In the Name of Allaah, the Most Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy. By the time! Verily mankind is at loss – except for those who believe and perform righteous deeds, and advise one another towards the truth and advise one another towards patience.’
what do i despair about? hmm.... good question? i guess im worried about the sins taht i have done, and need to repent, but i just can't seem to fully submit. i feel sad about what awaits me.
im worred cos the other day i read something and i said a statement which may be considered as kufr, and this is hte thing i am not feeling bad about. but the thing is, i was confused about what I read, and in one wy it feels like i have committed kufr, on the other hand it feels that the only reason i said it, was out of confusion, not rebelion. i made istikhara prayer about whther or not i should perform the ghusl, and i was inclined to yes. however, i didn't consult anyone about the problem, but i was still inclined to yes. do you know if this is possible: to have an inclination towards something, before consulting anyone about what to do.
anyways, jazakallahu khair
Oh, anonymous!
My heart goes out to you!
It seems to me that whatever sin it is you have committed, you don't feel remorse for it, but feel you should be remorseful for fear of Allah's punishment!
It is not just your thread here, but other threads too - which seem to be full of people's guilt, their self-condemnation and their fear of Allah's terrible punishment for their wrongdoings and weaknesses!
It makes me want to cry.
I have to say this, but I think you all have God so wrong!!
What about God's love, mercy and compassion??!
Do you think God does not know our weaknesses and our daily struggles to handle them??!
And [the Lord] passed in front of Moses, proclaiming, "The Lord, the Lord, the compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness, maintaining love to thousands, and forgiving wickedness, rebellion and sin. (Exodus 34:6)
Be at peace, anonymous.
Believe that God loves you!
Peace glo
Here I stand.
I can do no other.
May God help me.
Amen.
Come, let us worship and bow down •
and kneel before the Lord our Maker
[Psalm 95]
Fear is an important factor because if a person just has love and hope - they'll feel they can do whatever they desire and still end up in paradise. With that missing factor of fear, then you just need to look around the world today.
anonymous-maybe the reason why ur not feeling guilty is also because you don't feel like stopping what ur doing...?
sometimes the shaytan makes it seem so attractive that we don't want to stop, but we also know that we must repent because its wrong..
pray to Allah to help you make a sincere repentance, and keep trying-never give up because as long as you're trying you are doing jihad and are on the road of success and shaytan has not succeeded over you----
so don't give up!!
"Indeed in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest"
This is from another post, so some things might not relate to you. But its referring to the waswasa (satanic whispers) so it might be of some help insha'Allaah.
jazak Allaah khayr for explaining your situation, because the cure to ignorance is asking, as our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him and his beloved family) said.
I just want you to know that what you are experiencing now is quite common to happen to the believer (the mu'min) and it is a sign of faith. In islam, its called waswasa (the whisperings of satan) and it is one of the ways shaytan will try to put someone off the right path.
Its also important to remember that one of the main reasons you feel weak is because you believe in Allaah, but you don't have any evidence in your mind to prove those satanic thoughts wrong. And the only cure to that is by reading more and more from the Qur'an and Sunnah to clear the misconceptions that satan puts in your mind. This way, the more evidence you have - the more stronger a believer you will become insha'Allaah, and the more evidence you will have to drive away them satanic thoughts insha'Allaah.
We advise you not to pay any attention to these whispers, and to ignore them, and to do the opposite of what they are calling you to do. For these whispers (waswaas) come from the Shaytaan to cause grief to those who believe. The best way to deal with them is to remember Allaah a great deal (dhikr), to seek refuge with Allaah from the accursed Shaytaan [by saying: a`udhu billahi mina ash-shaytani ar-rajim; I seek refuge and protection in Allah from Satan, the accursed).], to keep away from sins and wrong actions which are the means by which Iblees gains control over the sons of Adam. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Verily, he [the Shaytaan] has no power over those who believe and put their trust only in their Lord (Allaah)”
[al-Nahl 16:99]
It is worth quoting here what Ibn Hajar al-Haythami (may Allaah have mercy on him) said about dealing with waswasah in his book al-Fataawa al-Fiqhiyyah al-Kubra, 1/149. This is what he said:
“He was asked about the problem of waswasah (insinuating whispers from the Shaytaan), and whether there is a remedy for it.
He replied by saying that there is an effective remedy for it, which is to ignore them completely, no matter how frequently they may come to mind. When these whispers are ignored, they do not become established, rather they go away after a short time, as many people have experienced. But for those who pay attention to them and act upon them, they increase until they make him like one who is insane or even worse, as we see among many of those who have suffered from them and paid attention to them and to the devil whose task it is to insinuate these whispers, whom the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) warned us against when he said, “Beware the whispers with regard to water (i.e., wudoo’) which is caused by a devil called al-Walhaan” – because that causes a person to go to extremes with regard to doing wudoo’, as was explained in Sharh Mishkaat al-Anwaar.
In al-Saheehayn there is a report which supports what has been mentioned above, which is that whoever suffers from waswaas should seek refuge with Allaah and turn away from the waswaas. So think about this effective remedy which was taught by the one who does not speak of his own whims and desires to his ummah, and understand that whoever is deprived of this is deprived of all goodness, because waswasah comes from the Shaytaan, according to scholarly consensus, and the accursed one (the Shaytaan) has no other desire than to make the believers go astray, make them confused, make their life a misery, cause them distress to the extent that they leave Islam without realizing it.
“Surely, Shaytaan (Satan) is an enemy to you, so take (treat) him as an enemy”
[Faatir 35:6 – interpretation of the meaning]
According to another hadeeth, the one who suffers from waswasah should say, “Aamantu Billaahi wa bi rusulihi (I believe in Allaah and in His Messengers).” Undoubtedly, whoever thinks of the paths of the Messengers of Allaah, especially our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) will find that his path and his law is easy and clear, with no hardship in it.
“… and has not laid upon you in religion any hardship”
[al-Hajj 22:78 – interpretation of the meaning]
Whoever ponders this and believes in it sincerely, the problem of waswasah and listening to the Shaytaan will go away. In the book of Ibn al-Sunni it is narrated via ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her), “Whoever suffers from this waswaas, let him say ‘Aamantu Billaahi wa bi rusulihi (I believe in Allaah and in His Messengers)’, three times, and it will go away from him.”
Al-‘Izz ibn ‘Abd al-Salaam and others mentioned something similar to the above. They said: the treatment for waswasah is to believe that this is an idea from the Shaytaan and that Iblees is the one who is bringing these thoughts to his mind, and he should strive to fight him. Then he will have the reward of the mujaahid, because he is fighting the enemy of Allaah. If he does that, then the Shaytaan will flee from him. This is what mankind has been tested with from the beginning of time, and Allaah has given him (Iblees) some power over man as a test for him, so that Allaah may show the truth to be true and falsehood to be false, even though the disbelievers may hate that.
In Muslim, hadeeth no. 2203, it is narrated that ‘Uthmaan ibn Abi’l-‘Aas said: “The Shaytaan was interfering with my prayer and recitation of Qur’aan. He [the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) ] said: ‘That is a devil called Khanzab, so seek refuge with Allaah from him and spit drily to your left three times.’ I did that, and Allaah took him away from me.”
This hadeeth proves the point we are making, which is that waswasah can only overpower the one who is ignorant and confused and does not know what’s what. But the one who has knowledge and understanding will the Sunnah and keep away from bid’ah. The worst of the innovators are those who follow waswaas, hence Maalik (may Allaah have mercy on him) narrated that his shaykh al-Rabee’ – who was the imam of the people of his time – was the fastest of the people in relieving himself and doing wudoo’.
Ibn Hurmuz used to be slow in relieving himself and in doing wudoo’, and he used to say “I have a problem, do not follow my example.”
Al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said that one of the scholars thought it was mustahabb for the one who was affected by waswasah with regard to his wudoo or prayer to say Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah, for when the Shaytaan hears dhikr (remembrance of Allaah) he slinks away, and Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah is the best of dhikr, and the most effective remedy for warding off waswasah is to remember Allaah a great deal.
We ask Allaah to take away the waswasah that you are suffering and to increase us and you in faith, righteousness and piety. Ameen.
You may feel afraid that you're sinful for this act, even though its not your fault. But alhamdulillah (praise be to Allaah Almighty) - our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said:
“Allaah has forgiven for my ummah that which is whispered to them and which crosses their minds, so long as they do not act upon it or speak of it.”
(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 6664; Muslim, 127)
Allaah Almighty says in the Qur'an:
We send down (stage by stage) in the Qur'an that which is a healing and a mercy to those who believe: to the unjust it causes nothing but loss after loss. (17:82)
When a person has faith, then shaytan will keep whispering to the person to try to distract them from the siraat-ul mustaqeem (the straight path) . So keep remembering Allaah, and keep praising Allaah (i.e. subhan Allaah, alhamdulillah, Allaahu akbar, La illaah illallaah etc.)
Whenever you pray 5 daily prayers, then concentrate on what you say, because within surah fatiha - you recite 'ikhdinas-siraat-al mustaqeem' (guide us to the straight path.) - and if you're sincere in this, Allaah Almighty will keep you on the straight path insha'Allaah, because you pray this surah about 17times a day [minimum] (when you pray your 5 daily salaah/prayers.)
If you remember Allaah Almighty at times of ease, Allaah will remember you at times of hardship insha'Allaah.
Make duah to Allah to make you hate the things which He hates and make you love the things which He loves. Inshallah that will cause you to hate all sins and you will be able to repent properly and turn away from it. Inshallah.
Sis Glo, Allahs mercy exceeds His Wrath... But that doesn't mean that all is good even if you commit sins. If you've committed a major sin, you should feel fear of Allah... so as to have a conscience to prevent that sin from transpiring again.
Look at the case of Adam and Eve vs. Satan. Satan didn't repent and didn't feel sorry for what he had done... where as Adam and Eve were so regretful and repented to Allah and Allah forgave them.
Fear of Allah prevents you from openly sinning and thinking its ok... and yet the Love of Allah keeps your heart soft.
May Allah give you proper understanding and Knowledge of Islam. Ameen.
Being in despair is considered a sin???
(How to make somebody in need feel even worse about him/herself ...! )
I suppose it's sign of unbelief, huh?
Never despair
Someone might say, 'I want to repent but my sins are too many.' But Allah says in the Qur'an:« "O My slaves who have transgressed agaisnt themselves! Despair not for the Mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful." »[Qur'an, Chapter 39: Verse 53]
Therefore, we should never lose hope or stop asking for Allah's forgiveness. Its importance is shown to us in a hadeeth in which the Prophet Peace be upon him said:
“ "O people! Turn to Allaah in repentance and seek His forgiveness, for surely I make repentance a hundred times every day." ” [Sahih Muslim]
Repentance is such a great act of worship that doing it can totally erase our sins altogether, as the Prophet Peace be upon him said:
“"One who repents from sin is like one without sin."” [ibn Majah]
i have done a very bad sin, and wnat to repents, howver im feeling not guilty. i really want to repent.
jazakallhu khair
You have to feel guilt in order to repent. I doubt Allah would accept an insincere apology. Once you've finished with the matter in heaven, you have to perform material deeds here on Earth that will counter the bad one. Since I don't know what that is, I can't advise you any further than that.
The main thing is that the brother or sister needs to see the severety of the crime, and then ask themselves - can they really bare the punishment of it?
brothers and sisters.
jazakallahu khair everybody.
an i ask another thing though. is it normal to feel....uncomfortable after repenance. like for eg there's a continually bugging feeling inside. and also wiswaas has increased. does this mean anything?
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Repenting is a really good sign for someone, as it is Allah Almighty who has given that person the faith in order to repent.
It is indeed natural that if you intent to stop sinning, shaytaan will whisper to you to do it again, and your nafs will desire it and try to pull to towards it.
We all need to face up to our sins rather than trying to justify them like we do,by saying things like 'Ah! These things happen, its done now!'
Once we realise how bad our sins are, which is likely to take time, then by the will of Allah, inshallah, we wil be able to make things happen.
Be patient and supplicate to your Lord for He listens to our prayers.
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