Someone said to the Prophet, "Pray to God against the idolaters and curse them." The Prophet replied, "I have been sent to show mercy and have not been sent to curse." (Muslim)
I think you ought to elaborate. What kind of bullying are we talking about? There are certain ways to deal with the different sorts of bullying and each of them affect a person in different ways.
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Not sure about this part about kicking their ass in but in some cases it will have to be done Shame it has to be this way
Some bullies think they are stronger than you cus you don't fight. Newsflash, I can whoop anybody in 20 seconds flat and so can you. Not all bullies, however, need their head kicked in. Most of 'em just need to know their place - they often bully someone they perceive as weak. so if it happens to you, you gotta stand up for yourself - if it means whooping his/her butt, do so.
Someone said to the Prophet, "Pray to God against the idolaters and curse them." The Prophet replied, "I have been sent to show mercy and have not been sent to curse." (Muslim)
I think that everybody in his life has been bullied (i mean people are agressive toward you with their languages or/and physicaly..) at least one time..
Above all girls.. and young.. and old people.. and all "weak-people", the minority, and it's a sad and difficult experience of life.
What is the best way of dealing with it?
To speak about it to people who can help you to stop it inchaAllah.
For exemple a child must speak to his teacher, or parents, or adult he can trust what's happen to him.. Otherwise he could'nt stop the violence and he would be not all right in his mind; As he will grow up he could find violence as a normal way of life and etc..
So we must speak to somebody who can help us, and we trust.
When we are bullied i think that the "best" behaviour is not to resist if they are too much against us, not to speak at all with them, try to keep calm, and find somebody who can give u some help.
It's seldom that we find it because we are most of the time in an insolated place, and people around us are afraid to help us because they are not enough courageous..
I hope that you will recolt a lot of answers here "Anonymous", inchaAllah
Take care, may Allah protect you against evil and give you His Barakat
Some bullies think they are stronger than you cus you don't fight. Newsflash, I can whoop anybody in 20 seconds flat and so can you. Not all bullies, however, need their head kicked in. Most of 'em just need to know their place - they often bully someone they perceive as weak. so if it happens to you, you gotta stand up for yourself - if it means whooping his/her butt, do so.
I agree with you but this will only make things worser in some cases. You beat the bully up, he will get his "crew" and will never give up at least he gets the last word. It will go on and on untill something serious happens.
There are some bullys that will give up after you give them a battering but some will never give up. I still ain't sure about beating them up but in some cases you just have to.
ahh man train yourself up join a boxing club or summat and then if the bullies test you again unleash the dragon!!!...like in the rocky film init? after that they should get the message and will leave you alone Insha'Allah
The youth today are getting way out of hand, it's all about respect, and for this reason people pick on others to seem big in the eyes of others, I suggest you tell them nicely that what they're dong is wrong, if they don't get the message then you'll have to stand up for your self.
^ sometimes you have to hit back.. and very hard too... im telling this cuz..
I remember this girl picked on me once... jus like that! I was standing in the playground minding my own business and she walked past, then came back and said I'd called her a fat sow! Astaghfirullah I'd done no such thing...
she told me she's gonna come back for me and to wait.. lol, i was so scared but didnt move cuz i didnt want her to know i was scared.. and she was bigggggggg.. i mean about 3 times the size of me.. *gulps* i prayed she'd 4get, but she came back with her mates and told me to go into the woods..
i was like no if u wanna fight, do it here.. (truth was I didnt wanna be battered where no one could help) lolololz......
then suddenly one of her mates pushed me from behind and i fell on the big girl.. course that started the fight.. and i ended up under her on the ground..
it really felt like i was pinned by a beached whale.. i couldnt budge under her but cuz my arms were free, i hit her face and scratched her like a wild cat then my friends came back from lunch and the teachers came out too, and they pulled her off me.. but .......after that she wanted to be friends with me and she said she thought she'd batter me but i was a good fighter...pathetic!.. But it shows that sometimes you have to fight back or you keep getting bullied. :sister:
^ sometimes you have to hit back.. and very hard too... im telling this cuz..
LOLzzzz wt a funny story
But not all cases of bullying are like this. Some cases are much more extreme and in them extreme cases, IF you was to beat the bully up he/she will keep coming back for the last word, what do you do then? Someone could end up seriously hurt.
The whole topic of bullying is hard and im tired so l8az
But not all cases of bullying are like this. Some cases are much more extreme and in them extreme cases, IF you was to beat the bully up he/she will keep coming back for the last word, what do you do then? Someone could end up seriously hurt.
The whole topic of bullying is hard and im tired so l8az
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True, these days it's common for someone to get shot over a few words.
True, these days it's common for someone to get shot over a few words.
Yup that's true.
Bullying ain't an issue where you learn how to fight and then you fight the bully off, it is in some cases REALLY serious and is hard to tackle for some. Some of the victims of bullying are seriously scared and I doubt fighting is the answer to THEIR problems.
But....at the end of the day, Allah is always there and if Allah is there there is NO ROOM for the fear of bullies to be in your heart.
cuz i rmemba inma pe class on thursday, two gals had a fite....dis blonde threatened anover gal but da other gal was taller so she was pratically stadin over da blonde....n da blonde said she will beat da other gal up....n den in da changin rooms, da blonde said dat she neva said dat she wud beat any1 up < wich proves dat she was scared to fite....n lol it wos sooooo funny
i've bullied people and i've been bullied.
What to do about it? report to the teacher? Beat them up(not the best option)? i guess it depends on the situation.
Ignore it the first couple a times
But if it keeps happening, kick his/her ass.
Lol wat gud advice bruv......NOOOT!!!
Alhamdulillah Ive never been bullied ever but if its happening to you, youve got to do sumthin about it ....NO NOT KICK ASSES lol, let ya teachers know, ya parents, dont do anythin to provoke them even more and inshaAllah itll get sorted, :sister:
i havent been bullied.. yet.. u should ignore it the first couple of times and then talk to someone about it.. "A problem shared, is a problem solved" dont fight back whatever though (unless the bullies asking for it :P).. if you know the bully is going to punch you, just dodge it or obviously hit him back for self defence..
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Shame it has to be this way
after that they should get the message and will leave you alone Insha'Allah
then my friends came back from lunch and the teachers came out too, and they pulled her off me..
but .......after that she wanted to be friends with me and she said she thought she'd batter me but i was a good fighter...pathetic!.. But it shows that sometimes you have to fight back or you keep getting bullied. :sister:
and im tired so l8az
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