What does he mean? I don't want to be too forward....

format_quote Originally Posted by sisterlove3

I was engaged to a guy when I was 20 it didn't work out and he broke off the engagement.
Years later we ran into each other and he asked could he have my Wali's number. After that he asked my Wali to marry me we talked for a year but then he broke it off again.
I ended up getting married and having children.
Again years later I ran into him and I was not married by then but he was married and he asked me how everything was going and I told him that I was divorced with children, a few days later he sent me a message saying that he wanted to marry me but once he found out that I had children he changed his mind and said maybe I will be his wife in the hereafter instead.
Yesterday he sent me a message again saying
"I am just seeing if you are doing good. You have crossed my mind very often for the past two weeks. My wife and I are doing good and we are still happily married"
he then sent me her phone number saying that I should get to know her and become friends.
What does he mean?
Is he asking me to be his 2nd wife?
Should I ask him what he meant?
If he is this confuses me because he clearly said that he didn't want to marry anyone with children and that maybe I can be his wife in the hereafter (Paradise)

Assalam walaikum

If that doesnt sound dodgy to anyone i dont know what does.
pessimistically speaking, there has to be an agenda... maybe he has a suitor for you via his wife?

stay away, no use bringing up old heartaches..., dont put yourself through it, imagining and dreaming and speculating...... be productive in other areas.

he wants to show you that he is better than you and you did a ''mistake'' by not marrying him cuz look how happy he is with the other woman compared to you who is divorced with children.He wants to put you down,put he is not putting anybody down except himself.He is married and he still thinks of what you think of him and how to impress you.I know this kind of self centered lil narcisstic people.They have problems with themselves.
It might not be this but pretty sure its that.

I don't know why people are quick to share numbers etc, Stop contact with this individual, he just wants attention. You're just feeding the impression that divorces have got to be needy, things don't work out, you need to concentrate on your children. If you wish to get married -not anyone's advice to prevent you, but don't be disheartened if it doesn't work out, people are just living in a fantasy world of how they want things to work out-but in reality, people are more immature. how can this person have the time to look after another wife?? Forget about what people do in the past, people can't even liearn the basics and wish for things to work out perfectly.

Need to stay away from this individual, you're only feeding his need for attention. Why are so many people are quick to offer, going to marry you in Paradise-are they confident that they will be going there?? Why would you be looking at him in the hereafter? By passed the Day of Judgement, when everyone will be gathered and you won't even care for your children, let alone thinking of someone you met a long time ago. It's ridiculous.
You don't need him in Paradise as Allah provides for everything-obviously you need to take a step back and away from these positions and grow yourself and block his number end of. Your not there for someone's twisted mind but need to pass your test for the life in the hereafter.