One of my closest friends has seriously strayed from the Right Path. She does not carry out her obligatory duties as a Muslim, she does not dress modestly and now she's got a boyfriend. I'm trying to avoid her now, but I feel so guilty since I'm not doing anything to help her change.
I want to correct her ways.. but words don't seem to come out so instead I just try to change the topic.
I can't really say much about her parents as they're not the average type of practicing Muslims either.
I know this isn't enough. I'll be questioned about this on the Day of Judgement.. just can't get around correcting her because I know she'll ignore me and seek company
from her other so called friends.
Any advice on how to go about this? jakak'Allah
If you begin to live life relating to the God who is all around you, every moment becomes a prayer.
she needs to see her mistakes....in other words put your advise in a way where she thinks about what she is doing...dont just make your advise direct, it may get her irritated/annoyed.
if she does get irritated, get "personal" with her. just say upfrontly and be honest how much you love her and care for her and that's whyt you are doing what you are doing.
it's sometimes worth a try to ask/find out why she is acting like this. if she isn't practicing, maybe her environment around her isn't the best and she needs good people around her? if she's around boys, maybe she wishes for marriage...perhaps her non-practicing ways are signs that she needs help and that she has deeper issues. so sometimes, in order to help someone change, you need to address the personal/emotional issues.
also, does she have someone she trusts and looks up to...how about try talking to them to talk to her?
Last edited by Ummu Sufyaan; 04-15-2011 at 11:46 AM.
...desperate for husnul-khitaam...
please make dua that Allah grants me a good end (to my life). please make dua that Allah guides me.
Just straight out ask her why she stopped doing those things. Other than that you can set a good example and invite her to do the things you do. Like when it's time to pray or if you're going to an Islamic lecture etc. I wouldn't overburden yourself with it though. Some people are very practicing, some aren't, some become more practicing later, some less; that's just life.
One of my closest friends has seriously strayed from the Right Path. She does not carry out her obligatory duties as a Muslim, she does not dress modestly and now she's got a boyfriend. I'm trying to avoid her now, but I feel so guilty since I'm not doing anything to help her change.
I want to correct her ways.. but words don't seem to come out so instead I just try to change the topic.
I can't really say much about her parents as they're not the average type of practicing Muslims either.
I know this isn't enough. I'll be questioned about this on the Day of Judgement.. just can't get around correcting her because I know she'll ignore me and seek company
from her other so called friends.
Any advice on how to go about this? jakak'Allah
Asalaamu Alaikum, how are things with you and your friend now?
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