I want to commit suicide

You seem to defining your relationship with Allah in accordance to how other people treat you. So if you had a "good" life with other people, and they treated you better, then you would be happy with God? Don't you think that you shouldn't be allowing your personal relationship be effected by anything and anyone??

Some points to go over;-

1. There is an issue of how people deal with mental illnesses in the west, it is from the devil whispers, not only do they tell people to be evil, but they tell people to feel sorry for themselves (even if they have a right to be), but then people end of wasting their lives and throwing away what they could have done.

2. Your parents and others, have have lived longer in this world then you you, do you think that you need to spend so much time trying to have the "perfect" relationship, or that your going to teach them about kindness, love and compassion with people who have already lived and been married and have children? You need to respect your parents and others, but that doesn't mean squandering your life by saying that so and so wasn't like this with you. Even the Prophet Joseph peace be upon him did not go around like after he got thrown in a well.

3. Allah guides people, so the fact that your seeking advice is showing you that Allah is helping you to make your life better. We are tested, so if you think that a good relationship with Allah will only mean that you have a "perfect" family life then you are wrong. This test isn't about God just taking away our problems, removing all the bad people from our lives.

4. What you should do is firstly worship Allah-as Allah will help you to be guided more, as he is already doing.

5. The next thing you should do is concentrate on your plans in life, you need to get a job, take a course, I don't know where you live, but you shouldn't have any objections, don't wait for someone to show you what you can do, go and find out via resources on internet. As you work and build something else with your life you need to take control of your life, and not define it by what other people give you or not. It may include getting married in the future-please do not make the same mistake as others who jump in to getting married and get married to someone that they don't like.

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Allah gave you life, and for you to say that its less valuable, that your willing to throw it all away, because others haven't made your life easy. Allah didn't just sort out all the problems WITHOUT even the Muslims at the time of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him opposing evil.

If you can't survive living, remember you will be alive forever in the next world, if you go to Hell, Allah will not "kill you off". Allah has never made a mistake of creating people, just because they committed evil, that doesn't mean that they are going to reverse what Allah is not going to undo what he has done. If you commit suicide no one will be able to help you.

God is pleased with people who strive, you have to be religious regardless if you were being beaten up everyday, as again cannot define your relationship by the sins of other people. Your not the first Muslim who has learnt how society prone their relatives are. Don't let that get you down. Nothing that you said, will you be able to repeat on the Day of Judgement-as all that you will be saying is that you shouldn't have let evil doers effected your relationship with Allah. Even the evil-doers who followed each other by bad deeds will be blaming them, saying I shouldn't have followed you.

Then choose, as this is your test. What is more dear to you?? That you have Allah, the All-Mighty, where all the angels bow down to him in worship, including Archangel Gabriel and Micheal. There is much to look forward to in the next world. There is a lot of issues where people think that if they are not happy all the time, or if they don't get their life, job they want that their life is a failure-well this isn't a life its a TEST. People on the Day of Judgement, it would seem to them that they haven't lived in this world for years but day. No need to stress about others, including your sister (when anyway you've stated she hasn't allowed others actions to make her angry at Allah). Why should Allah be blamed for the actions of evil doers?? When Allah is holding them account on the Day of Judgement for their actions, where he is blaming the evil for their actions. If Allah stopped people from being evil, then how can you prove to him that you will be good.

Make the right choice and do not let the actions of others dictate your own PERSONAL relationship (rather that you should remember that Allah has given your parents and others so much, and its strange that they wish to disrespect others) with Allah, show your STEADFASTNESS-as how can you prove to Allah that you are steadfast if you were living like a princess?? Do not let evil actions of yours or others dictate your decision making, as evil is nothing, Allah attaches no value, even people who were in lewd behaviour have repented and made it to a good place in the next world. There are already so many in their graves, who wish to return to this world to make amends with Allah. So if you commit suicide, remember that you will only wish to return to this world to make amends and that you wouldn't care of the mistakes of others.

Remember Allah and the Day of Judgement. Thank Allah that he has given you so much, instead of saying that he hasn't given you enough.

Praise be to Allah, Lord of the Worlds.

Assalaamu alaikum,


I don't know what happened to the OP. I fervently pray she is alright.

I found this article that I thought might be of help to anyone who either feels suicidal, or who wants to understand how they can help someone who is suicidal.


May Allah, the Oft-Forgiving, Help us express our love to those in pain.


Talking about Suicide While Muslim

Written by Chelby Daigle Published in Opinions

At the upcoming Serenity Islamic Mental Health Conference this May, I will be sharing my personal experience with suicide. In recognition of Mental Health Week (May 2 to May 8), and being inspired by a recent Letter to the Editor, I have decided to share some reflections on why we need to make it easier to talk about suicide in our communities.

It is hard to find Muslims who feel safe enough to speak publicly about living with a mental illness. It is even harder to find Muslims who will go on the record stating that they have contemplated or attempted suicide. Because suicide is a major sin in Islam, as in most religious traditions.

The irony here is that most of the time when I see Muslim Canadians rally to do something about mental illness in our communities it is in the wake of a suicide, often of a young Muslim. So, we know for a fact that Muslims are committing suicide in our communities.

It is strange that we use the word “commit” when describing the act of suicide. That’s because attempting suicide used to be a criminal offence in Canada before 1972.

A sin and a crime-who is going to admit that they have done this?

So here it goes. I have attempted suicide both before and AFTER my conversion to Islam, and I have contemplated suicide so seriously in the last few years that I have had to go to the hospital emergency and be taken under long-term hospital care. Alhamduillah, I am still here and healing but my mental illness is a reality l live with on a daily basis. It is not something that can be “cured” but with proper supports it can be managed.

I have been speaking publicly about living with a mental illness, in my case chronic depression and anxiety, since my teens. I was officially diagnosed with a mental illness at 15 at the Children’s Hospital of Eastern Ontario (CHEO). My first well-paying job came from CHEO as I was hired to be part of a team of other CHEO teen patients to make a video about the teenage experience of living with mental illness which would be used to help train psychiatrists. I would eventually take the video to my high school and ask to present it in any class that would take it.

I had a certain bravado around speaking publicly about my illness from a young age. One reason for this was that I knew it was so important for me to speak out so other people knew they were not alone. But another reason was that, I was just not afraid of being judged or attacked or shunned because of my illness because nothing anyone could say or do to me would ever be worse than the things I said and did to myself.

And that is the reality for many of us who have gotten to the point of trying to take our own lives. We have become experts at self-loathing. No hater can beat us at hating on ourselves. No mean girl clique could more efficiently make us feel worthless than the bullies in our own minds.

And this reality of self-loathing is what we need to be very careful about when we talk about suicide. I am always fascinated by how talk of suicide raises anger in other people. “People who commit suicide are selfish. People who commit suicide are cowards.” Okay, do you really think saying things like that is going to make someone who feels so much self-loathing that they want to end their life NOT want to die?
The same goes for religious arguments that revolve around hell. “If you kill yourself, you are going to go to hell.” If you are full of self-loathing you probably wrote off the possibility of EVER being good enough to go to heaven. You might think you BELONG in hell.

When I am overwhelmed by a compulsion to end my life I don’t think about how bad a Muslim I would be to throw away Allah’s gift because I think that I am so worthless that I should no longer be taking up the food, water, and oxygen of other more deserving parts of Allah’s creation. I don’t fear the punishment of hellfire because I think that is what I deserve.

The “carrot and stick” logic we often use when trying to enforce religious rulings often doesn’t work when you are dealing with deeply suicidal people who have lost all hope. In my own experience, what has brought me back from the brink has not been the promise of reward or the fear of punishment. It has been connection, to my creator, to people, to pets, to a sense of purpose. As a community, the more we can help people feel connected, and the less we increase people’s self-loathing by dumping a bunch of shame on them, the more we will be able to offer support to those of us who are struggling with suicidal thoughts.
If asked, I will continue to speak publicly about living with mental illness and contemplating suicide; however, my hope is that more and more Muslims will come forward and feel supported enough by their families and safe enough in the community to share their stories because we need to learn from their experience, wisdom and insights if we are going to develop into a community that can prevent its members from taking their own lives.

My advice for those of you who are Muslim and are considering public speaking on your journey with mental illness is to make sure you have a support system in place so that you can cope with the number of other Muslims who will want to confide in you about their own struggles with mental illness or ask for referrals to counselling services, something which I am asked to do regularly since I started speaking openly about my illness. Frankly, we need support groups in our mosques and community centres so Muslims struggling with mental illness can connect with each other for mutual support.

Also, be prepared for the haters because they will come. For many years when I publicly spoke about mental illness to Sunni, Shia and Ismaili Muslim communities, I never had to deal with this problem, but since taking up the role of Muslim Link Editor in Chief, I guess being a more public community figure has changed how I am perceived by some people. I have received some pretty mean-spirited attacks when I have shared about my struggles. I have been accused of trying to get attention and of “showing off” my trauma. So again, have a strong support system so you can deal with this kind of backlash but know that the people attacking you are probably just in a lot of pain themselves. Don’t let them stop you from sharing your story. Your story is too powerful and can help too many people for you to let anyone silence you.

My message to Muslims coping with suicidal thoughts is that Allah created you for a reason even if you are not so sure what that is. We know it is to worship Allah but that can manifest itself in so many ways beyond the five pillars. I still am not really sure what my exact purpose is. What I do know is that because of my illness I have had to give up on many dreams around school, career, and family which, when I am not well, can feel like failures that rob me of any sense of hope for the future, but when I am doing well, I can see them more as opportunities to take less well-trodden paths in life.

Our lives may not turn out as we had hoped, but that doesn’t mean we cannot find things to be grateful for. Since my mother’s death I have had to cope with her loss, the loss of a job, and the loss of a friendship. On bad days, this is all I can see, this is all the illness lets me see.

But on better days, I can see what I still have and what I have gained- the ongoing support of so many awesome friends and community members, the continued opportunities to meet and connect with wonderful people and expand my understanding of the world, the strange new recent experience of finding myself crying for joy at a friend's wedding.

I look forward to the lessons about myself and the world that Allah keeps teaching me through the surprises and unpredictable moments of my life. This is where my hope comes from now.

I cannot promise you that life in this world, the dunya (the temporal world), will get any easier. But you are supposed to be here, so please stay.


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Alsalaam alaikum everyone

I am the OP. Alhandulilah I am in a much better state short after making this thread I was diagnosed with delusional disorder I take meds. Sadly my sister passed away in 2020 she was only 28 years old but she was ill please make duaa for her. I am engaged and I am looking forward to the next chapter. I have attempted suicide 5 times and Allah saved me now I just want to be married and have a family. Thank you to everyone who has comforted me. Thank you and jazakum Allah khairan

Wa Alaykum assalam,

Jazakallahu khayran for your message. May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala help you to remain strong, bless your marriage and may He subhanahu wa ta'ala shower His mercy upon your sister, Ameen.