I'm still hoping my wife will be better

format_quote Originally Posted by Periwinkle18

I made a card for my frnd once cropped it out of the pic its for aunty lnna

Jazakillah Khayr,

Nice card. I've saved it in my computer. In Shaa Allah, I will print it for aunty Inna.

format_quote Originally Posted by ~Zaria~

my dear brother,


JazakumAllahu khair for keeping us updated about sister Inna.

I think, as a result of being in almost constant contact with people who are ill - sometimes with conditions that are curable by the will of Allah, sometimes not, my responses may be a little affected by this.

I sincerely wish that all my brothers and sisters could dedicate just an hour (even half an hour) every week, to visit a hospital in their area.
Just sit by those who are facing some scary news, maybe some prospect of needing surgery and they feel anxious, or who are facing any serious illness.
Hold their hands, listen to their feelings and fears.... and really try to be in their positions for a little while.
Wallahi, no matter what you may be going through in life, you will never feel the need to complain again....

There are many things that I've seen in hospitals. Yes, it's always made me realize that there are people who suffer more than me. Hospital is also a place where I've seen and heard true love stories. Love of the parents to their kids, kids to the parents, brother to sister. My wife told me about the amazing husbands and amazing wives that she has meet there. It made me felt I wanted to be a good husband too.

But she also ever told me sad story about a girl who she meet few times in chemotherapy room. That girl was coming from another city. She had a boyfriend who promised would marry her. But when she got breast cancer and must lost one of her breast, her boyfriend left her!. It made her depressed and always crying. And then, Innalillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon, she died in sadness.

This is a sad story of fake love that I've heard from my wife.

Akhi, I can understand and feel what you and your precious wife are going through.
SubhanAllah, you and sister Inna are so very beloved to Allah - for Him to place such a trial in your paths.
Never forget this akhi.
This difficulty that you face stems out of the love and mercy of Allah (subhanawataála) - remember, Allah only does good for His believers, alhamdulillah.

I personally dont think there would be much benefit to deny what is going on....

This is an important time for your dear wife - so, in shaa Allah, try not to distract her too much from this journey that she is on (e.g. if there is a TV that is watched frequently, perhaps replace it with islamic talks that have uplifting messages, Quraan (as mentioned), etc)
Allah Taa'la only desires that we turn closer to Him, by means of the trials that we face.

What lies ahead in shaa Allah, is much, much better than this dunya.
So, whenever she feels down because she is unable to walk, remind her of this, as well as the fact that the difficulties that she is enduring will in shaa Allah, be the means of completely erasing her sins and giving her such a high status in the aakhirah.

Alhamdulillah, she is most fortunate to have you as her husband.
How few men exist, by the likes of you, my dear brother.
May Allah reward you abundantly in both worlds. Ameen

My wife still watch TV, but not frequent, and Alhamdulillah, she's not type of woman who love gosip and doesn't like watch music. Her favorite TV programs are cooking or culinary tour. She watch Islamic TV programs too, of course.

Alhamdulillah, we have enough much religious friends which few of them are even ustadz/ustadzah, from them we got many Islamic spiritual guidance. They also told us that difficulties that my wife got may be for erasing her sins.

One positive thing that my wife got from her difficulty is, she becomes more religious.

Jazakillah Khayr for you du'a, my sister.

I will bring my wife to hospital. She need the better treatment.

Actually I took this decision since yesterday afternoon, and would bring her to hospital this afternoon. But I postpone it.

Today, prior to Jum'ah time we've visited by our friends, a couple of husband and wife. The husband is Qur'an teacher. Then I went to masjid with the husband while the wife with my wife, and read Qur'an. Back from masjid, the wife told me that my wife talked about 'want to go' again. Then she contact our other friends before her and her husband left my home.

Prior to ashr our first friend came, and then our few other friends came too, including a female friend who came with her husband and brought Zam Zam water for my wife. One of our other friend also told me that she got around 60 messages from my and my wife other friends who sent du'a.

Alhamdulillah, me and my wife have many friends who always care to us. They told me that what should I do now is tawakul and ikhlas. I must believe that Allah will give what the best for my wife, and I should accept it. Yes, I understand what they meant.

I don't know what will happen tomorrow or in next few days. But I will try not to surrender in supporting my wife to make her strong. I told her that I understand her condition, but she should not give up, because I'm with her.

I don't know that I'm selfish or not if I'm still hoping Allah give longer time for my wife. I wish Allah give my wife longer time, so I can love her longer and better.

My wife will go to hospital tomorrow.

Please keep her in your du'a.

format_quote Originally Posted by Periwinkle18

Assalam o alikum

Uncle ardianto how's your wife now?

It's too early now to expect good progress. But I still pray and still give her support.