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    Okay so I was super nervous going back to work, wearing my hijaab but there have been really nice bout it. I wasn't prepared for the customers to be rude to me and give me dirty looks. I wanna know how to get over this when I hear someone make fun my voice or give some dirty look it really hurts me. I know I should get thicker skin but I've always been an emotional person. What can I do? Is there a dua I can do?
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    Re: How to overcome it




    ingore those persons and don't care about this matter as long as Allah loves u and u don't disobey Him.
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    Christ will never be proud to reject to be a slave to God .....holy Quran, chapter Women , 4: 172

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    Re: How to overcome it

    Perhaps one of the hardest things to do, is to not react to such people, doesn't your company have a policy to protect staff from this, I've seen in many places "our staff have the right to work without abuse of any kind and it will not be tolerated" something along these lines, doesn't your company have this?
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    Re: How to overcome it

    just tell ur self:

    This is who I am, this is me
    Nothing, everything, can’t you see
    Who I am, just let me be
    Cos like it or not but God loves me

    and listen to this
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    Allah made everyone different thats what makes them special,so no matter what ppl say just remember you're SPECIAL!!
    "You are with the one you love"
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    Re: How to overcome it

    Thanx guys It's just I'm in area in the uk where it's all English chavs( most the r racists) and they look u like ur diseased or something. They make cruel comments, just hurts. Just wanted if they any dua I can do to make me more stronger person to take these comments. Sounds silly now.. I guess I'll just have to suck it up I guess..maybe some kinda of test. That I have to overcome on my own. Strange thing is I was so worried bout my co workers would think ( even thought of not wearing it on my first day) that I didn't even think hw other people would react. Im glad i did wear my hijaab, my co workers have been great I guess that's all I can do.. I guess deep down there wasn't an answer.. I know u should ignore just hurts to hear. Suck it up I guess.
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    Re: How to overcome it

    do defeat the chavs you have be a chav

    if they look at you just say this :

    ''Wat u lookyn at mate! you want ur eyes taken out for ya! dont bover me! i've got to get to iceland need some fry ups to 'ave for lunch''


    Thats it...sorted!
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    Re: How to overcome it

    there is a dua of Musa (as) when he was assigned with the responsibility of going to pharaoh despite being wanted for murder and he prayed for confidence:
    (Moses) said: "O my Lord! expand me my breast;


    "Ease my task for me;
    "And remove the impediment from my speech,
    "So they may understand what I say:
    Quran 20:26-28

    there was another variation of it we learned when we were little,
    it goes like this:

    rabbi shrahli sadri
    wa yassirli amri
    wahlul 'uqdatammillisaani
    yafqahu qawli
    rabbi zidni 'ilma
    rabbi zidni hikmah
    Allahumma inni as-aluka
    'ilmannaafi'au
    wafahman kaamilau
    wa rizqan waasi'au
    wa shifaa-anmin kulli daa
    rabbi yassir
    walaa tu'assir
    watammim 'alaina bil khayr
    wabika nasta'eenu yaa musta'an

    oh my Lord expand for me my breast
    and ease my task for me
    and remove the impediment from my tongue (speech)
    so that they may understand my speech
    oh my Lord, increase me in knowledge
    oh my Lord, increase me in wisdom
    our God, i ask of you knowledge which benefits
    ******don't know the meaning of this part******
    and sustenance that is sufficient
    and cure from all ills
    oh my Lord, make things easy for me
    and do not make things difficult for me
    and ********tammim 'alayna(unsure of meaning) with goodness
    and it is to you we plead, oh the one who is worthy of pleas.

    would be great if someone added the meaning of the asterisks and i'd edit it
    and would love to know the meaning too

    i have found it lifted a burden from my shoulders and made me relaxed, easy and communicative before public speech.
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    Re: How to overcome it

    format_quote Originally Posted by marina28 View Post
    Okay so I was super nervous going back to work, wearing my hijaab but there have been really nice bout it. I wasn't prepared for the customers to be rude to me and give me dirty looks. I wanna know how to get over this when I hear someone make fun my voice or give some dirty look it really hurts me. I know I should get thicker skin but I've always been an emotional person. What can I do? Is there a dua I can do?


    It's not easy. Muslims face this kind of treat all the time. Remember who you are wearing your hijaab for and from whom you expect reward from and nothing will matter after this. Allah is capable of everything; He is the Overwhelming, the Irresistible, the one who gives honour and elevates those who are sincere to Him and obey Him.

    قُلۡ إِنَّ صَلَاتِى وَنُسُكِى وَمَحۡيَاىَ وَمَمَاتِى لِلَّهِ رَبِّ ٱلۡعَـٰلَمِينَ


    "Say: Verily, my prayers, my sacrifice, my life, and my death are for Allah, the Lord of All the Worlds." (Qur'an 6:162)


    وَعِبَادُ ٱلرَّحۡمَـٰنِ ٱلَّذِينَ يَمۡشُونَ عَلَى ٱلۡأَرۡضِ هَوۡنً۬ا وَإِذَا خَاطَبَهُمُ ٱلۡجَـٰهِلُونَ قَالُواْ سَلَـٰمً۬ا


    The (faithful) slaves of the Beneficent are they who walk upon the earth modestly, and when the foolish ones address them answer: Peace; (Quran 25:63)

    Al Fudail Ibn 'Iyaad said: "Do not feel lonely on the paths of guidence just because few people travel them, and do not be decieved by the abundance of destroyed travelers [on the paths of misguidence]." [The Book of Manners by Fu'ad Ibn 'Abdul-'Azeez Ash-Shulhoob, Page 31]

    And never give up the hijaab, as Ibn Qayyim said: "And verily for everything that a slave loses there is a substitute, but the one who loses Allah will never find anything to replace Him." [Related by Ibn al-Qayyim in ad-Dâ' wad-Dawâ Fasl 49]

    I pray that Allah makes it easy for you and keeps you steadfast.

    On a related note, this video below about du'aa may encourage you to be steadfast.

    Title: How do you speak to your Lord?


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    And verily for everything that a slave loses there is a substitute, but the one who loses Allah will never find anything to replace Him.”
    [Related by Ibn al-Qayyim in ad-Dâ' wad-Dawâ Fasl 49]


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    Coool thanx guys u all have been very helpful..I'll check out later thanx
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    ^ love it, its one ov my fav
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    Allah made everyone different thats what makes them special,so no matter what ppl say just remember you're SPECIAL!!
    "You are with the one you love"
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    Re: How to overcome it

    Asalam Alaikkum Sister

    I AM SO HAPPY YOU FINALLY GOT A JOB, Alhamdollellah rabbil Alameeen

    Do not worry about them, just deal with them properly, SMILE & relax, answer their questions properly and dont look at them anymore once you entertain them. Do not observe what they will say or comment about

    Ignorance is a kind
    May Allah make things easy for you, Ameeeen
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