No offence brother, i understand that you want to put emphasis on fixing boys out there, but why does everything keep coming back to the "war on boys" problem in your view? Not everything revolves around this issue and we shouldnt make that our main problem. The issue of the brother here is layed out as an individual one, so lets keep it like that.
Blaming the victim like that and not sympathizing with him will reap you nothing more than a cold stone hearted person in the future who will show no mercy towards others just as u are showing no mercy to him. I dont know if you have considered that fact that maybe that was his first time falling in love and he didnt know how to handle it? or maybe that he wasnt taught about dealing with situations like this? or maybe that the girl was so used to deceiving boys she was sooo good that he didnt realize? I feel like there are a lot of things that you haven't considered and just making unfair judgement upon the poor boy.
Have you never loved some one so much before? Have you never experienced the pain of losing someone you loved? Especially when you lose them to betrayal?! Do you have any idea the pain it causes?! Its natural for the dude to want to curse her or want to see her be punished (and i personally think she should).However, It shouldn't be the natural default for a human being to be weary of every single person they meet. It shouldn't be our default to distrust people and think the worst of the like that. Its natural for the boy to assume that she is a normal person like anybody else who does feel love and does have empathy. Its her fault for deceiving the boy like that and manipulating him and abusing him emotionally. Its her fault for hurting him and scarring him like that. And to go and make judgement about how the boy should have seen all this coming before actually knowing what actually happened is a bad move in my opinion.
What we should be doing is easing his pain and asking him to bare patience as no pain that we experience will go unnoticed by Allah AWJ.
And to answer brother
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RedaKhalkhoudi
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Every injustices that happened between Allah's creations and each other will be settled on the day of judgement. It is said that even the injustice between animals will be settled and done.
And it is also said that those who forgive one another will be elevated in status in the eyes of Allah on the day of judgement. (those who forgive others on the day of judgement)
Allah Praises those who control their anger and negative emotions and those who forgive (Quran 3:134) "Who spend [in the cause of Allah ] during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people - and Allah loves the doers of good;"
I ask Allah to forgive you and replace your sufferings with a halal relationship that is full of blessings with a future pious spouse. Ameen
PS ... You should stop cursing those who do bad to you so that they dont take from your good deeds on the day of judgement. Instead ask Allah to grant you more patience and to elevate you in status on the day of judgement.
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No offence brother, i understand that you want to put emphasis on fixing boys out there, but why does everything keep coming back to the "war on boys" problem in your view? Not everything revolves around this issue and we shouldnt make that our main problem. The issue of the brother here is layed out as an individual one, so lets keep it like that.
Blaming the victim like that and not sympathizing with him will reap you nothing more than a cold stone hearted person in the future who will show no mercy towards others just as u are showing no mercy to him. I dont know if you have considered that fact that maybe that was his first time falling in love and he didnt know how to handle it? or maybe that he wasnt taught about dealing with situations like this? or maybe that the girl was so used to deceiving boys she was sooo good that he didnt realize? I feel like there are a lot of things that you haven't considered and just making unfair judgement upon the poor boy.
Have you never loved some one so much before? Have you never experienced the pain of losing someone you loved? Especially when you lose them to betrayal?! Do you have any idea the pain it causes?! Its natural for the dude to want to curse her or want to see her be punished (and i personally think she should).However, It shouldn't be the natural default for a human being to be weary of every single person they meet. It shouldn't be our default to distrust people and think the worst of the like that. Its natural for the boy to assume that she is a normal person like anybody else who does feel love and does have empathy. Its her fault for deceiving the boy like that and manipulating him and abusing him emotionally. Its her fault for hurting him and scarring him like that. And to go and make judgement about how the boy should have seen all this coming before actually knowing what actually happened is a bad move in my opinion.
What we should be doing is easing his pain and asking him to bare patience as no pain that we experience will go unnoticed by Allah AWJ.
And to answer brother
@
RedaKhalkhoudi
's questions ...
Every injustices that happened between Allah's creations and each other will be settled on the day of judgement. It is said that even the injustice between animals will be settled and done.
And it is also said that those who forgive one another will be elevated in status in the eyes of Allah on the day of judgement. (those who forgive others on the day of judgement)
Allah Praises those who control their anger and negative emotions and those who forgive (Quran 3:134) "Who spend [in the cause of Allah ] during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people - and Allah loves the doers of good;"
I ask Allah to forgive you and replace your sufferings with a halal relationship that is full of blessings with a future pious spouse. Ameen
PS ... You should stop cursing those who do bad to you so that they dont take from your good deeds on the day of judgement. Instead ask Allah to grant you more patience and to elevate you in status on the day of judgement.
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