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Asalamu Alaikum
Tommy, he's funny. Sometimes he blasts Quraan recitation from his house, and sometimes you hear the weirdest sounds of music coming. I realised, the days he has music on is when it's sunny and nice. When it's dark and gloomy, the Quraan be's on blast.
Cool huh.
Assalamu Alaikum
Mashallah, that was great advice..couldnt have said any better, dont put urself down when giving someone advice, cuz even the littlest information can help someoneI don't know if this will help or not. I don't have much knowledge of the Muslim religion even though I am Muslim. I can only give you advice based on my personal experiences (yet still, it might not be good advice).
My advice is for you to seek forgiveness from Allah. Maybe the reason why you feel compelled to reject Allah is because you feel guilty about “losing your Iman” and so you feel like you don’t deserve to pray to Allah. If that is the case then what I think you should do is ask for forgiveness and then try to make up for it by doing good to others. Often times I feel like I am in such great debt to Allah for all that he has done for me and there is no way for me to pay him back. So instead, I try to be good to other people, with hopes that this will please Allah (I always believed that Allah would want to see good things happen to his servants). And so that is what I would do everytime I feel guilty for something I have done and feel like I need to make it up to Allah, I would think of a way to improve myself and help those around me and do my best to accomplish it. Maybe you doing the same thing might help.
A quote that gets me through hard times is “While Allah exists (and he always shall), there will always be hope.” I can’t remember where I got the quote from.
I don’t know if this advice helps your or not, I hope it will.
Bro my_name_islam_ i think you should continue to pray no matter what, shaytan may be in your head trying to make you repent. Another note is to let go of the past, I know that it can be very hard sometimes, but Allah grants a person the next second for a reason, to repent, turn their heels from sins and walk into deeds. You have been given many seconds for you to turn ur life back together.
Keep in thikr and dua...everytime you see something that pleases you say mashallah, alhemdulilah, subhanallah..if you see something you dislike say astughfirallah, this will help you remember that Allah is in every sign of life and that He is Great.
Here is something that I've always liked:
The Prophet (pbuh) told us, "The Shaytaan sits in the path (of every goodness) that the son of Adam (may try to take). He sat in front of him when he took the path to Islam and told him, 'how could you leave the religion of your fathers and your fore-fathers?' But he disobeyed him and became Muslim. Then Shaytaan sat in front of him in his path to Hijrah and said, 'How could you leave your land and your sky?' But he disobeyed him and migrated (from Makkah). Then he sat in front of him in his path of Jihaad and said, 'Why should you do Jihad? It will only exhaust your wealth and body. You'll be killed, your wife will marry someone else, and your wealth will be divided (to others).' But he disobeyed him and went for Jihad." The Prophet (pbuh) then said, "Whoever does this, it is a duty upon Allah that He shall enter him into Jannah!"
The shaytan sat infront of the Rasul (peace and blessings be upon him) someone who was verily sinless, and he will continue to sit in our paths until Allah has demolished him from our souls. Yet this was an example that whoever you are sinless or sinful, you will always find troubles your way..but keep Allah as your goal so that you may reach him.
I dont know what kind of personality you have or anything like that, but sometimes when i am troubled, i like to sit alone with no one around me so that i may fix my thoughts and purify my mind even cry if i have to...also it might help to think of others that have been through something that you have been through so that you can take stay away from the mistakes they might have done..u know like learning from others mistakes rather than your own.
fi aman Allah
w'salaam
format_quote Originally Posted by Ameeratul Layl
Im so depressed.
:wilted_ro
Awww cheer up sis. Don't worry you can share, we won't think ur a nutcase. After all two nutcases are better than oneHope ur feeling better now inshaAllah. Here's a joke to cheer u up a bit.
MYSTERIOUS CASE
There was this case in the hospital's Intensive Care ward where patients always died in the same bed, on Sunday morning at 11 a.m., regardless of their medical condition. This puzzled the doctors and some even thought that it had something to do with the supernatural. Why the death? So the doctors decide to go down to the ward to investigate the cause of the incidents. So on the next Sunday morning few minutes before 11 a.m., all doctors and nurses nervously wait outside the ward to see for themselves what the terrible phenomenon was all about. Some were holding wooden crosses, prayer books and other holy objects to ward off the evil........ Just when the clock struck 11.. Santa Singh, the part-time Sunday sweeper, entered the ward and unplugged the life support system so that he could use the vacuum cleaner.
p.s (not intended to be racist, it's just a joke)
Last edited by Snowflake; 12-16-2005 at 01:30 AM.
i am always depressed
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WHTS WRONG? IM WORRIED NW...
i gt lots of love cnt help it....
kudahafis
life is difficult. especially during these times it seems we have to compromise islam to a certain degree to just live and get a job!!!
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Nothing's easy, but we still have to remind ourselves of what we have. I've got my beautiful child, my health, a roof over my head, clothing to cover myself, food to satisfy my hunger. Alhumdulillah I'm so so grateful to Allah for these blessings. I could've been suffering in a war-torn country by the hands of the kufaar or other calamities. We should remind ourselves constantly of these blessings. Have faith in Allah when you are depressed, and remember bad times do pass inshaAllah.
I feel for the torment you're in. It seems you are lonely too and have somewhat become a recluse. Alhumdulillah your wife's faith in Islam has returned. Is it possible that you go to your local mosque at least once a day?
The positive change in your routine will help you inshaAllah. Maybe try to read namaz with a jamaat. The change in environment will help.
Also if your medication isn't working, you could try to ask your doctor to change it. With medication for depression, it's like trial and error. Different medication works for different people. I know it's hard bro, to do anything when you are depressed. It's the worst illness in some ways as no one can see the symptoms of your suffering. But inshaAllah, you will get through it.
Try to stay in wudhu as much as possible.
Do keep us posted. I will prayer for you inshaAllah.
Nadia
Lolololol Brother Akulion! Uffff your posts made me laugh even though I've got the grandfather of all headaches!!!
Sis Amira, dont feel so down sis. I love you for the sake of Allah & cuz ur a sweet lil sis. I know how ya feel but in my book, if someone don't return your love, they ain't worth it anyway. Can you believe I get the same treatment but I put it down to my looks. My grandmother is Burmese, mom is half burmese, dad was pakistani, so I'm kinda mixed lol. I've got this oriental look and I swear it's like I don't belong anywhere. It's like they don't know how to treat me. But ya know what? I regard Allah as my best friend in the whole wide world, cuz He is. So it don't bother me that much
:rose: ((((((((Love & hugz to ya sis)))))))):rose:
Asalaamu Alaikum
Ha that was the most hilariouse thing ever bro
maa salaama
Re: Depressed because of sisters!
As-Salaam Walikum- Do NOT EVEN SWEAT IT.. Because REMEMBER YOU LOVE THEM FOR THE PLEASURE OF ALLAH (SWT) SO IT REEEEEAAALLLLYYYY Shouldn't MATTER. Because YOUR DOING IT FOR ALLAH (SWT) RIGHT ? So What's the FLIGHT ?format_quote Originally Posted by Ms. Amira
What do I do, when I get depressed because of sisters?
I don't know that many sister, and I also like to keep have few associates, because I am really shy.. But I'm trying my best to be more outgoing when around sisters.. Eventhough I don't know some sisters really much, I still feel love for them, because they're my sisters.. So when I say I love you for the sake of Allâh, if they say thanks or jazakAllah then I'm just, 'hm, you not even gonna say it back?' eventhough it's not a big deal.. just because someone doesn't say it back, doens't mean that they dislike you.. and i should be happy when people say jazakAllâh to me, 'cause it's a good thing.. but why do I get so depressed and feel sad? its really annoying! am i just a sensitive person?
one time i said to a sister, I love you for the sake of Allâh and she said jazakallah sis.. and when she said that i honestly wanted to cry a little, 'cause she says i love you too to others.. so i really felt like i'm a nobody..
seriously, don't laugh.. i know im sooo overreacting! but, yeah.. what do i do?
***MaSalaama***
format_quote Originally Posted by Ms. Amira
What do I do, when I get depressed because of sisters?
I don't know that many sister, and I also like to keep have few associates, because I am really shy.. But I'm trying my best to be more outgoing when around sisters.. Eventhough I don't know some sisters really much, I still feel love for them, because they're my sisters.. So when I say I love you for the sake of Allâh, if they say thanks or jazakAllah then I'm just, 'hm, you not even gonna say it back?' eventhough it's not a big deal.. just because someone doesn't say it back, doens't mean that they dislike you.. and i should be happy when people say jazakAllâh to me, 'cause it's a good thing.. but why do I get so depressed and feel sad? its really annoying! am i just a sensitive person?
one time i said to a sister, I love you for the sake of Allâh and she said jazakallah sis.. and when she said that i honestly wanted to cry a little, 'cause she says i love you too to others.. so i really felt like i'm a nobody..
seriously, don't laugh.. i know im sooo overreacting! but, yeah.. what do i do?
Asslama Alaikum Ms.Amira.
I think I understand Ur feeling,but i don't think U should be Sad,becouse If U said to someone that U love the them for the Sake of Allah,Allah loves u and give U 'Reward of that,And I'm sure that's Enough for U.
I love U sis For the sake of Allah.:loving: :rose:
~~Salam~~
Asalaamu alikum,
I been there and done there.Just the other day, my sister and I had this long conversation on this very topic...the moral of the talk was "never expect anything from anyone, except Allah swt, be nice , kind only for Allah swt"
This is make you self-less and wont let you down everytime when you beg the situation to differ..:sister:
wasalam
format_quote Originally Posted by akulionDear Bro Lybian hero Salam Alaikum,
I dont go around saying I love you to sis :P lol that was a joke bro..man ur gona give me bad name loool
Dont let the non-muslims make you stop doing something that even the Prophet said to do, he said "If you love your brother then let him know that you love him"
Infact let me tell you a story from my college days (I went to college in the UK) - Note: This story may seem a little 'disgusting' to some but please dont judge, its a true story.
In college my closest friends circle was composed of: 2 egyptian brothers,and a brother from congo. Apart from them people who also used to hang out with us included, 1 bulgarian guy, 1 isreali guy, 1 american guy and 3 american girls. (The reason for the high number of americans is cos my college was an american college in uk)
Anyways me and my muslim bros used to use a 2 liter bottle of pepsi (filled with water) to do taharah (since in the UK they dont have systems to do taharah. (Taharah for those who dont know is basically washing up after u visit the toilet).
Moving on......We used to keep this bottle in one of our rooms and had it marked with a black marker - in big writing it said - "POISON - DO NOT DRINK" (since it was something we took to the toilet so it was uinclean).
Anyways the non muslims in our group often used to see us take the bottle with us to the toilet everytime we would visit the toilet. So one day the Isreali guy couldnt take it anymore and said, "What the heck do you do with that bottle man? Some weird kinky stuff?"
So we all tried to explain to them all that we used it to wash up after going to the loo. They ofcourse thought it was RIDICLOUS and LAUGHED. One thing to know about me is that I am a very out spoken person and when it comes down to explaining something to someone I will not hesitate to use the most basics and vivid descriptions to explain a thing to someone.
Their laughing was upsetting me, so I stood up and said, "Do you know the difference between us and you all?".
Taken aback they said, "what?"
I replied, "The different is that if you smell your ass right now it will stink to high hell, but if you smell mine, it wont! Go ahead try it!"
Everyone was shocked!.
I continued, "Washing after the loo is very benefical, because while all you do is smear the popo all over your buttoks with a piece of paper, we actually use water to clean everything away and then wash our hands with soap! As a result, your backsides stink cos there is still popo inside (no pun intended to Intel inside). Wheras, we are clean and less likely to develop diseases, bacteria, and other problems."
Alhamdolillah by the Mercy and Grace of Allah, my explanation had such a profound effect on those people that the Isreali guy started doing taharah regularly from that day forth, and one of the American girls eventually reverted to Islam through me Alhamdolillah.
Victory dance
So bro never stand down to these people - we have to teach them the TRUTH so they will give up their ridiclous ideas once and for all insha'Allah
LOL I know this isnt supposed to be funny, but it is! just the way your said it, I could just picture a convo like this going on, funny! very true though! Alhamdulilah the American lady reverted. oh and thx for sharing!!
Awwwwwwwwww mashaAllah....sis ur a bit like meee!! im kindda shy too...and i like to be told that im loved by fellow sisters too....so that makes 2 of us!!!
I LOVE YOU SO SO SO SO MUCH SIS! all for the sake of Allah swt!!!
you keep that chin up n smile...and like you said u dunno whats in sum1s heart...and many times we hold so much love for others in our heart but we forget to show it....and we dun realise it!!
you just be happy n smile....n every time me tell a sis i luv em il think of you n smile inshaAllah.....
and remember...the most imp kindda love is the love we gain from Allah swt by being pious n rightous muslims isnhaAllah....and dats the main thing....and mashaAllah you seem to be a luvly person, with lota luv for all...may Allah reward you for all the love you hold for islam....ameen
ws wr wb
Last edited by 1m@@n; 01-04-2006 at 03:49 AM.
I :loving: U 4 THE SAKE OF ALLAH
ditto.
its completely natural to wanna be loved by ur fellow sisters. and u shud be.
I LOVE YOU FOR THE SAKE OF ALLAH.
and: that story was FUUUUNNNYYYY with an excellent moral. neone else went thru ne expiriences like that?
Salaam aleikum
You are my neighbour, I have to love you. Even if you speak funny and sound like you have a potato down your throat...
(Yes, I am Norwegian...)
salam sis,
i personaly dnt knw u but it take a muslimah to love a sis for da sake of allah swt.. N IAM SORRY FOR SAYIN THIS OR I HOPE UR ATLEAST GALD TO HEAR IT FROM UNKNWN SIS...
I LOVE U FROM DA BOTTOM OF MY HEART FOR DA SAKE OF ALLAH SWT N ALSO FOR DA SAKE OF DEEN N SAKE OF HUMANITY...
p.z i hope tht made u happy...
ma salam..
I am Norwegian.
hey sis i luv ya loadssssss for da sake of Allah!!!!!!
lol bro akulion!!!!!!!
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