalaamu Alaikum, Sadly, the high place of the mukhannathun in Muslim society did not survive the colonial times. It is the beloved Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) who first gave such a high position of authority to the Mukhannathun but when Ottoman rule ended then that is when Islams rule ended.

    When the kufaar regimes moved in the high position of the Mukhannathun was over. So it is Islam which gave the Mukhannathun such a high position. Afterwards ignorance spread and unfortunatley we are in a state of ignorance today about many issues and matters.

    We can only do our best to educate people and to make dua to Allah that he opens the hearts of people and clarifies certain matters. Cncentrate on making the best of your life now and spend everyday plesing Allah and worshipping him the best of your ability and make your sole focus the hereafter and refrain from anything that displeases and angers Allah.

    Trust in Allah and rely on him and he will NEVER let you down but will always be there for you. If he tests you then bare with patience for Allah is with those who are patient and the reward of patience is Paradise!
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    Asalam alaikum brother Humza. Forgive me for the delay in responding. My family returned from their holiday so have had time to try and educate them with what you taught me here. My sister believes me as does my mum to a certain degree however the men in my family were even more fired up to the point that they said they won't believe anything said about this topic, even forbidding me to see my nephews and nieces incase they turn out like me.

    I think it might be best for me t contact the islamic society in Sydney and take it from there, however I am pleased to advise that my biggest critic and enemy, me eldest sister has now been completely silenced since showing her the facts of what you shared with me which means mashallah my life is a little easier :-)

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    Assalaamu Alikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

    As long as you have no desire for women, notice not anything about them and trying not to attract men; then don`t care about others opinions cause with all my respect the ignorant and lack of knowledge are playing an important role in making others angry and accept not some of the facts and matters of life and deen and return only to their own judge and explanations for things...

    May Allah guide us all Ameeeeen

    it is not your fault and you are not guilty at all, you are what you are and none can change this in you but Allah The One Who Created you...

    if your family is not accepting this now then they will change with time in shaa Allah and if I am able to help ya by anyway, then I would never hesitate ever but I am living far away from the continent you are living in...Alhamdulillah for everything my respected and noble brother...

    Be patient cause patience is the key for all locked doors and never give up being a good Muslim, son, brother and friend no matter what and as long as you have Allah then be sure that everything will be ok by His Willing and Mercy...ok?

    May Allah be with you and help ya always and for ever and make you amongst those who will enter the highest level of the Paradise without being reckoning and May He prevent you not from seeing His Al Mighty Face and all the Ummah...Ameeeeeeeeeen

    take care of your self and don`t let the wrong acts of others put you down and make you feel humilated cause you are allready honored for being the salve of the King of all kings...laa ilaha ill Allah...

    leaving you under Allah`s Sight, Care and Protection

    Humbly, your sister no matter what you are:

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    Re: Would like an Iman or someone of same knowledge on Islam to assist with my questi

    format_quote Originally Posted by Need guidance View Post
    Asalam alaikum brother Humza. Forgive me for the delay in responding. My family returned from their holiday so have had time to try and educate them with what you taught me here. My sister believes me as does my mum to a certain degree however the men in my family were even more fired up to the point that they said they won't believe anything said about this topic, even forbidding me to see my nephews and nieces incase they turn out like me.

    I think it might be best for me t contact the islamic society in Sydney and take it from there, however I am pleased to advise that my biggest critic and enemy, me eldest sister has now been completely silenced since showing her the facts of what you shared with me which means mashallah my life is a little easier :-)

    Asalam alaikum
    Wa Alaikumu Asalaam, I am happy that Allah softened the hearts of your mother and sister and gave them a better understanding of this matter. Surely It is knowledge that brings clarity to all matters and so when one learns the truth about a matter then they will think differently on it. You certainly cannot expect everyone to come around overnight but you should remain patient with them and continue to be the best towards them. Show them the best of manners and behaviour as taught by our beolved Rasul (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) and make mcuh dua for them that Allah softens their hearts for you and makes them realise the truth.

    You should certainly contact the local Islamic centre and other Masjids in Sydney to try and find help from experienced and reliable scholars and try and educate the men in your family about this matter.

    You can contact the following Masjids and centres in Sydney:

    Sydney Masjid

    [email protected]

    Sydney Mosques and Prayer Room Locations

    http://www.sunnahinspirations.org/in...locations.html

    I pray that Allah gives you the best of this world and the next and softens the heart of all of your family and gives them a better understanding of what you are going through. I hope your sins are expiated for your patience through the trials you go through in your life and that you are given high stations in Paradise for striving to be closer to Allah despite your hardships and trials. Ameen

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    Brother Humza can I ask an imam to islamically end my life? I no longer have the urge to live and I'd rather a mullah does it before I do
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    format_quote Originally Posted by Need guidance View Post
    Brother Humza can I ask an imam to islamically end my life? I no longer have the urge to live and I'd rather a mullah does it before I do
    Asalaamu alaikum, Why are you feeling this way? What has happened or is happening in your life to make you feel like this?
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    Brother Humza can I ask an imam to islamically end my life? I no longer have the urge to live and I'd rather a mullah does it before I do


    Astaghfirullah al 'adziim.

    Brother, when you feel everything and everyone in this world is against you, when you lost all hopes, when you have nothing, please recite this with all your heart as much as you can:

    HasbunAllah wa Ni’mal Wakil

    Allah Alone is Sufficient for us, and He is the Best Disposer of affairs for us.




    I am praying that Allah SWT lessen your sorrow and ease all your affairs and give you the best in this world and akhira. amiin.
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    Brother Humza the toll of what my family say and do to me on a daily basis has driven me to the point where I think if I'm not alive they will br happy in their lives so I wanna sacrifice myself for their happiness.
    I know you will say they are ur family and love you but believe me they don't. I know they will be happiest once I am gone inshallah so I no longer affect their lives.
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    Thank you brother Naidamar. I will recite this and see if it helps.

    And thank you for your prays.

    Asalam alaikum


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    Astaghfirullah al 'adziim.

    Brother, when you feel everything and everyone in this world is against you, when you lost all hopes, when you have nothing, please recite this with all your heart as much as you can:

    HasbunAllah wa Ni’mal Wakil

    Allah Alone is Sufficient for us, and He is the Best Disposer of affairs for us.




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    are you going to sell your Hereafter for the sake of the creatures and leave the pleasure and satisfaction of the One Who Created you The Creator of the whole world ???? why my brother??

    are you that depressed? how to face Allah in the Day of Judgement and what excuse you will have then??? I know that you are suffering but Allah Is here and always with us watching hearing and counting....

    brother please don`t let satan take you with him...he is under our feet and still... I will make duaa for ya and will come back here again and post more cause now it is my sister turn to use the PC....please wait don`t be reckless and do something you would regret in this dunya and in Akhirah...please...you made me cry cause I was afraid of this to happen and I was thinking of asking you to give me your sisters e mail to talk with them ...what to do ? I am helpless ....Wa Allahi if I was able to come to your city and talk to your family I would come running Wa Allahi ...

    please be patient and don`t kill us from inside...this world and everyone in it don`t deserve one tear of yours and now you want to give it your life???? don`t be mad of me but now I feel like I want to punch you on your nose to wake you up from these thoughts filling your head...

    you are so precious to us; so dear and beloved; you are part of our hearts; you are our brother who all of us admire and treasure ... don`t do it and never think of it again I am begging you please....

    may Allah be pleased with you ease your pain and be with you always and forever and preserve you and protect you from all harms Ameeeeeeeeeeeeen

    please forgive me if I said anything would make you sad or upset....
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    Thank you.. You made me smile :-). That is exactly what I needed.

    I did take a lot of sleeping pills last night and after fajr prayers so I'm feeling very weak at the moment.

    I wish you were here too to talk to my family but unfortunatly they would treat you even worse then what they treat me. My family are not of understanding or accepting. Rhetoric just like to see the faults and full steam ahead charge with attacks.

    It is sad to think I want to give my life up to make them happy but, but the saddest part of all is maybe then they would be happy.

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    I did take a lot of sleeping pills last night and after fajr prayers so I'm feeling very weak at the moment.


    My advice is for you to stop or reduce consumptions of pills such as sleeping pills and other beta blocker pills or other hormonal pills if you still take them.

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    Bismellah Irrahman Irraheem

    What do you mean by saying that you took a lot of sleeping pills?

    Ya Rabbi, don`t let him die by taht way Ameeeeeen

    if you would be here again and read this post of mine then read carefully please....

    I am 27 years old and for more than 20 years I suffered and tested all kind of physically and psychologically tortures and when I was calling for help; others treated me bad and locked all the doors at my face and to be honest with ya I thought of suicide and I tried to jump off the school building trying to end my miserable life but then a woman worker in the school came from behind and pulled me then I collapsed and felt so weak that they carried me to some room...

    after that when I get back home I tested the most beautiful harsh beating and there was a huge feet trampling on my head and suffered pain for this for along time ,people talked about me badly like if I am the guilty one and their looks and mordant comments were stabing my heart so slowly and quietly that I was thinking of ending my life again...

    I wish I could tell ya the whole dirty and ugly story but I fear Allah the One Whom I gave Him my word and my vow not to tell anyone about it and about the people who made me suffer and ruined my life brutally...

    but then sub`haan Allah; I knew my way to Allah and left this world with everything and everyone in it heading to my Lord to the Most Merciful Who made me and still ; feeling like a princess Wa Allahi...Allah cured all my wounds and helped me not to only live a happy life but to forgive those who tortured me and my Duaa was and still; O Allah forgive those who wronged me; still wronging me and will wrong me...

    Allah filled my heart with the satisfaction happiness and most beautiful and pricless filled my heart with Him and His love...Alhamdulillah...

    I used to be alone struggling in darkness being rejected but then Allah blessed me with many and many brothers and sisters whom I love treasure and admire and not only love but I am mad about them all and longing to meet them in the highest level of the Paradise O Allah Ameeeeeeen and of course you are one of them...

    no more heartache no more tears for this dunya and no more fear and ugly thoughts of suicide Alhamdulillah...all of this because I returned to Allah because I left people and headed to the Lord of people...Alhamdulillah...

    want to end your life for others to be happy? this is with all my respect the most silly thought I have ever known cause I thought about it in the past and gain nothing because of it but misery...and now as long as my lord Is Allah then I don`t care...whenever I want something I have it cause the Most Generous and Merciful Is My Lord whom I feel so ashamed before his mercy blessings and everything which He has given me and still and I will never be able to thank Him enough for them and ashamed for what I have done in the past and for seeking creatures help and forgeting the King of all kings The Owner of the whole world....May Allah forgive us all Ameeeeeeen

    I won`t talk about your family here cause i know them not...but trust me if you would die by that why then people will forget you but the One Who created you and them will not so be careful not to displease the One Who you will return to and will stand before in the Day of Judgement....don`t you trust Allah? have not Allah promised those who will strive for His sake and be patient of ease in thsi world and in the Hereafter?

    and have you forgot that Allah The Most Just will pay you your rights in full and if you would forgive those who wronged you (and this is your choice) then you will take your rights in full and more...

    please, if you are a life then be till Allah take you to Him...you are trusted on this soul of yours and you can not end your life at the time you wish and for the sake of some people who deserve it not...you have to mantain this body and soul you have till Allah take them on their time...

    and remember that it is an obligation to love Allah more than your parent and yourself then for whom you will live and die? think about it...

    you are in our hearts minds and Duaas till we all meet Allah, by Allah`s Willing and Mercy...

    and this is a promise, if Allah made me able to come to your house then I swear I will and Allah Is my witness...and I don`t care if your family would beat me up cause I am allready used to this and don`t worry it won`t be painful to me and I will be happy with what ever I will face just for the sake of Allah...

    leaving you under Allah`s sight care and protection and if you are dead then Inna lellah wa inna ilayhi rajooon and May Allah have mercy on you and on all the Ummah Ameeeeen
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    Brother Humza the toll of what my family say and do to me on a daily basis has driven me to the point where I think if I'm not alive they will br happy in their lives so I wanna sacrifice myself for their happiness.
    I know you will say they are ur family and love you but believe me they don't. I know they will be happiest once I am gone inshallah so I no longer affect their lives.
    if someone is hurting you, do you honestly believe that they are worth the pain.

    what i do when people irritate me (and boy do people irritate me), is i listen and nod politely but go do whatever i want. i dont know what to tell you since they are your family, but as best as you can abide (and as long as you arent violating any Islamic sanctions) then live by what ever you feel is comfortable for you. life is a lot easier that way than to get caught up in what people think, you will never be free. really and honestly, block out as best as you can anything you dont need to hear and see from people that will cause you harm. this way inshallah your mind and soul will be more at rest.

    perhaps you dont know how to deal with the pain your family causes you that is causing you difficulty and not so much what they do to harm you?
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    format_quote Originally Posted by Need guidance View Post
    Thank you.. You made me smile :-). That is exactly what I needed.

    I did take a lot of sleeping pills last night and after fajr prayers so I'm feeling very weak at the moment.

    I wish you were here too to talk to my family but unfortunatly they would treat you even worse then what they treat me. My family are not of understanding or accepting. Rhetoric just like to see the faults and full steam ahead charge with attacks.

    It is sad to think I want to give my life up to make them happy but, but the saddest part of all is maybe then they would be happy.

    Asalam alaikum
    :-)
    Asalaamu Alaikum, please my brother do not feel down or lose hope. That is what shaythan wants. This is your test. Shaythan wants to create resentment and hatred in your heart for your family but you must disregard him as he is your sworn enemy. You must think to yourself "My family can be however they want towards me but i will be patient for the pleasure of Allah".

    Eventually after much patience they will see good in you and change their approach towards you. There is always victory after much patience. Allah is tetsting you because he wants you closer to him so strive to please him in everything you do in your daily life. Ask of him in dua to soften the hearts of your family. Know that he is close to those who are patient.

    Be understanding that your family do not understand your situation and so they are in fear. When one is in fear then they get on the defensive and also attack. Bare this in mind and be the best towards them regardless of how they are towards you for this will work in your favour for sure inshallah.

    Please look through this thread whenever you feel down:

    Solutions Of How To Get Through Hardships, Stresses and Problems in life!

    http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-s...lems-life.html

    So put your full hopes, faith and reliance in Allah for he is wanting you close to him and is with you if you remain patient for his pleasure.

    We are all here for you and wish the best for you in this life and the next. Ameen

    I leave you with the comforting words of Allah during any trials you go through in life:

    Verily, with the hardship,
    there is relief
    (i.e. there is one hardship with two reliefs, so one hardship cannot overcome two reliefs).
    [ Al-Inshirah 94:6]

    "Peace unto you for that ye persevered in patience! Now how excellent is the final home!"
    Excellent indeed is the final home!"
    [ Ar-Rad 13:24]

    "...Do not regard it an evil to you;
    nay, it is good for you...."
    [An- Nuur 24:11]

    "...So put your trust (in Allaah)
    if ye are indeed believers."
    [Al-Maida 5:23]

    "O ye who believe!
    Seek help in steadfastness
    and prayer.
    Lo! Allaah is with the steadfast."
    [Al-Baqarah 2:153]

    "And certainly,
    We shall test you with something
    of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits,
    but give glad tidings to As-Sabirin (the patient ones, etc.).
    Who, when afflicted with calamity,
    say: "Truly! To Allaah we belong
    and truly, to Him we shall return."
    [ Al-Baqara 2: 155~156]

    "And He will provide him
    from (sources)
    He never could imagine.
    And whosoever puts his trust in Allaah,
    then HE will suffice him.
    Verily, Allaah will accomplish his purpose.
    Indeed Allaah has set a measure for all things."
    [ At-Talaq 65:3]

    "Verily We have created man
    into toil and struggle."
    [ Al-Balad 90:4]

    Know that when you have problems or in difficulty, then it is by Allaah's permission for HE says:

    "Say: "Nothing shall ever happen to us
    except what Allaah has ordained for us.
    He is our Maula (Lord, Helper and Protector)."
    And in Allaah
    let the believers put their trust."
    [At-Taubah 9:51]

    "No kind of calamity can occur,
    except by the leave of Allaah
    And if any one believes in Allaah,
    {Allaah} guides his heart (aright):
    for Allaah knows all things."
    [At-Taghabun 64:11]

    "...There did Allaah give you one distress after another
    by way of requital
    to teach you not to grieve
    for that which had escaped you,
    nor for that which had befallen you.
    And Allaah is Well Aware of all that you do."
    [Al-Imran 3:153]


    And Allah knows best in all matters
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