I am currently 17, and I told a 12 year old girl I've liked for years now that I like her, and she rejected me. I was at a Turkish festival, and I told her I had to tell her something, and her friends told me to say it in front of them....I told her I had a crush on her, and she politely turned me down by saying she already liked someone else, and that I was much older than her......so I walked away....at first, I felt relieved that I was able to get it off my chest.... and much later, I told her, first in Turkish, then in English, "maybe when you're older" before winking......I wish I was ashamed of myself because dating and casual romance is haram, but I'm sad to say it's hard to feel bad about that when I feel so sorry for myself....my heart never learns from my brain or from my religion, and I feel awful.....what should I do?
Re: I got rejected....my heart never learns.....I feel awful.....
Dude.... I got nothing nice to say to you right now - stop making these stupid threads... this is an Islamic forum - not your dating agony aunt forum you muppet.
Re: I got rejected....my heart never learns.....I feel awful.....
She's only 12?? No offence but you need to stay in cold shower for days (lol) I get your only 17 but still how can u keep liking/falling in love with a new person every day May Allah help you.
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format_quote Originally Posted by Regrets1
She's only 12?? No offence but you need to stay in cold shower for days (lol) I get your only 17 but still how can u keep liking/falling in love with a new person every day May Allah help you.
I've loved her for 2 years now.....not a day.....it is possible to like more than one girl at once, or to pretend to like someone due to the taboo in the age difference with someone else....
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To teenagers, infatuation = love
Mustafa17, you're a pup. A young lad - why don't you speak to your parents about getting married?
I'm pretty sure you'd fall in "love" with a shadow at this point. The moment your parents show you a photo, you'll be lost in a web of possibilities and that'll be you for a while
until the illusion breaks.
Oh and cold showers.... or maybe in your case, the ice bucket challenge.
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format_quote Originally Posted by Scimitar
To teenagers, infatuation = love
Mustafa17, you're a pup. A young lad - why don't you speak to your parents about getting married?
I'm pretty sure you'd fall in "love" with a shadow at this point. The moment your parents show you a photo, you'll be lost in a web of possibilities and that'll be you for a while
until the illusion breaks.
Oh and cold showers.... or maybe in your case, the ice bucket challenge.
Scimi
what is the difference between infatuation and love, anyway? the reason I "loved her" is because when I was 15, she once came over to my house for Eid and we spent hours spending time together and had conversations.....I also admire her personality and her looks, and want to make her smile or make her happy.....
Meaning of Shirk according to The Qur'an
" Worshipping anyone or anything besides Allah " or " distributing anything exclusive to Allah, to anyone or anything else "
Meaning of Tawheed according to The Qur'an Worshipping none but Allah. Affirming whatever is exclusive to Him, Him alone.
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What you said above is all the good things, love is not all about happiness only. I'm sure you know no one is perfect, would you accept her with all her flaws? Be faithful and committed to her only no matter what? Or would you go looking for love elsewhere when things go wrong..
your still too young..and she's even younger. Study hard brother study hard! Lower your gaze and don't approach any girl. Only approach when your ready to get married
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format_quote Originally Posted by Mustafa16
is it because of her age or because it leads to zina? or both?
You see, you dont want to get in to any sort of trouble with the parents also, so rather stay away from girls. And, to answer your question, it is basically, both.
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format_quote Originally Posted by Regrets1
What you said above is all the good things, love is not all about happiness only. I'm sure you know no one is perfect, would you accept her with all her flaws? Be faithful and committed to her only no matter what? Or would you go looking for love elsewhere when things go wrong..
I wouldn't know because I've never been in a romantic relationship before, and I hardly see her...but I imagine I would.....although I could be wrong....
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Man...I told you before go to a gym...pick up a sport or some weights. Your hormones are so out of control, every time I read one of your posts my hormones go out of control!
Do something, anything to take your mind of girls, relationships and this forum. You need to find a way to control yourself and use all that energy elsewhere in something more constructive, like press ups, start jumps, jogging, building things from ikea. Find an activity, or 12, and focus your energy on those things instead.
Someone said to the Prophet, "Pray to God against the idolaters and curse them." The Prophet replied, "I have been sent to show mercy and have not been sent to curse." (Muslim)
Re: I got rejected....my heart never learns.....I feel awful.....
Be thankful to Allah that He saved you from falling to haram relationships (gf/bf relationships) it could lead to Zina.
may Allah help you. Ameen.
And Allah
Last edited by Serinity; 09-17-2016 at 08:27 PM.
Meaning of Shirk according to The Qur'an
" Worshipping anyone or anything besides Allah " or " distributing anything exclusive to Allah, to anyone or anything else "
Meaning of Tawheed according to The Qur'an Worshipping none but Allah. Affirming whatever is exclusive to Him, Him alone.
Re: I got rejected....my heart never learns.....I feel awful.....
format_quote Originally Posted by aamirsaab
Man...I told you before go to a gym...pick up a sport or some weights. Your hormones are so out of control, every time I read one of your posts my hormones go out of control!
Do something, anything to take your mind of girls, relationships and this forum. You need to find a way to control yourself and use all that energy elsewhere in something more constructive, like press ups, start jumps, jogging, building things from ikea. Find an activity, or 12, and focus your energy on those things instead.
So should I stop going to the Turkish cultural center, so as not to get temptation?
Someone said to the Prophet, "Pray to God against the idolaters and curse them." The Prophet replied, "I have been sent to show mercy and have not been sent to curse." (Muslim)
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