I am extremely sorry for not to disclose my name . I am a male . my age is 32 years . I am a Gay . As far my knowledge from child hood I feel attraction towards to male only . I have countless no of encounter with guys . But I do not want to be a gay . Its not my choice . I am help less . I try a lot but every time I fail . I know according to Islam its a Sin. I did fasting every alternative day for years . but no answer . I have been taking treatment from many psychiatrist since I aware that I am a gay( more then 15 years) . Still I am under treatment by psychiatrist; continuously since 2003 , But the surprise thing is all the psychiatrist are giving me counseling about accepting my sexual orientation that is homosexuality . Including Muslim psychiatrist .
I heard homosexuality is prohibited in the Quran and sahi Hadid . As per my survey Islam has all solution for the life then, why not in homosexuality ?
I do not act like a girl . I am handsome and muscular behave . In general people may think gays are act like a girl, but its not true at all . most of the gays are not act like a girl . there are very few gay people who act like a girl .
honestly speaking I am not happy . I do not want to live a gay life . I want to live a straight life . I do not want to go to hell . I hate my life . I tried to do suicide many times but I fail . Now I am thinking homosexuality is one of the biggest sin as well as suicide also . So, two wrong thing cant make correct a wrong . Then what to do ? I can not stop my homosexual feeling . What to do ?
Do u know any solution regarding my problem ? Do you know any psychiatrist who is giving treatment for reorientation within a reasonable price ? Can you ask to Allah for make me a normal human ? I am too tired . kindly help me . Its my request for Allah sake kindly help me .
from : I am sorry for not to disclose my name .
from : India . Bangalore.
I have very limited knowledge about Islam . And many doubt about Islam . But I love Islam from my inside and I disbelieve too . Very frequently I lost my believe . But I want constant believe in Islam . What to do for it ?
1 ). For my problems I went to church , temple and many pleases which are Allah don't like . I went to mosque . Am I became qafir now ?
2 ) since few days I stop going gym because I find difficult to control my gay feeling . Did I take right action ?
3 ) I start going mosque for Salah . I don't sleep whole night because I may lost the Jamat of Fajar .
4) I found enjoying Salah . But the problem is there are many handsome guys are coming to the mosque for salah . You know what I do ! I dont look at their face , I just enter the mosque and I keep my gaze in lower . I just keep watching floor only . My question is : Am I enjoying Salah Because I love Allah Or many guys are there in the mosque Or I am not feeling lonely , some one ( Allah) is there for take caring me ? Which is the actual reason ?
I need your more help . You can suggest me any lawful thing which can help me to over come from my Sin ...
Can you inform me that , which are the Quranic verse are talking about LUT (PBUH ) " I know only Surah HUD " . It will be more helpful for me If you give me a link of those verse in English translation .
Your brother . sorry for not mentioned my name .
Bangalore .
I am extremely sorry for not to disclose my name . I am a male . my age is 32 years . I am a Gay . As far my knowledge from child hood I feel attraction towards to male only . I have countless no of encounter with guys . But I do not want to be a gay . Its not my choice . I am help less . I try a lot but every time I fail . I know according to Islam its a Sin. I had sex with Islamic priest also . I had sex with many general Muslim people along with non Muslim people . I fond its a very common practice among the all type of males. I did fasting every alternative day for years . but no answer . I have been taking treatment from many psychiatrist since I aware that I am a gay( more then 15 years) . Still I am under treatment by psychiatrist; continuously since 2003 , But the surprise thing is all the psychiatrist are giving me counseling about accepting my sexual orientation that is homosexuality . Including Muslim psychiatrist .
I heard homosexuality is prohibited in the Quran and sahi Hadid . As per my survey Islam has all solution for the life then, why not in homosexuality ? I had sex with many Muslim married guy; that is the reason I do not believe the marriage is the solution for homosexuality . And still I am not married .
I do active role on bed , means I am top on bed ( I am not passive means I am not bottom on bed ). I do not act like a girl . I am handsome and muscular behave . In general people may think gays are act like a girl, but its not true at all . most of the gays are not act like a girl . there are very few gay people who act like a girl .
honestly speaking I am not happy . I do not want to live a gay life . I want to live a straight life . I do not want to go to hell . I hate my life . I tried to do suicide many times but I fail . Now I am thinking homosexuality is one of the biggest sin as well as suicide also . So, two wrong thing cant make correct a wrong . Then what to do ? I can not stop my homosexual feeling . What to do ?
Do u know any solution regarding my problem ? Do you know any psychiatrist who is giving treatment for reorientation within a reasonable price ? Can you ask to Allah for make me a normal human ? I am too tired . kindly help me . Its my request for Allah sake kindly help me .
from : I am sorry for not to disclose my name .
from : India . Bangalore.
Asalaamu Alaikum, jazakallahu khayran for having the courage to share your issues with us. Please e mail the following organisation as they specialise in helping and supporting Muslims who are going through what you are going through with regards to attraction to the same sex.
Hope that helps inshallah. Meanwhile my brother know that Allah is with you so strive to be closer to him and beg of him to help you with this matter. Surely this is a test for you so be patient and continue to persevere. Never give up hope for that is what shaythan wants. Allah is wanting you closer to him so do everything in your daily life to please him and refrain from anything which angers or displeases him.
Therefore you must refrain from ever having any same sex relations again no matter how hard it maybe. Just like you find attraction in the same sex and that is your test then surely those who are attracted to the oppossite sex also have desires but they still refrain from having haraam relations with them.
You must fear Allah and imagine him watching your every move because he is actually watching you and everything you do. You must persevere through this test by patience and determination. Many who have the same trials as you have overcome this issue so there is nothing stopping you from being of those people who conquered these trials.
With Allah by your side ANYTHING is possible and Allah is with those who are patient and the reward of patience is Paradise!
Here are some tips for you to help you overcome your issues:
1. Avoid watching innappropriate programs on TV and movies as these will ignite passions inside of you. Instead get the knolwedge package on Sky and watch programs where you can learn from as well as Islamic channels as there are plenty on Sky.
2. Avoid going to the mall and the market place as much as possible and ONLY go if it is absolutley necessery as these places are teeming with shaythan and are places where much passions are ignited especially those who cannot keep their gaze low.
3. Always keep your gaze low and imagine that Allah is watching you and when you lower your gaze then imagine Allah rewarding you everytime and you will feel the sweetness of imaan. It will not happen overnight but anyone can master it eventually if they really want to and put the required effort into it.
4. Avoid being alone as much as possible. Shaythan plays with the minds of those who sit around idle and not doing anything. Find good company and stay in this good company. Spend time with your family and close ones(Not Non mahrams) Find good company and stay in this good company.The best company are those who lead you towards good and not those who lead you in the wrong direction. Avoid bad company as they are poison for you and will cause you to have more desires.
5. If you are associated with other persons having this same problem, you must break off their friendship. Never associate with other people having the same weakness. Don't suppose that two of you will quit together, you never will. You must get away from people of that kind. Just to be in their presence will keep your problem foremost in your mind. The problem must be taken out of your mind for that is where it really exists. Your mind must be on other and more wholesome things.
6. Never read pornographic material especially on the internet as these images will be stored in your head and it will make your problem worse. Try to keep your gaze low at all times. Never read about your problem. Keep it out of mind. Remember -- "First a thought, then an act." The thought pattern must be changed. You must not allow this problem to remain in your mind. When you accomplish that, you soon will be free of the act inshallah. But be patient and with patience will come victory. This is a test so you will be rewarded as long as you are patient and persevere. Allah is with those who are patient and the reward of patience is Paradise!
7. Put wholesome thoughts into your mind at all times. Read good Islamic books, the life of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) and his seerah, the life after death. There SO many interesting topics to read and learn about. Make a daily habit of reading at least one juz(Chapter) of Qur'an with its meanings.
Reading the Qur'an everyday with its meanings will bring countless blessings and rewards and bring you closer to Allah as well as keep you busy and occupied therefore keeping your mind off this problem.
8. Make much dua. But when you make dua don't just make dua about this problem, for that will tend to keep it in your mind more than ever. Make dua for increase of your iman(faith), Make dua for understanding of the Islam and the Qur'an, Make dua for your family and ALL Muslims especially the ones that are being oprressed, Pray for the sick and that we all unite as one. keep the problem out of your mind by not mentioning it ever --not in conversation with others, not inso much in your dua's. keep it out of your mind because if you keep mentioning it then it will stay in your mind!
9. Fast. You may have tried it before and it did'nt work but how can it work if we don't change our eating habits? If we eat little just to satisfy our stomachs then our fasting will be effective and restrict our sexual urges and capability's. But if we carry on over eating after our fasts then that food will impact on the stomach which will impact on our desires. So restrict the amount you eat before and after fasting and you will feel the benefits of fasting to stop your urges.
10. Finally the best solution of all- GET MARRIED. Give some urgency to your family about the need for you to get married sooner rather than later. You may think you are not ready but marriage is the solution to these problems and i have heard of many cases where those with the same sex tendancies like yourself have "given up" these thoughts forcefully and married and are now happy and with children. Yes it may not be easy but with striving you will get there.
Tell your family of the benefits of getting married early and that it is a sunnah as the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) recommended it as it will help avoid haraam(Forbidden) relations with non mahrams and getting married early will help eradicate this problem and mean that one can indulge in their sexual urges and desires legitamatley as well as recieve reward for it. The main reason why there is so many haraam relations out there is for the fact that our families are not getting their children married early enough as the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) advised.
May Allah keep us away form anything that angers and displeases him. Ameen
These articles wil help you to Maximise the amount of good deeds you do everyday inshallah:
I have very limited knowledge about Islam . And many doubt about Islam . But I love Islam from my inside and I disbelieve too . Very frequently I lost my believe . But I want constant believe in Islam . What to do for it ?
its ok, you are still at the begining of the road to Allah and you need not to try to be a scholar from the first time, try your best my respected brother to learn about Islam gradually and slowly and step by step , never push yourself so hard cause that would frustrate you and force ya to give up early...May Allah never make you give up ever and May He increase you in piousness and righteousness and keep you firm on the right and straight path always and forever Ameeeeen
1 ). For my problems I went to church , temple and many pleases which are Allah don't like . I went to mosque . Am I became qafir now ?
Don`t disappoint yourself like that, you are still searching and trying to find the truth and the peace of your heart and soul and as long as you went to the mosque then be happy; cause you have found the first stopping place which will lead your way to Allah and makes you get closer to Him in shaa Allah...
you just need to be patient with everything you will face and as I see ; you are trying your best and I am praying to Allah to help ya and give you the strength to bear all difficulties you would face till you grab the rope of Allah strongly and stand strong on your feet like a steel wall against all temptations and difficulties by Allah`s Willing...
2 ) since few days I stop going gym because I find difficult to control my gay feeling . Did I take right action ?
Yes, of course you did, well done my noble brother walk to Allah and never stop cause surely you will find Him when you look for Him sincerely...May Allah be with you Ameeeen
3 ) I start going mosque for Salah . I don't sleep whole night because I may lost the Jamat of Fajar .
see, you are a Muslim; cause this is the deed and act of the Muslim; someone who loves Allah someone who cares of the satisfaction of his Lord May Allah keep you firm on His path Ameeeen I am happy for you...really happy and can not express how I do feel right now....
4) I found enjoying Salah . But the problem is there are many handsome guys are coming to the mosque for salah . You know what I do ! I dont look at their face , I just enter the mosque and I keep my gaze in lower . I just keep watching floor only . My question is : Am I enjoying Salah Because I love Allah Or many guys are there in the mosque Or I am not feeling lonely , some one ( Allah) is there for take caring me ? Which is the actual reason ?
The real reason is: as long as you are having that fear of losing the Jamaat salat, enjoying Salat, trying to lower your gaze and burden yourself by gazing at the floor to not let those feelings attack you then you are a good slave of Allah who is trying his best to please His Lord, fighting withing himself to stay a way from what Allah had forbade him to do...you are not there to displease Allah but to worship Him right doing your best to win His pleasure and love...go a head and never stop you are on the right path by Allah`s Willing...
you are managing it amazingly and I am feeling your beautiful determination and your strong desire to improve yourself; can you feel now that you can do it? it is not hard when you start trying and give yourself a push to be better...you have an amazing white heart so, let that whiteness reflect on you and never let anyone disappoint you ever cause you are better than those who knows not the mercy and knows not how Allah Is full of Kindness to (His) slaves and servants...
I need your more help . You can suggest me any lawful thing which can help me to over come from my Sin ... Can you inform me that , which are the Quranic verse are talking about LUT (PBUH ) " I know only Surah HUD " . It will be more helpful for me If you give me a link of those verse in English translation .
Your brother . sorry for not mentioned my name . Bangalore .
our respected and noble brother Hamzah wrote what you asked for beautifuly so, please read what he has posted and try to learn and put them into effect by Allah`s Willing...
here you are a link about Lut (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) story:
and here you are where you can find Lut (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) in Qur`aan:
"And [We had sent] Lot when he said to his people, "Do you commit such immorality as no one has preceded you with from among the worlds? (80) Indeed, you approach men with desire, instead of women. Rather, you are a transgressing people." (81)But the answer of his people was only that they said, "Evict them from your city! Indeed, they are men who keep themselves pure." (82) So We saved him and his family, except for his wife; she was of those who remained [with the evildoers]. (83) And We rained upon them a rain [of stones]. Then see how was the end of the criminals. (84)"
Surat Al Aaraaff
"And when the fright had left Abraham and the good tidings had reached him, he began to argue with Us concerning the people of Lot. (74) Indeed, Abraham was forbearing, grieving and [frequently] returning [to Allah]. (75) [The angels said], "O Abraham, give up this [plea]. Indeed, the command of your Lord has come, and indeed, there will reach them a punishment that cannot be repelled." (76) And when Our messengers, [the angels], came to Lot, he was anguished for them and felt for them great discomfort and said, "This is a trying day." (77) And his people came hastening to him, and before [this] they had been doing evil deeds. He said, "O my people, these are my daughters; they are purer for you. So fear Allah and do not disgrace me concerning my guests. Is there not among you a man of reason?" (78) They said, "You have already known that we have not concerning your daughters any claim, and indeed, you know what we want." (79) He said, "If only I had against you some power or could take refuge in a strong support." (80) The angels said, "O Lot, indeed we are messengers of your Lord; [therefore], they will never reach you. So set out with your family during a portion of the night and let not any among you look back - except your wife; indeed, she will be struck by that which strikes them. Indeed, their appointment is [for] the morning. Is not the morning near?" (81)So when Our command came, We made the highest part [of the city] its lowest and rained upon them stones of layered hard clay, [which were] (82) Marked from your Lord. And Allah 's punishment is not from the wrongdoers [very] far. (83) "
Surat Hood
"And tell them about the guests (the angels) of Ibrahim (Abraham). (51) When they entered unto him, and said: Salaman (peace)! [Ibrahim (Abraham)] said: "Indeed! We are afraid of you." (52) They (the angels) said: "Do not be afraid! We give you glad tidings of a boy (son) possessing much knowledge and wisdom." (53) [Ibrahim (Abraham)] said: "Do you give me glad tidings (of a son) when old age has overtaken me? Of what then is your news?" (54) They (the angels) said: "We give you glad tidings in truth. So be not of the despairing ones." (55) [Ibrahim (Abraham)] said: "And who despairs of the Mercy of his Lord except those who are astray?" (56) [Ibrahim (Abraham) again] said: "What then is the business on which you have come, O Messengers?" (57) They (the angels) said: "We have been sent to a people who are Mujrimun (criminals, disbelievers, polytheists, sinners). (58) "(All) except the family of Lout (Lot). Them all we are surely going to save (from destruction). (59) "Except his wife, of whom We have decreed that she shall be of those who remain behind (i.e. she will be destroyed)." (60) Then, when the Messengers (the angels) came unto the family of Lout (Lot). (61) He said: "Verily! You are people unknown to me." (62) They said: "Nay, we have come to you with that (torment) which they have been doubting. (63) "And we have brought to you the truth (the news of the destruction of your nation) and certainly, we tell the truth. (64) "Then travel in a part of the night with your family, and you go behind them in the rear, and let no one amongst you look back, but go on to where you are ordered." (65) And We made known this decree to him, that the root of those (sinners) was to be cut off in the early morning. (66) And the inhabitants of the city came rejoicing (at the news of the young men's arrival). (67) [Lout (Lot)] said: "Verily! these are my guests, so shame me not. (68) "And fear Allah and disgrace me not." (69) They (people of the city) said: "Did we not forbid you to entertain (or protect) any of the 'Alamin (people, foreigners, strangers, etc. from us)?" (70)[Lout (Lot)] said: "These (the girls of the nation) are my daughters (to marry lawfully), if you must act (so)." (71) Verily, by your life (O Muhammad SAW), in their wild intoxication, they were wandering blindly. (72) So As-Saihah (torment - awful cry, etc.) overtook them at the time of sunrise; (73) And We turned (the towns of Sodom in Palestine) upside down and rained down on them stones of baked clay. (74) Surely! In this are signs, for those who see (or understand or learn the lessons from the Signs of Allah). (75) And verily! They (the cities) were right on the highroad (from Makkah to Syria i.e. the place where the Dead Sea is now). (76) Surely! Therein is indeed a sign for the believers. (77)"
Surat Al Hijir
" And to Lot We gave judgement and knowledge, and We saved him from the city that was committing wicked deeds. Indeed, they were a people of evil, defiantly disobedient. (74)"
Surat Al Anbiyaa
"The people of Lot denied the messengers (160) When their brother Lot said to them, "Will you not fear Allah? (161) Indeed, I am to you a trustworthy messenger. (162) So fear Allah and obey me. (163) And I do not ask you for it any payment. My payment is only from the Lord of the worlds. (164) Do you approach males among the worlds (165) And leave what your Lord has created for you as mates? But you are a people transgressing." (166) They said, "If you do not desist, O Lot, you will surely be of those evicted." (167) He said, "Indeed, I am, toward your deed, of those who detest [it]. (168) My Lord, save me and my family from [the consequence of] what they do." (169) So We saved him and his family, all, (170) Except an old woman among those who remained behind. (171) Then We destroyed the others. (172) And We rained upon them a rain [of stones], and evil was the rain of those who were warned. (173) Indeed in that is a sign, but most of them were not to be believers. (174)"
Surat Ashuaraa
"And [mention] Lot, when he said to his people, "Do you commit immorality while you are seeing? (54) Do you indeed approach men with desire instead of women? Rather, you are a people behaving ignorantly." (55) But the answer of his people was not except that they said, "Expel the family of Lot from your city. Indeed, they are people who keep themselves pure." (56) So We saved him and his family, except for his wife; We destined her to be of those who remained behind. (57) And We rained upon them a rain [of stones], and evil was the rain of those who were warned. (58)"
Surat Annaml
"And (remember) Lout (Lot), when he said to his people: "You commit Al-Fahishah (sodomy the worst sin) which none has preceded you in (committing) it in the 'Alamin (mankind and jinns)." (28) "Verily, you do sodomy with men, and rob the wayfarer (travellers, etc.)! And practise Al-Munkar (disbelief and polytheism and every kind of evil wicked deed) in your meetings." But his people gave no answer except, that they said: "Bring Allah's Torment upon us if you are one of the truthful." (29) He said: "My Lord! Give me victory over the people who are Mufsidun (those who commit great crimes and sins, oppressors, tyrants, mischief-makers, corrupts). (30) And when Our Messengers came to Ibrahim (Abraham) with the glad tidings they said: "Verily, we are going to destroy the people of this [Lout's (Lot's)] town (i.e. the town of Sodom in Palestine) truly, its people have been Zalimun [wrong-doers, polytheists and disobedient to Allah, and have also belied their Messenger Lout (Lot)]." (31) Ibrahim (Abraham) said: "But there is Lout (Lot) in it." They said:"We know better who is there, we will verily save him [Lout (Lot)] and his family, except his wife, she will be of those who remain behind (i.e. she will be destroyed along with those who will be destroyed from her folk)." (32) And when Our Messengers came to Lout (Lot), he was grieved because of them, and felt straitened on their account. They said: "Have no fear, and do not grieve! Truly, we shall save you and your family, except your wife, she will be of those who remain behind (i.e. she will be destroyed along with those who will be destroyed from her folk). (33) Verily, we are about to bring down on the people of this town a great torment from the sky, because they have been rebellious (against Allah's Command)." (34) And indeed We have left thereof an evident Ayah (a lesson and a warning and a sign the place where the Dead Sea is now in Palestine) for a folk who understand. (35) "
Surat Al Ankaboot
I hope that would help ya my respected brother and as our noble brother Hamzah said:
If you need any help, advice or anything at all then please do not hesitate to ask.
And Allah knows best in all matters
May Allah lead your way to the path of the endless happiness Ameeen
please take care of yourself and remember that you are so precious to us and we will take your hand and help ya after Allah and you got to know that there is no need to tell about your name cause I allreday knew it and all of us here ; it is:
Thank you for supporting me . Allah will surely give you Jannah .
please done leave me alone after knowing my truth . The truth is : I born in a Muslim family but I was not Muslim . I always opposed Islam .
I was using Toxin such as Alcohol , weed, etc , I did not mingle with Muslim people. And I was born in a non Muslim location means there are no Muslim family surrounding my birth place . Only 5 houses are there in my birth city that also not together , there are far distance between each houses . hardly we know each other. No body using Hijab in that city ( female muslim nor male muslim ) including my family .
My father believe in " Pir Majar " ( death people ) whereas Majar are not available in that city . He use to go other city to pray Majar . He always talk about Majar which I don't like .
My elder brother is a sexual addict he is 4 years elder then me and he is married even .
I didn't like my mother because I feel shame when I see her bally and upper part of breast . Al-tho I was bounded to leave my house when I was 14 years old . But still I can see my mother's bally and upper part of breast whenever I remember her . I am extremely sorry for it . And she is no more now , she expired . And many extreme incident has happened in my life which are related with sex only .
many guys had sex with me which are come into my relatives when I was child .
People say I was very joyful guy till the age of 10/11 years . I was looking very cute and healthy .still I remember few incident and I thought , I could not be a gay if those incident might not be happened with me . One of my Uncle ( which is not close relation ) had sex with me when I was 12 years old and that uncle was studying in degree he must be 21 or 22 years old . after that one of my cousin he was around 19/20 years old . after that another cousin he was also 20/21 years old . It was happening frequently . I could not complain with any one . I remember initially I felt very odd and irritating and dirty .
I was scaring at night , i could not sleep alone . I was sleeping in my brother room till my age of 11 years after that my brother didn't allow me to sleep his room . But I could not sleep alone in my room . So every sun set brings me a lot of fear . I still remember that fear how strong it was . So I always waiting for guest . And I wanted to go my relatives places which are in another state for that most of the time I insist my parents . Most of the time my parents beating me when they cant control my insist . and most of the time they bounded to send me any relative houses because I was start creating problem in the house .
It was became every day problem in my house . Finally my parents decided to send me in the hostel . I went to hostel at the age of 14 years. And the hostel I found same sex is very common . I didn't like it . when I told to my parents that, I dont want to stay in the hostel . I want to stay with you . But they were not agree to keep me in home . Because I was crazy . I told to my father if you dont allow me to stay some were else then I will kill my self . after that my father send me to his another house with one of a old lady as a maid (when I was 15 years old) ; which is located in another state and that house is very close to one of my uncle house only 3 km distance . But my homosexual activity was not stop because one of my another cousin he use to come my place he was around 22years old .
after my graduation I came to Bangalore which is 3000( three thousand) km far from my native . since 2004 I am here only .after that I visited my native 4 time only that also for 3 or 5 days only .
Now you tell am I still Muslim ?
I would like to share you one more problem . that is , I am suffering from OCD and ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION along with HOMOSEXUAL PROBLEM . Because of this reason I go to psychiatrist I need to use some medication . According to me; all my problems are related with my homosexuality but my psychiatrist are not agree . They are telling me that homosexuality is not a problem neither Sin nor Unnatural . I should be accept it . I never accept it . I cant accept it . because of this reason I use to fight with my psychiatrist ( not physically ) . and they increase my dosage . And those medicines are take me some other world I start feeling happy .I feel lust only . My psychiatrists are giving me counseling for enjoy my life . they always telling me who seen the life after death . and many thing they suggest me to go Gay organization . they introduced me gay dating sites . and many gay organization . ETC...
I have stop meeting psychiatrist and taking medicine too since one and half month . Because I don't want to use those medicine which increases lust only and provide me false happiness . But at the same time those medicines help me about my " OCD and ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION " .
I am scaring now because I may feel OCD, ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION again, Since one and half month I am not taking medicine , It may come back at any time . I don't want to meet any non true Muslim psychiatrist neither non Muslim psychiatrist . What to do ?
I really didn't understand about your this statement :- " you got to know that there is no need to tell about your name cause I allreday knew it and all of us here ; it is: "
You mean to say , you know me ? How did you know me ? If you know me even please don't disclose my identity please . its my humble request . For Allah sake please don't disclose my identity please
I am wary that , may give you more trouble by asking so many question . please let me inform If I do any misbehave !
1). In generally start crying means my tear falls automatically whenever I listen about Islam about Mohammad (PBUH) about Allah no mater where I am . I may be at home alone , may be in mosque may be in public place . which is embarrassed me . Why its happening with me ? how did I stop it ?
2). I feel sleep after reading Quran or offering Salah . I don't even have energy to move that place , I feel to sleep over there where I reed or listen Quran or offering Salah ( some time while listing ). Why is happening with me ? Am I very weak in physically ? Is there any thing wrong with me or with my body ?
I am giving you trouble after trouble . This time my question is How to do Shada ? Am I need to go any places , Am I need to declare Shada in officially ?
I am sorry to mentioned here about my Mother . please pray for her . she is no more . she expired long back ago . But my mom was wearing Hijab after offering Haj . So please pray for her . It is my mistake so that I think wrong way . She was a very good lady . I love her .
But Allah is great . Allah has given me another mom . My father got another marry after my mom . you may not believe me She is a very good lady , she is nice in talking , I didn't meet her due to distance and mismatching time . But we talk over the phone . And she loves me . very soon I will meet her .
so please forgive me , and please pray for my mom who is no more in this world .
why to leave your side my respected brother, you are my brother our brother and everyone here is wishing you guidance and happiness...
and we are all part of each other and The Prophet said, "A faithful believer to a faithful believer is like the bricks of a wall, enforcing each other." While (saying that) the Prophet clasped his hands, by interlacing his fingers.
and also Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: The similitude of believers in regard to mutual love, affection, fellow-feeling is that of one body; when any limb of it aches, the whole body aches, because of sleeplessness and fever.
and says:" The believers are like one person; if his head aches, the whole body aches with fever and sleeplessness.
"Muslims are like one body of a person; if the eye is sore, the whole body aches, and if the head aches, the whole body aches".
we won`t leave ya ever by Allah`s willing...and May Allah have mercy on your precious mother and all the Ummah Ameeen
your past is not your fault, you have been used and abused but now you are mature can defend yourself and can correct your mistakes and more aware of wrong and right ...try your best to be good and I am sure that you are....
you are a Muslim as long as you believe that there is no god but Allah and Muhammad is His messenger and I know that you have this in your pure heart May Allah preserve you Ameeeeeeen
if you want to renew you faith just say the Shahada:
Ash`hadu anna laa ilaha illa Allaah wa ash`hadu anna Muhammadan Rasullah...say it loudly and you will feel something happening to your heart say it over and over till you feel comfortable...
and you are not bothering me or burdening me or troubling me at all my noble brother I am happy helping a brother of mine Alhamdulilah...in shaa Allah will come back again to answer your other Qs cause now I am tired and feeling sleepy cause I took the pill of Allergy which causing me weakness and make me sleepy...
what are your fears my respected brother? tell us and empty your heart and we may find a solution by Allah`s Willing and Mercy...
1). In generally start crying means my tear falls automatically whenever I listen about Islam about Mohammad (PBUH) about Allah no mater where I am . I may be at home alone , may be in mosque may be in public place . which is embarrassed me . Why its happening with me ? how did I stop it ?
why to stop this my respected brother? this is a great proof that your heart has been softened by the Qur`aan and the rememberance of Allah and became alive again cause you returned to Allah and cause you are striving for His sake now...cry my respected brother as much as you can cause those tears may save you after Allah from hellfire...
The Prophet of Allah Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him )said:"Seven people will be shaded by Allah under His shade on the day when there will be no shade except His. They are: (1) a just ruler; (2) a young man who has been brought up in the worship of Allah, (i.e. worship Allah (Alone) sincerely from his childhood), (3) a man whose heart is attached to the mosque (who offers the five compulsory congregational prayers in the mosque); (4) two persons who love each other only for Allah's sake and they meet and part in Allah's cause only; (5) a man who refuses the call of a charming woman of noble birth for an illegal sexual intercourse with her and says: I am afraid of Allah; (6) a person who practices charity so secretly that his left hand does not know what his right hand has given (i.e. nobody knows how much he has given in charity). (7) a person who remembers Allah in seclusion and his eyes get flooded with tears."
2). I feel sleep after reading Quran or offering Salah . I don't even have energy to move that place , I feel to sleep over there where I reed or listen Quran or offering Salah ( some time while listing ). Why is happening with me ? Am I very weak in physically ? Is there any thing wrong with me or with my body ?
There is nothing wrong with you body, this is the comfort you feel for hearing and listening to the words of Allah; Who says:"Who have believed and whose hearts have rest in the remembrance of Allah. Verily in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest! (28) Surat Arra`ad
format_quote Originally Posted by hopeonallah
really didn't understand about your this statement :- " you got to know that there is no need to tell about your name cause I allreday knew it and all of us here ; it is: " You mean to say , you know me ? How did you know me ? If you know me even please don't disclose my identity please . its my humble request . For Allah sake please don't disclose my identity please
I don`t know your real identity , read again what I have said, read the whole line... let me quote it for ya:
format_quote Originally Posted by Amat Allah
there is no need to tell about your name cause I allreday knew it and all of us here ; it is: MY BROTHER no matter what you are...
this is your name that all the members here know about : OUR precious and dear BROTHER
May Allah be with you , increase you Iman and Taqwa and keep you firm on the staright path and guide your way and your family way to the path of truth and real happiness always and forever Ameeeeen
I am waiting for you reply regarding my this Query which one I already posted you :
[ I would like to share you one more problem . that is , I am suffering from OCD and ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION along with HOMOSEXUAL PROBLEM . Because of this reason I go to psychiatrist I need to use some medication . According to me; all my problems are related with my homosexuality but my psychiatrist are not agree . They are telling me that homosexuality is not a problem neither Sin nor Unnatural . I should be accept it . I never accept it . because of this reason I use to fight with my psychiatrist ( not physically ) . and they increase my dosage . And those medicines are take me some other world I start feeling happy .I feel lust only . My psychiatrists are giving me counseling for enjoy my life . they always telling me who seen the life after death . and many thing they suggest me to go Gay organization . they introduced me gay dating sites . and many gay organization . ETC...
I have stop meeting psychiatrist and taking medicine too since one and half month . Because I don't want to use those medicine which increases lust only and provide me false happiness . But at the same time those medicines help me about my " OCD and ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION " .
I am scaring now because I may feel OCD, ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION again, Since one and half month I am not taking medicine , It may come back at any time . I don't want to meet any non true Muslim psychiatrist neither non Muslim psychiatrist . What to do ? ]
second thing :- I have thrown out all toxin such as weed from my house yesterday . I have been not drinking alcohol nor even using any other toxin since one and half months . I am not having sex since one month .
But I masturbated yesterday by watching a gay porn movie . Today I have deleted all porn movie from my system.
I have many profiles in the many gay dating sites . But I don't have dare to log on those sites for deleting my profiles. I am thinking if I log on those sites for deleting my profile I may involve on it rather then delete my profile .
I don't have any straight friends . I have only Gay friends whereas I stop meeting them since one month. But I got few knowledge regarding homosexuality and Islam . those are :
1) some one says Islam never prohibited Homosexuality, Islam prohibited few actions of homosexuality same as heterosexuality .
Islam has limitation on heterosexuality such as " not having sex without spouse , ultimate time of pregnancy , not in public place , no group sex etc .
similarly Islam has some limitation on Homosexuality .
A). some one saying ; Islam prohibited only sodomy (means anal intercross) not homosexuality . [ I personally knows may gays who don't like sodomy, they just do oral and foreplay ].
B) some other saying ; Islam allow homosexuality until they don't do anal intercross and not Oral sex on sexual organ such as penis and anal . rest of the activity between two guys Islam allows .
[ I personally know many gays they dont do hard core sex ].
C).some other saying ; Islam allow homo sex if two guys dont remove their cloths from navel to knee rest of the activity is allow [ here again I mentioned that I know such gays who don't like to remove their lower parts of cloth ].
D). some one saying ; Islam allow homo sex if two guys don't remove their cloths from navel to knee and don't smooch ( means not deep France kiss, not deep mouth to mouth kiss) only body play kissing , hugging , sleeping together are allow in Islam . [ Again I m saying I know this type of gays also ].
Now question is above mentioned are truths? If Its truths then how much is truths ? If not truths then how much is not truths ?
Again I got some information that, Islam is not correct regarding HOMO SEX rest of the thing is correct in ISLAM . because scientifically PROVED that HOMO SEX is absolutely normal and general , few human beings are born as a homo, few are born as EUNUCH , few are born as a Bisexual, many are born as a straight . majority people are straights that's the reason majority people think all are not correct except straights. Its true or false ? and How much its true or false ? What the scientist are telling regarding Homo sex ? Is their any scientific prove ? Or scientist are also confuse ? Please educate me about this issue ...
I have seen, After after a certain time the administrator close threads . we user don't know about their closing time of threads. They may close my threads at any time . then what I will do to contact you ?
I have seen, After after a certain time the administrator close threads . we user don't know about their closing time of threads. They may close my threads at any time . then what I will do to contact you ?
As long as a thread is not violating any forum rules or resulting in personal attacks, numerous off topic replies, we do not close it.
We have no time setting for closing threads. Some threads have been open for several years and some threads get closed almost as soon as they are started..
I am waiting for you reply regarding my this Query which one I already posted you :
[ I would like to share you one more problem . that is , I am suffering from OCD and ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION along with HOMOSEXUAL PROBLEM . Because of this reason I go to psychiatrist I need to use some medication . According to me; all my problems are related with my homosexuality but my psychiatrist are not agree . They are telling me that homosexuality is not a problem neither Sin nor Unnatural . I should be accept it . I never accept it . because of this reason I use to fight with my psychiatrist ( not physically ) . and they increase my dosage . And those medicines are take me some other world I start feeling happy .I feel lust only . My psychiatrists are giving me counseling for enjoy my life . they always telling me who seen the life after death . and many thing they suggest me to go Gay organization . they introduced me gay dating sites . and many gay organization . ETC... I have stop meeting psychiatrist and taking medicine too since one and half month . Because I don't want to use those medicine which increases lust only and provide me false happiness . But at the same time those medicines help me about my " OCD and ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION " . I am scaring now because I may feel OCD, ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION again, Since one and half month I am not taking medicine , It may come back at any time . I don't want to meet any non true Muslim psychiatrist neither non Muslim psychiatrist . What to do ? ]
Thats why I asked you above about your fears my respected brother; to answer that part of your Qs...to know if the fears you have are those kind of fears which needs medications or the kind of fears which a normal person may have?
to be honest with you, I believe that there is nothing wrong with you and you have no mental disorders... but what I believe that; your childhood and being away from Allah had affected your life and made you so confused, lost and puzzleheaded feeling that you are ill...so, you turn to those psychs to solve your problems and to end your suffering but instead of studying your situation deeply and understand your problem and its causes; they pushed you to the abyss by convincing you of something that you are not and feeding you drugs to make you numb and to believe that you are a gay and that it is pretty normal to be...AstagferoAllah...
if it was from the nature of human to be gay then Allah would never punish the people of the Prophet Lut (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) sodomy is nothing but a sin and I know that you believe in that cause this is what Allah made from our nature ; to hate wrong things and to be aware of them to feel and stay away from them...
those psychs act with you as psychs but not as humans and that won`t surprise me cause they know not Allah and fear not His wrath...
you said:
Since one and half month I am not taking medicine, It may come back at any time
you left your medications for one month and a half and fearing that you may feel OCD, ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION again?
my respected brother, if you are really sick as those people said then why you didn`t have OCD, ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION uptill this moment? why not having them before a month from now or let me say before few days from now? tell me why; while you left your medications since one month and a half? are you sure that you are sick?
I don`t think you need those medications which left you drugged and increased your sufferance and dragged you to the edge of hell...
my respected broether Allah saved you now and gave you so much of chances to change so ,don`t let anything stand in your way and stop you ever...
your cure now and always is Allah and the way of life He made for us so, run to your Lord and I am sure that you are running now cause from what I read I can feel that you are not running to Allah but flying , May Allah help you more and more and be your guide to lead your way to Him Ameeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen
second thing :- I have thrown out all toxin such as weed from my house yesterday . I have been not drinking alcohol nor even using any other toxin since one and half months . I am not having sex since one month .
But I masturbated yesterday by watching a gay porn movie . Today I have deleted all porn movie from my system.
May Allah be pleased with you for doing those things Ameeeeeen everytime I read your posts I become happier and that from the grace and mercy of Allah...all Praise , Glory and Thanks be to Allah....
ask Allah for His forgiveness and you allready knew How Allah Is Merciful to us and try your best to avoid sining and do much good deeds as much as you can bear in shaa Allah...its ok you are trying and still improving Ma shaa Allah, keep going and never stop , you are amazing my respected brother...May Allah bless ya Ameeen
I have many profiles in the many gay dating sites . But I don't have dare to log on those sites for deleting my profiles. I am thinking if I log on those sites for deleting my profile I may involve on it rather then delete my profile .
don`t go there just delete those sites from you PC and forget about them , there is no need to enter them for any reason just leave them May Allah be pleased with you Ameeen
I don't have any straight friends
don`t worry , in shaa Allah you will find them soon and you already have us all here not only as friends but as brothers and sisters supporting you after Allah The Most Exalted.
I have only Gay friends whereas I stop meeting them since one month. But I got few knowledge regarding homosexuality and Islam . those are :
1) some one says Islam never prohibited Homosexuality, Islam prohibited few actions of homosexuality same as heterosexuality .
Islam has limitation on heterosexuality such as " not having sex without spouse , ultimate time of pregnancy , not in public place , no group sex etc .
similarly Islam has some limitation on Homosexuality .
A). some one saying ; Islam prohibited only sodomy (means anal intercross) not homosexuality . [ I personally knows may gays who don't like sodomy, they just do oral and foreplay ].
B) some other saying ; Islam allow homosexuality until they don't do anal intercross and not Oral sex on sexual organ such as penis and anal . rest of the activity between two guys Islam allows . [ I personally know many gays they dont do hard core sex ].
C).some other saying ; Islam allow homo sex if two guys dont remove their cloths from navel to knee rest of the activity is allow [ here again I mentioned that I know such gays who don't like to remove their lower parts of cloth ].
D). some one saying ; Islam allow homo sex if two guys don't remove their cloths from navel to knee and don't smooch ( means not deep France kiss, not deep mouth to mouth kiss) only body play kissing , hugging , sleeping together are allow in Islam . [ Again I m saying I know this type of gays also ].
Now question is above mentioned are truths? If Its truths then how much is truths ? If not truths then how much is not truths ?
Again I got some information that, Islam is not correct regarding HOMO SEX rest of the thing is correct in ISLAM . because scientifically PROVED that HOMO SEX is absolutely normal and general , few human beings are born as a homo, few are born as EUNUCH , few are born as a Bisexual, many are born as a straight . majority people are straights that's the reason majority people think all are not correct except straights. Its true or false ? and How much its true or false ? What the scientist are telling regarding Homo sex ? Is their any scientific prove ? Or scientist are also confuse ? Please educate me about this issue ...
Your Qs above are so detalied and it is so hard for me answering such Qs and also I don`t have the proper knowledge about them but surely most of what you have mentioned above are lies , in shaa Allah one of the brothers will answer your above Qs ...
Thank you a lot of your patience
You are very welcome my respected brother and never hesitate asking help whenever you need it in shaa Allah...
format_quote Originally Posted by hopeonallah
assala mu aliqum my dear sister " Amat allah "
format_quote Originally Posted by hopeonallah
I have seen, After after a certain time the administrator close threads . we user don't know about their closing time of threads. They may close my threads at any time . then what I will do to contact you ?
as our respected brother Woodrow said May Allah love him Ameeen they won`t close anything till someone breaks the rules ...
May Allah guide you more and more and keep you firm on the straight path and all the Ummah Ameeen
and Allah knows the best...
Last edited by Amat Allah; 03-14-2011 at 04:52 AM.
just to let you know my respected brother, I am neither a scholar nor a doctor and I am only one of Allah`s slave trying to help one of her brothers....
I am waiting for you reply regarding my this Query which one I already posted you :
[ I would like to share you one more problem . that is , I am suffering from OCD and ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION along with HOMOSEXUAL PROBLEM . Because of this reason I go to psychiatrist I need to use some medication . According to me; all my problems are related with my homosexuality but my psychiatrist are not agree . They are telling me that homosexuality is not a problem neither Sin nor Unnatural . I should be accept it . I never accept it . because of this reason I use to fight with my psychiatrist ( not physically ) . and they increase my dosage . And those medicines are take me some other world I start feeling happy .I feel lust only . My psychiatrists are giving me counseling for enjoy my life . they always telling me who seen the life after death . and many thing they suggest me to go Gay organization . they introduced me gay dating sites . and many gay organization . ETC...
I have stop meeting psychiatrist and taking medicine too since one and half month . Because I don't want to use those medicine which increases lust only and provide me false happiness . But at the same time those medicines help me about my " OCD and ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION " .
I am scaring now because I may feel OCD, ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION again, Since one and half month I am not taking medicine , It may come back at any time . I don't want to meet any non true Muslim psychiatrist neither non Muslim psychiatrist . What to do ? ]
Asalaamu Alaikum, I think you should urgently seek out a Muslim physician, psychologist and counsellor rather than non Muslim who will only give you advice contrary to the truth. They will only tell you things from their own perspective as non Muslims. Therefore you must seek out Muslim practisioners and with a little research you should be able to find one inshallah. Here is one in Delhi which i have found: http://jmi.nic.in/Fsoc/mhusain_ps.htm
format_quote Originally Posted by hopeonallah
second thing :- I have thrown out all toxin such as weed from my house yesterday. I have been not drinking alcohol nor even using any other toxin since one and half months . I am not having sex since one month.
Good for these are major sins and if you were to die whilst intoxicated then you would die without imaan for intoxiation and imaan cannot stay in the body together. Intoxication will only make your mental condition worse as well as making you more lustful and closer to shaythan. Therefore you must eradicate these evils from your life not for the meanwhile but FOREVER!
format_quote Originally Posted by hopeonallah
But I masturbated yesterday by watching a gay porn movie . Today I have deleted all porn movie from my system.
You must rid your life of pron for this is a disease which will only ever make your lust worse. Think whenever you arw about to watch porn that "Allah is watching me right now so why should i not have shame in front of my lord". Please read through this thread for tips on how to stop Masterbation:
I have many profiles in the many gay dating sites . But I don't have dare to log on those sites for deleting my profiles. I am thinking if I log on those sites for deleting my profile I may involve on it rather then delete my profile.
You do not have to delete them or ever log into them again. Do not even think about them again. Change your E mail address/es and delete your current ones. Make a fresh start to your life now and leave your past behind you learning lessons from your mistakes so that you can do things better now and the future.
format_quote Originally Posted by hopeonallah
I don't have any straight friends . I have only Gay friends whereas I stop meeting them since one month.
The first thing a person should do when they want to change is give up ones bad friends. Even though they may not be bad people in their hearts but what they are doing is bad and as long as you keep them as company then their bad influence will continue to rub off on you. Therefore you must change your number immediatley and ONLY give your number to those people whom you know will ONLY be a good influence on you.
When you change your number then Do NOT give your number to any gay person because this will not help you but you will only get back into old habits. The sameway a drug user who is wanting to give up drugs does not hang around with a fellow drug user otherwise they may slip back into bad habits.
Try to find good company. If not then best to be alone than to have such company that will lead you towards destruction. When the time is right you will find good company inshallah but for the meanwhile change your number immediatley.
format_quote Originally Posted by hopeonallah
But I got few knowledge regarding homosexuality and Islam . those are :
1) some one says Islam never prohibited Homosexuality, Islam prohibited few actions of homosexuality same as heterosexuality .
Islam has limitation on heterosexuality such as " not having sex without spouse , ultimate time of pregnancy , not in public place , no group sex etc .
similarly Islam has some limitation on Homosexuality .
A). some one saying ; Islam prohibited only sodomy (means anal intercross) not homosexuality . [ I personally knows may gays who don't like sodomy, they just do oral and foreplay ].
B) some other saying ; Islam allow homosexuality until they don't do anal intercross and not Oral sex on sexual organ such as penis and anal . rest of the activity between two guys Islam allows .
[ I personally know many gays they dont do hard core sex ].
C).some other saying ; Islam allow homo sex if two guys dont remove their cloths from navel to knee rest of the activity is allow [ here again I mentioned that I know such gays who don't like to remove their lower parts of cloth ].
D). some one saying ; Islam allow homo sex if two guys don't remove their cloths from navel to knee and don't smooch ( means not deep France kiss, not deep mouth to mouth kiss) only body play kissing , hugging , sleeping together are allow in Islam . [ Again I m saying I know this type of gays also ].
Now question is above mentioned are truths? If Its truths then how much is truths ? If not truths then how much is not truths?
Those indulging in evils such as homosexuality and other evils will obviously try to find loop holes and try to twist and change Islamic teachings to justify their evil actions.
I used to know a weed smoker who once said: " The Qur'an does not forbid weed, so its ok". The sameway those indulging in homosexuality will try to find a way in which they can still indulge in their lustful desires and they would even go as far as to say that as long as they do not do "this or that" then it is ok. There will always be people like this but they must be rejected and disregarded and they must be taught the truth. If they only want to believe their own "truth" then they will have to answer to Allah for twisiting and changing his laws to suit their own desires for which they will have to pay a heavy price for.
There is NO place in Islam for any relations or contact with a women outside marriage unlesss out of necessity. There is also NO place in Islam for any kind of homosexual contact or relations. This includes everything you have mentioned and any other contact between two members of the opposite sex who are attracted to each other. The ONLY solution is to AVOID such men and ONLY talk to them out of necessity.
Anyone who says otherwise is clearly trying to change Allah's laws to suit their own desires and these are the people who will suffer a terrible punishment unless they change their ways.
format_quote Originally Posted by hopeonallah
Again I got some information that, Islam is not correct regarding HOMO SEX rest of the thing is correct in ISLAM . because scientifically PROVED that HOMO SEX is absolutely normal and general , few human beings are born as a homo, few are born as EUNUCH , few are born as a Bisexual, many are born as a straight . majority people are straights that's the reason majority people think all are not correct except straights. Its true or false ? and How much its true or false ? What the scientist are telling regarding Homo sex ? Is their any scientific prove ? Or scientist are also confuse ? Please educate me about this issue ...
Thank you a lot of your patience .
Again those indulging in such vile practices will say anything to try and justify their evil. There has been a lot of scientific research done in order to establish whether a human is born with "Homosexual genes" or not and NO scientific test has proven that ANYONE is born with these genes. Therefore scientists conclude that homosexuality is not something a person is born with and it is certainly not genetic. So Science also disaproves what these people are saying.
A lot of the times homosexuality is a learnt behaviour and may have been acquired throughout ones early years and because of a lot of other external matters. You case is clear that what you went through in your early years may well have been what caused you to develop such feelings.
Some cases may also be a test just like women are a test for straight men then men may also be a test for gay men. Our test is that we do not act on our desires but rather we resist them for the pleasure of Allah and do not listen to the evil whispers of our eternal sworn enemy shaythan.
Eunachs were also around in the time of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wasallam) and were protectors of his blessed grave and were given a lot of high positions and honour in those days. Nowadays they are known a lot more for prostitution and dancing/singing etc. These people may also be tested as so many of us are tested in many different ways in our lives. You cannot ever think or say that you are being tested the most because you do not know what another person may be going through in life. Therefore you should be grateful for what you have. You should also thank Allah for he is wanting you to ebcome closer to him and of his obedient slaves.
You have got it in you to become a pious servant of his and the only one stopping you now is yourself. So strive and fight everyday to become closer to Allah and do EVERYTHING in your daily life to please Allah and refrain from anything which angers or displeases him.
Please check my last post in this thread for the tips i gave you to help you overcome this issue as well as many links which will help you to increase your good deeds and worship of Allah.
If you have anything else you want to share or ask then please do not hesitate to ask.
thank you for your supports .
Most of the people are using " Slave " word here such as your statement : I am neither a scholar nor a doctor and I am only one of Allah`s slave .
I really don't understand the words of " Allah's Slave " . Trust me whenever I heard this words I feel Allah is using us . Second thing : Is Allah's Slave is greater then scholar and doctors ?
Actually I started meeting with doctors after knowing that, I feel attraction towards to male . I thought some thing wrong is happening with me . But Doctors discovered( not invented ) that my problem is not Homosexuality because Homosexuality is not a problem at all (according to doctors ), Its a normal .
They found I have OCD, ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION . At the some extent I am agree with them .Because I have repeated thoughts problem like eg: If I am thinking I want to buy a shirt , I will not get relax my impulse become high until unless I don't buy it, no mater how much shirts I have already . I am very much conscious about my looks that is why I always keeping clean myself (my external body not soul) applying costly cosmetics wearing latest dresses. maximum time I expend for this only . I give first privilege to my looks and comfortableness; for this some time I miss very important mater, such as I may miss train etc . I want to become better for other not for my self . I cant say "NO" to any one. Even if I don't have capacity to resolve others need. Such as: if some one asking money as a loan ( without interest) I cant say NO. Take one more example: suppose some one want to use my system or may be my room I cant say NO to him whereas I may have more impotent task to do with my system then him .
I have advance fear for any mater . Such as : I starting shivering before attending the exam because of this fear I may avoid exam . suppose I need to go some ones house I started shivering Before knocking the door . Suppose I extremely need money but I cant have dear to ask to my father. What people will think about me that is more important then what I need. this is the reason many times I used by other . and many time people using me . I always feel guilty . I always feel some thing wrong with me . I always feel lonely and insecure no mater how much I am in the crowd. I feel more uncomfortable and insecure when I am with my family or my family member or members or relative or relatives ( specially my parents most specially my father ). This is the reason I avoid them.I always feel inferiority complex .
some time I feel sad without any reason , some time I feel happy without any season also . here I would like to share one more experience of my life's . I was studying at class 11 stander. I may 17years old that time. Suddenly I was started crying why I am crying that I don't know . I tried to find out the reason but I could not . I was just crying and crying not loudly just dropping tears and tears from my eyes . I went to my parents home When IT was unbearable, but I just shocked when my mom was asking why you are crying what you have done, whom you killed? Why you are crying tell me , did you murder any one? Are you crying for girl's mater etc . All those stuff she was asking to me which I never can think . They started scolding me like I have done any big mistakes. I may create problem for them. and they tried to avoid me. believe me I was so insecure, and my fear was become double. I was not seeing any solution. I was help less. finely I have asked to one of my parent's servant take me to hospital. After hospital doctor give me medicine . After medicine I was in deep sleep for few days and after that I become normal . But the surprise thing was my mother told me that from child hood I am giving trouble to them because of me they cant enjoy their life; after investigation that, I didn't do any crime. And they told me it was my drama .
[ Here People may think, my problem is not HOMOSEXUALITY; my problem is drugs addiction. I would like to tell that, my homosexuality started from child hood and I have been thinking my homosexuality is a problem from child hood only . My drugs and alcohol started after involve with GAY organization, Gay society s and mingle with many Gays only . Alcohol started from 2005 and drugs started from 2006 only . I hardly took alcohol may be few times in my life before 2005 . First time I took alcohol when I was 14 years old when I was in hostel . That was also not my wish . Senior students was arranging a party and I was the youngest student of that hostel. I saw all guys were drinking alcohol I influence by them but after that I repent for it . I stopped alcohol until I reach to Gay society. ] ( here my intention is not blaming any one . not even my hostel guys . I am just researching my self and I am trying to find out the solution and become a batter human. trust me this the only intention of mine here and its truth. )
That is the reason I some sort of believe my psychiatrist .
Here again I would like to share few more thing with you:
My father always behind the money only . he is least bother about his children. I could not remember any incident where my father told me ; Oh ! my son this is for you " with smiling face". I never have seen him without wary about money whereas he is not so rich. He become very sad when money mater has acquire. Three time he got third marriage. His one of the wife was only 27 years old when he was 65 years . In the Indian culture its very odd . But trust me I was not at all bother nor feel bad, because Allah has given permeation as will as Indian law too . But when he gave her divorce, he was not ready to give her Meher( marital gift ). Finally he was agree but not full amount. That time I have asked him, why you don't want to give back her Meher ? this is her right . He replied, he dont have money . I said no problem , my mother has given me some gold jewellery before her death . ( she distributed her all jewellery to her all children including me before she expired ). Every one took their jewellery but my share of jeweler still in my mother's locker . So you can take it and sale it and give her MEHER . That time he said ,no need to sale it he can manage. I shocked! And I asked him to come alone with me , I need to talk to you . WE went to a lonely place and I asked him , how you manage it within a short period, His replied was more shocker then before . He blamed me why I show him the way for pay her MEHER in front of so many people . Because he didn't want to pay her MEHER. That was his excuse , actually he didn't want to pay MAHAR. I told him what you will do with your money , you are already more then 65 years , you may expire at any time I may too . what we will do with our money or jewellery after our life . I thought its our duty to pay her MEHER so I told you . So, he replied don't be so religious be practical, you don't know any thing abut the world. He asked me , do you think all people are Virtuous here . YOU have to learn how to live in this world. Earning money is very tough. And I realize that, yes he is correct all man are not Virtuous. At that time I saw my self that I am one of the biggest sinner person. I do homo sex . AT least no body here ( at that meeting ) homosexual. They are far batter then me .
[ I am waiting for my last Post Quick reply's answer . I hope some one will reply me soon ].
{My dear sister " Amat Allah " If you get answer regarding my last post please reply me soon if not then help me to get answer for it } .
I would like to thank you about yours patience . I need your pray for me to Allah .
thank you so much . Allah will surely give you JANNAH .
As you said :
Asalaamu Alaikum, I think you should urgently seek out a Muslim physician, psychologist and counsellor rather than non Muslim who will only give you advice contrary to the truth.
I want to take help from true Muslim doctors but I am not getting it . I have search a lot . I met few Muslim Doctors but all doctors are giving same treatment as like as non Muslim . All are telling Homosexuality is a normal . That is the reason I am in the internet .and I am in this site. My problem is such think I can not share it directly with any one . I didn't find or know any doctor who can give me or counseling me regarding reorientation . I am in the middle of the ocean .
Delhi is very far from me . I stay in Bangalore.
I have quieted intoxicant for life time . I don't think it will take place any more in my life Inshah Allah .
Porn is not a big deal for me Inshah Allah . I want to conform my self, that porn should be my last porn movie in my life Inshha Allah .
But I don't understand why masturbation is prohibited in Islam ? As par my knowledge masturbation is not harmful . why should Allah don't want it ? Doctors saying its not harmful.
I request you please dont take it it wrong way . Because I know my self very well I cant obey any role until unless I convince my self. I get convince when I get prove only. And here I would like to tell you that I believe you . So I request you please let me know if you have any scientific prove regarding masturbation then please tell me in very easy way and briefly .
I have separate email ids which I never used for Gay purpose. So, I wont get any problem if I don't delete or log in those email ids which are related with Gay issues. Inshah Allah.
Yesterday I went to PEACE FOUNDATION which is related with Dr.Zakir Naik . I guess you must know it . I have expend few hours over there . But the problem is I cant discuss my problem with any body until the person is so faithful as well as suitable with my problem . I enjoyed their company . But I don't know they enjoy my company or not. Most probably not because they are very high level in the case of IMAAN .
I will change my phone no very soon but the problem is one of my Gay friend knows my brother phone no . If he is not able to contact me then he may be contact my brother . He may create problem for me . So that I am thinking slowly I will quit talking to him first then change my phone no . Although he stay in Tamilnadu ( neighbor state ) he is a doctor. I talked to him more then 15 days over . He does not know whats going on . I dont want to inform him . Not only him but also no one in this world ( directly ). And this Gay world is some time very aggressive too . If any gay knows that some one quitting homo sex then gay society do all possible things which can brings him again into homo sex . This is another open secret.
I am conform now that homo sex is not allow in any form In Islam . So, I am sure I will quit it Inshah Allah from know , although I am not having it now . If its not removing from my mind even I will not do any homo sex activity by my eyes , hand , lags , body and all . (All means All only nothing left ). But for that I need guidance of Allah and Rasul and you all people . I hope you are there for help me Allah sake .
I may need to change my accommodation very soon . So that I need your help . Help means very strong DUAH which DUAH can directly reach to ALLAH and Allah provide me all resources or direct accommodation to me . Because its also one of my weapon to fight with the SATAN'S of Homo sex .
I am still not clear about EUNUCH. What they are . They are human or Gin ? What is their sexuality ? please make me clear . please educate me .
I am extremely happy that I am improving my self . I have being trying it since a long long time . psychiatrist(Doctors) were make me poor . The statement of Psychiatrist " ENJOY YOUR LIFE " is irritating me . I don't want to hear it again . I dont want to lose the test of Salah . I want to increase the test of Salah . I want to become very close to ALLAH . I want to stand with MOHAMMAD ( PBUH) in the next life . So please be with me . please don't leave me .
Thank you .
I want to take help from true Muslim doctors but I am not getting it . I have search a lot . I met few Muslim Doctors but all doctors are giving same treatment as like as non Muslim . All are telling Homosexuality is a normal . That is the reason I am in the internet .and I am in this site. My problem is such think I can not share it directly with any one . I didn't find or know any doctor who can give me or counseling me regarding reorientation . I am in the middle of the ocean .
doctors aren't allowed to pass judgment and according to the latest DSM-IV homosexuality is categorized as a normal variant. However the opinion in the book and I assure you no scientific method went into said designation is the guideline for the American society of psychiatrists and may or may not reflect the personal opinion of the doctor. Homosexuals often present with other co-morbid psychological conditions so it isn't a surprise that you were diagnosed with conditions that are otherwise unrelated to your sexual orientation!
If you went with the desire of being treated out of your homosexuality, I am sure after a host of questions a doctor will help you if that was truly your desire. Medicine is designed for patients autonomy and respect of wishes. For instance a large busted woman may present to her surgeon requesting 750cc prosthesis in his personal opinion and perhaps a large population of society it may seem absurd, and adding extra implants might in fact exacerbate her back problems and give her bad posture. But in the end if the doctor went to the business of plastic surgery, and psych. declared her mentally competent, then he'll have to give her the implants or secure her a doctor who will. That is the law and Ethics of medicine as practiced in the U.S.
So if you fear that ALL doctors believe that homosexuality is a normal variant, I assure you a large number of them view is it as a sexual deviance. Whatever the case medicine isn't concerned with the law.. so whether deviant or normal there isn't much that can be done to criminalize or applaud it within the confines of academia and practice!
all the best
Last edited by جوري; 03-14-2011 at 11:34 PM.
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