will a sis get offended?

i read that fatwa... i at times have to interact with the opposite gender... but i just work with two guys MAINLY, but times do differ...

format_quote Originally Posted by IbnAbdulHakim

well i work at helpdesk and often sisters etc come for computer help i help em wiv gaze down hardly any talk etc etc but for some reason im always shy to say salaam to em, i mean weneva they ask a question its like i directly answer that question and thats it, nothing more. im thinking if that was you as a sister would you be offended? (been thinkin this for too long so thought let me ask inshaAllaah)

Wa Alaykum As salaam,

I don't know about everyone else, but I have way more respect for brothers who do what you just stated MashaAllah.
Directly answering their questions without any chit chat (which) could lead to God knows what!?) ... seems to be the wiser way to Go!
I personally would'nt be offended! It puts a smile on my face when i see people commited to their deen, as i don't come across that much wallaahul musta'aan.

It also isn't Waajib/Obligatory for you to start off with giving them the salaams, but is it sunnah. So leaving that off won't make you sinful.
But it's waajib for you to return their salaams when they give it to you.

And Allah knows best.

format_quote Originally Posted by Anonymous Tester

Directly answering their questions without any chit chat (which) could lead to God knows what!?)

But saying salam isn't chit chat?!:confused: I don't get why he can;t say salam in the same way he answers the question? Saying salam doesn't mean he has to do it in a 'chit chat' type of way...

It also isn't Waajib/Obligatory for you to start off with giving them the salaams, but is it sunnah. So leaving that off won't make you sinful.

I thought it was waajib?:confused:

format_quote Originally Posted by Malaikah

But saying salam isn't chit chat?!:confused: I don't get why he can;t say salam in the same way he answers the question? Saying salam doesn't mean he has to do it in a 'chit chat' type of way...

i can say it... im just a fish, inshaAllaah i will from now on!

I thought it was waajib?:confused:

its obligatory to respond to salaam but not to extend it first... Allahu a'lam

^^ maybe she means to the opp gender?

its a sign of end of time that ppl stop saying salam 2 only those they know...

format_quote Originally Posted by lolwatever

^^ maybe she means to the opp gender?

its a sign of end of time that ppl stop saying salam 2 only those they know...

but i say salam to like every brother i see...

I think it is the manner you say salam these day.

e.g. If you going to say it in somekind of alluring voice and or flash you eye lashes.

format_quote Originally Posted by Skillganon

I think it is the manner you say salam these day.

e.g. If you going to say it in somekind of alluring voice and or flash you eye lashes.

you got that from ziaullah khan didnt you

format_quote Originally Posted by IbnAbdulHakim

well i work at helpdesk and often sisters etc come for computer help i help em wiv gaze down hardly any talk etc etc but for some reason im always shy to say salaam to em, i mean weneva they ask a question its like i directly answer that question and thats it, nothing more. im thinking if that was you as a sister would you be offended? (been thinkin this for too long so thought let me ask inshaAllaah)

Wa Aleykum Salam Wa Rhametulahi Wa Berekatu,

Akhi, wait a second, do they say salam to you?

Also, have you read about the conditions some give about saying salam to sisters?

format_quote Originally Posted by Al Habeshi

Wa Aleykum Salam Wa Rhametulahi Wa Berekatu,

Akhi, wait a second, do they say salam to you?

Also, have you read about the conditions some give about saying salam to sisters?

only the niqaabis say salaam and i say salaam back but normal ones dont... and ye ive read the conditions. I know how it works i just wanted to know if the sisters wud get offended if i didnt say salaam, its hard man but inshaALlaah i will from now on

format_quote Originally Posted by Al Habeshi

Also, have you read about the conditions some give about saying salam to sisters?

I'm so confused!!! Aren't the conditions assuming that he isn't going to talk to them in the first place?! But he is talking to them! Why is it ok for him to answer their questions but not to say salam?:confused:

format_quote Originally Posted by Malaikah

I'm so confused!!! Aren't the conditions assuming that he isn't going to talk to them in the first place?! But he is talking to them! Why is it ok for him to answer their questions but not to say salam?:confused:

i think you guys are really misunderstanding my question. Im aware of the halal and haram, i just wanted to know if i am offending sisters or not....

^I understood you, but I don't understand everyone else acting like it is haram?!:confused:

omg another sis just came and left and i didnt even salaam her, man make dua 4 me!!!!!! i jus gave her a piece of paper didnt say anything at all !!!

and she mumbled something as she left, prob thinkin "punk didnt salaam me with his beard n everything, whats the point"


had to let this OUT!!!

format_quote Originally Posted by IbnAbdulHakim

omg another sis just came and left and i didnt even salaam her, man make dua 4 me!!!!!! i jus gave her a piece of paper didnt say anything at all !!!

and she mumbled something as she left, prob thinkin "punk didnt salaam me with his beard n everything, whats the point"

had to let this OUT!!!

I would think Masha Allah, good brother and not be offended al all, because i think further an try to put myself in others conditions...

You will have my dua Insa Allah

You have to talk to all these people anyway as part of your job. You say salam, whether they respond or not is up to them. Its funny, we can spend a whole day talking to women as part of our working life. Where i work, i do have to work with women quite often, these could be colleagues, external consultants, trainers etc. Wheres the logic in not saying Salam to the muslims i work with?? (I have worked on occasions with muslim women and i do always say salam and they have always responded). You dont have to look at every woman as an object of desire, you can see a muslim and see a 'sister' a mother and aunt.

....and thats my two pence worth.

Increase the peace!!!