I have kept all of this bottled up for some time and the topic 'hiding' is what inspired me to come out and post this topic.
I am a non-muslim who has been learning about Islam since late last year. I came to Islam with one question and only one question, I didn't intend to become interested and now I feel like this interest is slowly progressing into a genuine desire to convert but the thing is I'm not sure if it is or not, like since learning about Islam I feel that it's a way of life that suits me. It's all tied up, no loose ends, everything makes sense, and most things have an answer.
Much like the person who posted 'hiding' I wouldn't know where to begin trying to explain this to my friends and family.
If I do convert, it won't be for a while yet but I feel like I should be prepared for what at the moment seems like the inevitable.
If you know who I am from this post, please keep it to yourself.
Firstly I would like to thank everybody for the replies, I know a lot of thought has been put into them all. All are very much appreciated!!!
format_quote Originally Posted by abu abdurrahman
You also said something VERY important that NOT converting as soon as you can could be a bigger mistake. This is the bigger picture you should, and obviously you have been looking at.
Of course. For all I know right now tomorrow I could be hit by a bus, not a pleasant though, nor is it all hat likely, but there is always that off chance. If there is some event that occurs before conversion I know I will die in regret thinking ‘why didn’t I just tell people!?’
format_quote Originally Posted by Al Habeshi
Well dude or dudette, if you ever wanna just ask for anything or about anything or just want to share family things and so on then feel free to pm moi. I think sometimes talking can help alot, some people feel ok just talking to God others do that and also like to share it with someone else too.
Thank you, Al Habeshi. I will keep that in mind!
format_quote Originally Posted by Skywalker
The choice is yours alone... but don't think of it as a really big choice. Try to sample the Islamic life before deciding whether it's your thing or not. Try praying once and see how it feels. Try fasting for a day (maybe a monday or a thursday) and see how that goes. You could even do what a friend of mine did once and ask God himself if Islam is the thing for you...
After reading your post I have decided that I will fast this Thursday. I have been praying, but I don’t think I have things under control in that respect just yet. I will get on top of all of the flaws in my prayers really soon. InshaAllah.
erm...everyone else is giving great advise....so i'll wait for their advises
25:36 And the true servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk the earth with humility and when the ignorant address them, they respond with words of peace.
I have always tried to be me, hold nothing back, no secrets, but this is the hardest thing I think I have ever had to face, and it's like I can't help but hold it back, out of fear alone. No matter how much I don't want to. But, for my own sake I want to get to the conclusion of this chapter as fast as I can!
format_quote Originally Posted by Anonymous Tester
Much like the person who posted 'hiding' I wouldn't know where to begin trying to explain this to my friends and family.
If I do convert, it won't be for a while yet but I feel like I should be prepared for what at the moment seems like the inevitable.
I don't know to what extend your interest in Islam is a secret to your family and friends...but maybe try policy o little steps? Like living books about Islam in the place when they can see them or trying to start discussion over lunch about it ("Islam and terrorism" that is very popular subject ). So that they could see where are you going and soften possible shock.
Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase.
i hope you'll find your peace
The people walking in darkness have seen a great light; on those living in the land of the shadow of death a light has dawned.
I don't know to what extend your interest in Islam is a secret to your family and friends...but maybe try policy o little steps? Like living books about Islam in the place when they can see them or trying to start discussion over lunch about it ("Islam and terrorism" that is very popular subject ). So that they could see where are you going and soften possible shock.
My interest, is no secret among most of my family and friends. It seems one friend has gone out of his way to assure himself that I won't be converting anytime soon, and he seems to be the type who will get into the ears of most of my other friends, he has also made it quite obvious how he stands on religion in general. But, I thought he would know me a lot better than he clearly does. I'm not the type to push personal beliefs or preach, yet he seems to have this fear of me believing in something. On more than one occasion my Mom has called the interest a phase, which I know it isn't. Another one of my friends reaction was priceless when he found out I have an English translation of the Qur'an. I told him I wasn't planning on converting (when he inquired) and I feel terrible about lying like that!!! But at the time it felt like the only move I could make.
Then again, I do know a few friends who will be extremely tolerant of such a change, even supportive, yet for some reason I still can't bring myself to tell them. I think it's the fear of my other friends finding out.
i have been through exactly the same as you have, i wasnt so sure at first i kept asking questions making sure islam was what i wanted ,making sure i wasnt making a mistake, then when i was sure ,i wanted to become a muslim as soon as possible, i was worst than you ,my father hated muslims cuz he thought they were terrorist and my friends too , were i lived ther werent much muslims but thank god i found a sister who helped me alot here. then when i told my family they werent exactly over joyed of course but they was nothing they could do, and they loved me so they supported me in my decision whether they liked it or not ,and thank allah they are oki now alright with my being a muslim. i lost some friends on the why but i found my true identity, Islam. God won't abondone you as long as you your doing whats right , and for good intentions.
***islam is my religion , and im proud 2 b a muslim***
*** i love My lord who created me and given me health and who lead me into the straight path***
sis, you didn't lose those friends, you actually got saved from being under pressure from people who didn't want you to find that true identity .
bro is right Ashley they never were ur freinds you shud be happy ur nt friends wit dem no more cuz they nevr were tru friends, real freinds stik by u no mater wah
I know we look nothign alike
And we sure dont think the same way
But sisters in heart we definitley are
We prove it every single day.
The kindness and love we show each other
Comes natural and so easily
Sisters in mind, body and spirit
Bestfriends for eternity
what kind of friends would they be if they get mad to u just because u choose something?
very good point.
format_quote Originally Posted by Ashley
i have been through exactly the same as you have, i wasnt so sure at first i kept asking questions making sure islam was what i wanted ,making sure i wasnt making a mistake, then when i was sure ,i wanted to become a muslim as soon as possible, i was worst than you ,my father hated muslims cuz he thought they were terrorist and my friends too , were i lived ther werent much muslims but thank god i found a sister who helped me alot here. then when i told my family they werent exactly over joyed of course but they was nothing they could do, and they loved me so they supported me in my decision whether they liked it or not ,and thank allah they are oki now alright with my being a muslim. i lost some friends on the why but i found my true identity, Islam. God won't abondone you as long as you your doing whats right , and for good intentions.
thanks so much for that!
sorry to hear that you lost some of your friends, but it's great to hear that you had the stregnth to be who you truely wanted to be!
Where I live there is no Muslim community, that I know of. The nearest Mosque is about an hours drive away, and I am never that far away from home alone, I have no way of getting there alone. I'll have my drivers liscence around September inshaAllah.
I don't know any Muslims in person.
If they dont agree with you converting than it will show what kid of friends they are.. They aint real friends.
Can I just point out, it’s not all of my friends, I also have friends who I know are going to be there for me. It’s just a select few that are worrying me.
Also, I don’t believe what I heard today!!!!!!! I’m pretty open about my interest in Islam, as I said before. Anyway, so a few days ago I had my Qur’an (English translation) at school and I let one of the friends that I know will be supportive flick through it. MashAllah! Today, he told me he’s gone out and got his own copy.
Tomorrow is Thursday and I plan on fasting InshaAllah. Wish me luck.
format_quote Originally Posted by Anonymous Tester
Can I just point out, it’s not all of my friends, I also have friends who I know are going to be there for me. It’s just a select few that are worrying me.
Also, I don’t believe what I heard today!!!!!!! I’m pretty open about my interest in Islam, as I said before. Anyway, so a few days ago I had my Qur’an (English translation) at school and I let one of the friends that I know will be supportive flick through it. MashAllah! Today, he told me he’s gone out and got his own copy.
Tomorrow is Thursday and I plan on fasting InshaAllah. Wish me luck.
MashaAllah...is nice to hear that he is learning too.
invite him to come here...that'll be wonderful
25:36 And the true servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk the earth with humility and when the ignorant address them, they respond with words of peace.
format_quote Originally Posted by Anonymous Tester
Can I just point out, it’s not all of my friends, I also have friends who I know are going to be there for me. It’s just a select few that are worrying me.
Also, I don’t believe what I heard today!!!!!!! I’m pretty open about my interest in Islam, as I said before. Anyway, so a few days ago I had my Qur’an (English translation) at school and I let one of the friends that I know will be supportive flick through it. MashAllah! Today, he told me he’s gone out and got his own copy.
Tomorrow is Thursday and I plan on fasting InshaAllah. Wish me luck.
Masha Allah.
Make du'a (supplication) ask Allah to guide you to the Truth. To help you distinct the wrong from the right and the right from the wrong. Insha Allah (God-Willing) things will go well for you
MashaAllah...is nice to hear that he is learning too.
invite him to come here...that'll be wonderful
I'll try to get him here!
But seriously, when he said he got a copy of the Qur'an I was like "That's sooo good!". It felt awesome knowing I played a part in it.
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