well i work at helpdesk and often sisters etc come for computer help i help em wiv gaze down hardly any talk etc etc but for some reason im always shy to say salaam to em, i mean weneva they ask a question its like i directly answer that question and thats it, nothing more. im thinking if that was you as a sister would you be offended? (been thinkin this for too long so thought let me ask inshaAllaah)
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My tears testify that i have a heart
yet i feel me and shaytan never part
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Also imagine walking down a busy street in a muslim area/country, you'd be like
"aslam alaikum." to the left
"aslam alaikum." to the right
"aslam alaikum." to the left
"aslam alaikum." to the right
literally giving salam every single second.. that'd be so weird :rolleyes:
As Salaamu Alaykum,
Allah A'lam but ive never heard about giving salaams from the heart!?
hehe, neither have I. But salam is a duaa. So we can make duaa in our hearts if we pass the opposite gender on the street. No need to let them hear it. Allah's the One who's going to accept the duaa, not the listener.
I agree with those who say, it must be said out loud , but for the women it should be just loud enough for the person to hear.
OK then, imagine passing a non practicing muslim brother and saying salam to him. He could take it in any way. He'll prob be like "Yo, what's up babe?... oh wa alaikum aslam btw." ffended:
so it isn't offensive? i ask this because my husband is muslim so i very often meet muslims through him. i always feel strange saying it like it is wrong for me to do so i don't. plus it sounds very strange with my accent
I seek refuge in Allah (The One God) from the Satan (devil) the cursed, the rejected
With the name of ALLAH (swt) -The Bestower Of Unlimited Mercy, The Continously Merciful
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh (May the peace, mercy and blessings of Allah be upon you)
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well i work at helpdesk and often sisters etc come for computer help i help em wiv gaze down hardly any talk etc etc but for some reason im always shy to say salaam to em, i mean weneva they ask a question its like i directly answer that question and thats it, nothing more. im thinking if that was you as a sister would you be offended? (been thinkin this for too long so thought let me ask inshaAllaah)
I think , it's ok to give Salaam but make sure that it does not create any chance to start personal talks rather than religion & compu kay:
Christ will never be proud to reject to be a slave to God .....holy Quran, chapter Women , 4: 172
If you look like a Muslim and have the intention to say salaams or feel that you should be saying it, then why don't you say it?
The best way I found brothers (those who I have great respect for) saying it in a way that doesn't seem flirtatious or give a sister the wrong idea (seriously though, some girls need to stop misinterpreting such simple things), is by say it seriously and without out looking at the sister (i.e. lowering their gaze or looking at their work).
For example, since you work infront of a computer, I suppose you can tell when someone comes up to your desk without having to look up, its probably better to keep your eyes on the screen as you say salaams while looking serious, or "into your work" and then you can work with the client (give salaams then ask how you can help them to avoid any side discussions) rather than look, feel shy saying it, and have it get misinterpreted.
Salaams are free rewards lol, although it is up to you to say them or not, but its better to go one way or the other, because if you say it to some sisters and don't to others, it'll seem like your favoring some over others.
Allahu a'lem
As long as you keep your intentions clean inshallah, don't worry bout what they think lol..girls think too much nonesense anyways
fi aman allah
w'salaam
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well i work at helpdesk and often sisters etc come for computer help i help em wiv gaze down hardly any talk etc etc but for some reason im always shy to say salaam to em, i mean weneva they ask a question its like i directly answer that question and thats it, nothing more. im thinking if that was you as a sister would you be offended? (been thinkin this for too long so thought let me ask inshaAllaah)
naaaa...unless they have feelings for you, i doubt that they will be offended. so, just do ur job...but dnt forget the importance of saying salams to mulsims.and it is the job of a male bro to say salams to a sis. its a bit wrong for a sis to walk up n say salams dnt u think?
take it easy...the sis's proabaly arent even noticing...but me personally, i would feel a lot more welcome and comfortable if u say salams coz u no u can trust a muslim brother. (inshallah)
"'Cause I hear the whispered words
In your masterpiece beautiful
You speak the unspeakable through
I love you too"
jazakAllah khair, so by the reply of everyone im deducing that no-one else really feels shy to salaam the opposite gender. lol great now i think im just weird...
anyway im gonna try salaaming a lot more now (as anony said, wiv gaze down inshaAllaah)
wa barakAllaahu feek
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My tears testify that i have a heart
yet i feel me and shaytan never part
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and u shud feel shy...u'll jst get used to it but u should, even then, still feel shy...ur stepping out of ur comfort zone...just try doing it with modesty.
"'Cause I hear the whispered words
In your masterpiece beautiful
You speak the unspeakable through
I love you too"
I personally wouldnt have gotten offended but i see why some sister would.it is rude to ignore another muslim fellow and that might offend them.but if u think da salams might or have a chance of creating fitnah in ur heart or their,please Allah more and dont worry abt how they feel.never please people and displease Allah.
well i work at helpdesk and often sisters etc come for computer help i help em wiv gaze down hardly any talk etc etc but for some reason im always shy to say salaam to em, i mean weneva they ask a question its like i directly answer that question and thats it, nothing more. im thinking if that was you as a sister would you be offended? (been thinkin this for too long so thought let me ask inshaAllaah)
no way wud i get offended in fact id be biggin u up 4 bein so modest
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but I believe it is a sign of good manners to say salaam...with a non-Muslim wouldnt you say hello...? they probably would and you would answer too wouldnt you? in the same way I think you should begin with Salaam....
ok..maybe shyness is a good thing....but why should you be shy to spread peace...?
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