there was a time when i grew up being such a believer. i honestly - believed that there is a God and his name is Allah - and i still do believe that- honestly. but I have come to the point where im seriously wondering if God cares - now i am not questioning his existence - i believe he does. but i believe he is very unjust. at least to me.
i am in struggle. and i understand that we have to struggle in life, but does it really need to be this much? i been away from zinah, alcohol , gambling and all the vices all life long - and here i am - still nowhere.
i been working to try and build a career and been saving to have a good life - cause i never complain about materialistic stuff - i think im content with what i have ( alhamdulilah?) at least on career is where i stand.
but is it worth it?
but its the part which the soul wants most that i just cant seem to find - i been seeking to find a woman all my life. and it seems impossible for me to find love. i am burning. i have strong desires and yet none of them are being met. while other people find love early in life - some even at 16- here i am- never knew love at my late 20s.
so loookin up for guidance i come up with realities - i am above average in style - i have a fine face but my nose is too big cause i crashed my bike ( all these unfortunate things happen to me of course) , but i believe women are mostly avoiding me cause of my height - 170 cm. all the scientific data point this out.
how could God put me in such disadvantage? why cant I be taller when it was so easy for him to just make me taller? why has he given height to so may wherei am from the average is over 180 cm, and i am so much smaller? what did i ever do to deserve this? height is 100 percent genetic so dont come at me blaming that its my fault cause its not.
what more does this person need to do to just have one woman? to marry and be loved and have kids? but i guess things just dont go this way. i feel completely betrayed by Allah itself, and its been a long time since i have left practicing or going to the mosque. the bare idea of being religious ( except for when i fast in ramadan) just makes me annoyed - when years ago i used to be very practicing.
after all , can u be practicing to a God you don't love and trust at all?
if you have anything to say - do that - if this thread doesnt turn me around - i promise you i am leaving. i cant take this anymore
bro, are you listening or not? im not saying Alah judges on height. but people will. those are not opinions, they ar facts that i have seen, wittynessed and gone through, nonber of my tall friernds are sdingle, all my short friernds are, these are SCIENTIFIC FACTS. wow. i cant believe im talking to a wall. at least let the video up for the rest of the peoplke so they can see it. and know the truth. this will be my legacy as for tomnorrow i will be gone. im roping
Why are you so concerned about what other people think when they will forget you very quickly after you die. Will your height matter then? No one will say "he was short", but they will remember you by the legacy you left behind!
When we are alone in our graves then we will only be concerned with any good we did and the good we should have and could have done!
So, we must get our priorities straight! People will never be happy with us nor even with themselves. So, it matters not what they or anyone else thinks of us or what they find attractive or not which always changes according to different times, cultures and norms. Therefore, we must only be concerned about what Allah thinks because you and I will die alone, and we will be in our graves alone and we will stand on the day of judgement alone! No one else to be there with us or to hold our hands!
So, stop being concerned with that which has no significance! We must change our mindset and shift it to that which is the most important thing of all and that is what Allah thinks of us, the one who created us. The one which whom our destiny lies and the one with whom we hope by his mercy he can grant us a good death and a good time in the grave and a smooth transition to the hereafter and most of all eternal success so that we may be granted Jannah then meet him and see his countenance.
What better success is there than that? Or will you continue to focus on what others think and on petty things that have absolutely no significance in this world and the next?
i dont care what people think i couldnt cARE less. i care what women think cause they are the only creatures i could ever reproduce with. but its too late now. thanks for trying toi help
let me be in peace in my last 24 hours. i will call my fam members and friernds and tell them i love them, i will drink a coffe thrn smth else,ill go to sleep and wont wake up again. let me sleep and dont disturtb me with your nonsense when i gave u the facts.
i dont care what people think i couldnt cARE less. i care what women think cause they are the only creatures i could ever reproduce with. but its too late now. thanks for trying toi help
Yes, and who is the match maker? in whose hand lays the power to find us spouses? Do you not think that if we please Allah and build a strong connection with him then will he not do what is right for us and best for us in this life?
So, you must stop listening to your enemy shaythan who is chipping away at your weaknesses constantly and making you continue to lose hope. You must pull yourself together and stop destroying yourself over that which has no true significance in this world or the next. Focus on what you can do within your physical capabilities and put your time, effort and energy working for the Hereafter and doing as much good as you possibly can. By building a strong bond and connection with Allah and getting closer to him then surely, he will never allow us to be at loss and we will receive immense goodness in return!
Allah always gives far more back to us than we put in. So ask of him and put your trust, hopes, reliance and faith in him alone!
i have asked the match maker for years and nothing has happened. these other people getting women not asking Allah at all and thry getting quitte the matches . bye bro
i have asked the match maker for years and nothing has happened. these other people getting women not asking Allah at all and thry getting quitte the matches . bye bro
Again, in order for our situation to change then we must change. Also as i've already stated don't assume you know anything about what other people are going through as you and I know nothing about what is in their hearts and what goes on behind closed doors. Every single person is going through a unique set of challenges, trials and hardships. We must focus on ourselves and not be fooled by our enemy into thinking others are "happy" due to so and so. True happiness and contentment come's with richness of the heart and not being rich in anything else.
Focus on bettering yourself and building a strong bond and connection with Allah through all of the advice you have received and the plan I suggested for you. Then keep consistent with those changes and you will see the positive effect on your mind, soul and heart as well as help from Allah. Sometimes Allah tests our resolve to see whether we will patiently persevere or lose hope and become disillusioned. However, we can turn things around very quickly as long as we still have our life.
So turn back to Allah and ask of him for forgiveness, guidance and help and know that he listens to every prayer and if we turn to him and try to build a closer connection to him then we will gain the help we need and want in every aspect of our lives including your pursuit of a spouse. Consider the following article:
Not losing hope in the Dua’s that we make
One of the common complaints of many of us Muslims is that when we make Dua, we don’t see its immediate effects. As a result, we get disheartened and lose hope in the effectiveness and powers of our Dua. The post below highlights a passage written by Ibn Al-Jawzi (may Allah have mercy on him) where he discusses this topic.
For those of us who don’t know, Abu’l-Faraj ibn al-Jawzi (508 AH – 597 AH) is known to be one of the most prolific authors in Islamic history. According to a research conducted on the extent of his research works, the number of Ibn al-Jawzi’s books is more than 376 texts. Some even say that he is the author of more than 700 works.
About the matter of Dua’s not being answered. Ibn al-Jawzi in one of his books commented the following:
I think part of the test is when a believer supplicates and receives no response, and he repeats the dua for a long time and sees no sign of a response. He should realize that this is a test and needs patience.
What a person experiences of waswaas (whispers from shaytan) when the response is delayed is a sickness which needs medicine – I have experienced this myself. A calamity befell me and I supplicated and did not see any response, and Iblees started to lay his traps. Sometimes he said: The generosity (of Allah) is abundant and He is not miserly, so why is there a delay?
I said to him: Be gone, O cursed one, for I have no need of anyone to argue my case and I do not want you as a supporter!
Then I told myself: Beware of going along with his whispers, for if there was no other reason for the delay except that Allah is testing you to see whether you will fight the enemy, that is sufficient wisdom.
My soul (nafs) said: How could you explain the delay in the response of Allah to your prayers for relief from this calamity?
I said: It is proven with evidence that Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, is the Sovereign, and the Sovereign may withhold or give, so there is no point in objecting to Him.
The wisdom behind that is proven in definitive evidence. I may think that something is good, but wisdom does not dictate it, but the reason for that may be hidden, just as a doctor may do things that appear outwardly to be harmful, intending some good purpose thereby. Perhaps this is something of that nature.
There may be an interest to be served by delay, and haste may be harmful. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “A person will be fine so long as he does not become impatient and says, ‘I prayed but I did not receive any answer.’”
The response may be withheld because of some fault in you. Perhaps there was something dubious in what you ate or your heart was heedless at the time when you said the dua, or your punishment is being increased by means of your need being withheld, because of some sin from which you have not repented sincerely. So look for some of these reasons, so that you might achieve your aim.
You should examine the intention behind this request, because attaining it may lead to more sin, or prevent you from doing some good, so withholding it is better.
Perhaps losing what you have missed out on will cause you to turn to Allah and getting it will distract you from Him. This is obvious, based on the fact that were it not for this calamity you would not have turned to Him, because the real calamity is what distracts you from Him, but what makes you stand before Him is good for you and is in your best interests.
If you ponder these things you will focus on what is more beneficial for you, such as correcting a mistake or seeking forgiveness or standing before Allah and beseeching Him, and forget about what you have missed out on. End quote. Source: Sayd al-Khaatir (59-60). (This publication is in three volumes containing aphorisms and wise counsels)
About the issue of Dua’s being accepted, the following two sayings by Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) are also very noteworthy:
It was narrated that Faddalah ibn ‘Ubayd said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) heard a man making dua after his prayer, but he did not send blessings upon the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “This man is in a hurry.” Then he called him and said to him or to someone else: “When any one of you has finished praying (and makes dua), let him start by praising Allah, then let him send blessings upon the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), then after that let him ask for whatever he wants.” Al-Albani said: it is a saheeh hadeeth. (Saheeh Sunan al-Tirmidhi, 2765.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “The slave will receive a response so long as his dua does not involve sin or severing of family ties, and so long as he is not hasty.” It was said, “What does being hasty mean?” He said: “When he says, ‘I made dua and I made dua, and I have not seen any response,’ and he gets frustrated and stops making dua.” Narrated by al-Bukahari, 6340; Muslim, 2735.
— Finally, for those of us who have abandoned the practice of Dua, we may be missing something quite important. Wishing is not the same thing as making a Dua. We may keep wishing our wishes but we have a better chance of seeing them materialized when we actually make the effort to enter the state of Dua and asking Him what we want.
Sufyan ibn 'Uyaynah said "Let none of you think that his Du'aa will go unanswered because of the sins that he knows of himself.
Indeed, Allah responded to the Du'aa of the worst amongst His creation; Iblees (Shaitan, the cursed one), when he said; 'O My Lord! Give me respite until the Day of Judgement!' He (Allah SWT) replied, 'Then you are of those who have been reprieved.' (Surah al-Hijr 36-37).
So if the Du'aa of Iblees' can be accepted, then surely the Du'aa of a sinner has more right than the devil himself!" And surely your Lord is never unjust...
May Allah accept our Du'aas and grant us the ability to continuously seek His forgiveness (through sincere repentance)... Ameen.
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They said: We call upon Allâh, but He does not respond to us
Ibrâhîm ibn Adham (d.160H) - rahimahullâh - said, when he was asked about the verse: "Call upon Me and I will respond to you." [Sûrah Ghâfir 40:60] They said: We call upon Allâh, but He does not respond to us. So he said:
"You know Allâh; yet you do not obey Him.
You recite the Qur'ân; yet you do not act according to it.
You know Shaytân; yet you continue agreeing with him.
You claim to love Allâh's Messenger 'alayhis-salâm; yet you abandon his Sunnah (guidance and way).
You claim to love Paradise, yet you do not work for it.
You claim to fear the Fire; yet you do not stop sinning.
You say, Indeed death is true; yet you have not prepared for it.
You busy yourselves with the faults of others; yet you do not look at your own faults.
You eat the sustenance that Allâh provides for you; yet you are not grateful to Him.
And you bury your dead; yet you have not heeded its lesson." [3]
[3] Al-Hâfidh Ibn Rajab related it in al-Khushû' fis-Salâh (p.62).
Therefore we must realise that Allah knows better what is best for us so we should have full faith, trust and reliance on him that he will do what is best for us. Also if we wants to increase the effectiveness of our Dua's then the following hadith tells us how to do this:
It was narrated that Faddalah ibn ‘Ubayd (Ra) said: The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) heard a man making Dua after his prayer, but he did not send blessings upon the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: “This man is in a hurry.” Then he called him and said to him or to someone else: “When any one of you has finished praying (and makes Dua), let him start by praising Allah, then let him send blessings upon the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam), then after that let him ask for whatever he wants.” (Al-Tirmidhi, 2765)
The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: “The slave will receive a response so long as his Dua does not involve sin or severing of family ties, and so long as he is not hasty.” It was said, “What does being hasty mean?” He said: “When he says, ‘I made Dua and I made Dua, and I have not seen any response,’ and he gets frustrated and stops making Dua.” (Al-Bukahari, 6340; Muslim, 2735)
So we must realise that trials will befall us but Allah is testing us to see how strong our resolve is and whether we will turn to him or not. So we must never lose hope. We should make us of the times when Dua's are readily accepted especially the time of Tahajjud. Ask of him, beg and cry unto him and he will never leave you empty handed!
So never lose hope in making Dua to Allah. We should always bare in mind that we do not know what is best for us and others. It may also be that Allah is keeping our rewards for making Dua to him so that on the day of Judgement when we see the rewards and we ask Allah what are these huge rewards and he tells us that these were the rewards of the many Dua's we did but we thought they were not answered but Allah kept the reward for us. Therefore we would wish that none of our Dua's were accepted so that we may get all the rewards on the day of Judgement.
Therefore never lose hope and keep making Dua and always bare in mind that Allah knows what is best for us and those we make Dua for and it maybe that he is accepting our Duas in other ways that we are not aware of that are even better than the Dua's we made.
So trust in Allah and know he will never turn us away empty handed because those who make much Dua can only be in a win win situation!
May Allah never make us lose hope in him and make us patient and persevere through trials and hardships. Ameen
bro, are you listening or not? im not saying Alah judges on height. but people will. those are not opinions, they ar facts that i have seen, wittynessed and gone through, nonber of my tall friernds are sdingle, all my short friernds are, these are SCIENTIFIC FACTS. wow. i cant believe im talking to a wall. at least let the video up for the rest of the peoplke so they can see it. and know the truth. this will be my legacy as for tomnorrow i will be gone. im roping
Allah controls the hearts of His creation.Will help you on the right time- it's testing timss
Once you you surrender & realise that Allah doesn't waste reward of good doers & a person is tested according to his imaan.
First give it time- it takes years to get to one's rewards of both lives - greatest reward is HANNAH's dsgrees...up,higher & highseest.
Yyour pain is a reality - We agree but forget the non religious guys- Our bbros/sisbon Inaan are suffering someone so huge as mental illnesses,losses of imaan & end in nowhere but ...some are in extreme critical situation...I'm tortured all sides - feel nothing but hell is end.
Though i have alot of good things going on but I'm not giving up because of bad experiencez,mental health,losses etc.
Do whatever you are able to but keep to salaat 5 times & do good deeds as a second nature.
We all will havevto lray for each otherr!Because we all have been victim of Duhayma fitan
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I told you earlier too,around 2-3 weeks ago,i seen a dream in which i see a quality guy on face though he was short.But looked quality.
It has absolutely "Nothing to do with me"nothing to do with marriage but i realised it's ok if the whole package is barely okay too.
P.S:Not talking about myself.
So,there i see a dream & see you here for your issue...See..it doesn't mean literal but ALLAH showed me a relatively shortrr guy as "quality"
Stop complaining & focus on short Ibadah acts & focus on career!
ALLAH Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is with you.Don't ruin & destroy yourself for a ending life for a life of eternity of Paradise- being saved from hell which very scarily is existent!
May you receive peace & healing from Allah Ta'ala soon!
Last edited by SoldierAmatUllah; 10-01-2022 at 07:41 PM.
I came here to find solitude and maybe guidance but all i hear are the same thinfs over and over.
I am too numb fdom all the rejections just cause i wasnt enough. I wasnt manufactured well.
I am sorry my Lord but it wasnt my fault.
I am letting you go,please You let me go too. Farewell
I am not really sure what you are looking for. But as an idea, perhaps spend some time volunteering in a hospital. When you see people who are dependent upon other human beings for basic needs that most of us take for granted, like picking up a spoon to feed yourself, or being able to sit up, or having a drink of water, or needing to urinate or defaecate, you will quickly realise that you have so much to be thankful for and you will forget your complaints. May Allah forgive us for our shortcomings and help us to be grateful servants, Ameen.
Brother .. yes you did a very hard work .. but know that sometimes .. some words break all the love that we build
So ... try to look first to that minerals and also somthing i want you to pay attention to
Sometimes we made a really good job and we rely on it and all the time feel like i did something for you .. so you have to make this thing just the same way as i want
And its not
From the first lines i understand that the thing is somthing you were looking for and it happened in a deferent way than you expected
And may be that was the best for you at that time but doesn't mean that it wont work at all
But why you despair brother?
You think this can bring joy for you ?
Brother... i know this time is defecult because of all the temptations surrounding us ...
But its also a temporary dont forget that
We all will left
But i can tell you that one day i was like that
Not seeing any thing deserve to live for
Feeling like if i only could die now
But if i did i would regret all the years that i lived ... i was not dreaming that time that i could be one day
You have to have many thing in your life
Not one thing
Also you can ask an imam to look for a wife for you or even some women from your family to tell her what you love in your next wife and did the same
May be this way could bring for you a women that allah want to full your heart with wihle you are about to left him
Imagine if i am with my sister and she was a bit tired doing the housework ans ask me for help
I respont to her while taking my phone speaking with my other sister teling her ... i am coming right now wait for me
My sister at that time feel like i am the worst sister in the world
Don't looking to her tiredness and not caring for her going to my other sister quickly
She just took her phone wrote a long message to me reminding me with all things that she did for me and how i dont deserve her love
Five minutes later i entered the house with my other sister saying to her " surprise! "
It was all for you my lovely sister
But you just didn't know how much we did to make all the procedures for umrah because you were saying many times that that was your dream to go there
May be my english couldn't help me to tell you all what i want to clarify for you
But i can just tell you that being the disbeliever will not change anything
You will just lose the best thing you can ever have in this life
And i know what i am saying
Dont lose your iman
Your disbelief will not bring a women for you
Its just because you were strong mashallah
Shaytan comes to you from that point
Dont give him the opportunity to do that
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