My baby died

Inna lilahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon

The advices before me are very good sister, we sympathizes for your grief.

You need times for your grief, but don't let the grief has the control over you.

... You may not feel "normal" for a while, I think that's normal. Some people do get on with stuff as usual, as they feel it takes their mind off things.

Inshallah I shall pray for you tonight.

format_quote Originally Posted by Bint Abdusattar

My little 8 month old baby Fatimah Sumiya died on December 22nd 2006.
Although i have been blessed with patience i do not think i have enough of it as i am not able to act 'normally' yet. eg wake up before husband to make his breakfast and act happy happy all the time. I have thought and thought about this and i understand that it will take time - but others don't see it this way! According to them i should be living life 'normally' and the grief should not overtake my duties! Are they right and i am wrong?

Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi ra'ji oon ... I'm deeply saddened to hear of your loss sis. I pray Allah swt gives you and your family sabr and heals your pain. Ameen. SubhanAllah, your pain must know no end, yet Allah will compensate for it in a way that it will seem like the prick of a thorn, inshaAllah. Such is Allah's Kindness and Mercy.

Concerning your question.. of course you can't be expected to carry on as normal (at this point) no matter how convenient it is for others. I hope that others around you realise that to help the healing process to begin they need to give you support, words of comfort and their understanding.

You can also help yourself by focusing on things that bring comfort such the reward Allah will compensate you with in the hereafter. And that this is what Allah willed as only He knows the reasons why, therefore we must bow down and accept His decisions. I know words aren't enough to ease your pain at present sis, but I pray that they help you feel a little stronger to cope with the pain you're going through inshaAllah.

Take care sis. You're in my thoughts and duaas inshaAllah.

Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi ra'jioon

Im so sorry for u , may Allah give u sabr ...
I cant imagine ur pain but I can remeber us what Allah says:
Be sure we shall test you with something of fear and hunger, some loss in goods or lives or the fruits (of your toil), but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere,

Who say, when afflicted with calamity: "To Allah We belong, and to Him is our return":-

They are those on whom (Descend) blessings from Allah, and Mercy, and they are the ones that receive guidance. [Surah Al Baqarah 155-157]

All Praise to Allah, Lord of the worlds. Master of the day of judgement, hearer of all supplications. Peace and Blessing of Allah be upon on beloved and humble Prophet MUhammad, His Family and His Companions.

Dear Sister in Islam, First of all, I am really sorry for you loss; May Allah bestow upon you his blessing and give to strength to recover from the tragic loss of your child. Sister, I know many people have consolidated you in this regards, but at the end you have to realise that it is with the knowledge of Allah and Allah alone to put you in such a test and Allah rewards the one who is among As sabiroon ( those who are patient). I will narrate to you of the story of the Holy Prophet when he was on his jouney to Holy Ancesions to the Heavens. Upon reaching the seventh heaven, Prophet Muhammad narrates :

"I came upon a person all drowned in Light. He was seated upon a throne in an attitude of awesome dignity, and before him was a multitude of little children. I asked Jibra’il who was this person of such light, majesty and awe, and who were all the children with him. The angel answered me, ‘This is your great grandfather Ibrahim. He loves you and the entire nation that believes in you. He once prayed to the Lord of the Worlds that he might be of service to your nation, and the Lord heard his supplication. He gave him all these little children who are the little boys and girls from your nation who die before reaching adulthood. Allah Almighty has entrusted Ibrahim with their upbringing and education. Until the Day of Judgment, he will be instructing them in proper behavior and training their minds in the useful sciences. After having perfected their schooling, on the Day of Gathering he will lead them forth and bring them to the site of Resurrection. There, before the Lord’s Holy Presence, he will entreat Him with these words: ‘Oh my Lord, here are the youngsters of the nation of Your Beloved Muhammad Z who died before reaching the age of maturity. According to Your order and command, I have taught and trained them in all useful branches of knowledge, and brought them before Thy Majestic Throne. Thine is all kindness, favor and grace.’
“At this invocation, the Almighty Lord will reply with the full glory of His Majesty, ‘Oh children, go and enter the Gardens of Paradise.’

• Thereupon, these children will reply, ‘Oh our Lord, by Thy Grace and Thy Munificence, let our parents go with us!’
• The Almighty Lord will again direct His Divine Speech at them, and say,
• ‘You have nothing to answer for, go and enter into Paradise forthwith; as for your parents, they are accountable and there are things they have to answer for.’
• Again, these children entreat the Lord, ‘During their lives in the material world, we caused them sorrow through our absence;
• now, by the vastness of Thine Mercy which floods the universal expanse, let us be the cause of happiness for them.’
• Upon this plea, the All-Merciful and Beneficent Lord accepts the children’s supplications and addresses them, saying, ‘Go then and take from the wine of the spring of Kawthar and give your parents to drink therefrom.’

Sister, Imagine how lucky you are that Our Holy prophet's Great Grand father Prophet Ibrahim is upbringing and educating your child. Therefore, my dear sister in Islam be patient and Pray Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'alah to give you strength. It is natural in these hard times, that you may feel grieve about your tragic loss and it takes time to heal. I hope my answer helped you in your course of life.

Jazakumullahu khair

salams..
Inna-ilillah wa Ina ileihi raji3un
sister sabr is the best and i hope u over come insha'Allah..

inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji'oon

Rest in peace
I don't have childrens but i could not imagine to loose it.

Asalamu Aleykum sis
I am really sorry to hear that bad news make Allah make you amongst the patients. I know its really hard to go back to the old routine especially when a baby you loved passed away but then sis you should realize that Allah gave you the baby in the first place and he's able to take it back so just bear patients and try not to think about it as much. Put your trust in Allah and just try to be the same like before and take care of your husband he might be going through the same grief as you so be the first to act normal and hopefully things will go back to the same again. Salams from your sister in islam.

inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji'oon

im sorry for your baby........let me tell u a good story........

my aunt went to a party with her husband and her one year old child. the persons house they went to a huge and it had a indoor swimming pool. she was sitting near the swimming pool with her son talking to a friend. 30 minutes later her son was missing, she looked all over the place but she couldnt find him. soon someone found the baby in the swimming pool dead. my aunt was so sad and felt like a terrible mother because she didnt watch her child. the same night she was crying so much and couldnt stop thinking about her child. the next morning she told her my uncle about a dream she had. in her dream there was a big party with a curtain dividing the men and the women, she was also in her dream. the ladies in the dream found out that there was a new guest in the mens side. all the ladies including my aunt peaked through the curtains to see who it was, it was Prophet Isa holding my aunts baby. after that day she was never sad and was happy because her child is in a very good position right now....

this story is true and this happened around 30 years ago......

Inna lillahi waa innaa ilaihi rajioon

format_quote Originally Posted by Naira

Inna lillahi waa innaa ilaihi rajioon

what does that mean?

Inna Lilahi wa inna Alayhi wa raz3joen