I try not to, but sometimes how can u not?? I mean, like when u r out/college/school/work u talk to opposit gender, and hey if they talk to u then u gotta reply...and sometimes u gotta talk to others for various reason, and then it kinda get carried away...but i think islamic way is really good and we should follow it, because it sustains u from other sins like adultery/crush etc
Same here. Whenever I watch movies, since there are characters of both genders, or when I am at uni etc. I've got friends of both genders. Only the boys are what you could consider 'normal' though
Oh, and before anybody jumps me for being some sort of kafir/hypocrite/satan spawn, know this: I don't really care.
I try my best not to look at any brothers it is quite difficult beacuse i go to college, but i do try my best to look down when i can lol...making sure i don't bump in to anyone
walakumasalaam warhmatulahi wabarakthu
“Whoever puts his trust in Allah, sufficient is Allah for him.”
Yes I do!
I look for ages!
Then I talk to her.
Tell her how beautiful she is.
Then I stroke her hair.
I hold her in my arms.
And softly whisper the words "I love you" in her ear.
Yes I do!
I look for ages!
Then I talk to her.
Tell her how beautiful she is.
Then I stroke her hair.
I hold her in my arms.
And softly whisper the words "I love you" in her ear.
Is this allowed?
Of Course it is!!
She is the mother of my two sons.
“Whoever puts his trust in Allah, sufficient is Allah for him.”
lol thats what makez mariage life fun.. you stay patient for soooo long and then that which was haraam before is now permissible and you get rewarded for it loadzzz.
saves mankind from corruption init.. alhamdulillah.
well...i dont..or i try to not... ..alhamdulilah i dont find that to lower my gaze is a hard thing to do...its very easy..just have allah in ur heart and fear him and think that he is looking at u and knows everything u do then u'll have a shame on u
and wallahi u feel more close to allah and allah will reward u in duniya before akhira inshaalah...
My gigolo days are over.
I'm more of a giggle-o for my son Hamzah.
AWWWWW ! thats so sweet ! what a lucky boy he is .
Just a thought now,
If you NEVER look always look away at the opposite gender, maybe you might of missed Mr or Mrs perfect ?
I do look, but I do it SOO sneaky and secretive , and I only look and think ohh how nice, I dont stare forever or think lewd thoughts.
its natural to have want to keep your eyes on something nice looking and when we see something repulsive we turn away quick.
Just a thought now,
If you NEVER look always look away at the opposite gender, maybe you might of missed Mr or Mrs perfect ?
I do look, but I do it SOO sneaky and secretive , and I only look and think ohh how nice, I dont stare forever or think lewd thoughts.
its natural to have want to keep your eyes on something nice looking and when we see something repulsive we turn away quick.
well....if you've missed mr or mrs perfect, then uve missed them!!
I say this because, we dont know what allah knows and what allah has in store for us.
i think there is a hadith that says the first glance is ok, the second is dangerous.
I just try and remember that allah is watching me and allah is with me.
allahu alum
:sister:
:rose: A Rose Protects Its Beauty With Thorns, A Woman Protects Hers With A Veil
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It aint a big deal to me, we're all human, besides I know my limits and it aint my mission to corrupt nor be (lol I can control my desires). Anywho as always Allah knows your intentions so you know....yeh......opposite genders are cool
Hence you are brother and sister and only that...unless marriage gets involved then your husband and wife, you can be friends with your wife hehe
Assalamu alaykum
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious Most Merciful.
Islam has set down principles for the prosperity of mankind in this world and for their salvation in the hereafter. The early Muslims used to say, “This world is a harvest for the hereafter,” taking this from the words of Allah Most High, “Whoever desires the havest of the Hereafter, We give him increase in its harvest. And whoever desires the harvest of the world, We give him thereof, and he has no portion in the Hereafter.” [Qur’an, 42.20]
Hence, a person must use his time beneficially in this world for the sake of the hereafter and take account of himself everyday. Each moment spent in useless activities is time away from the remembrance of Allah and other beneficial works.
The scholars have clear rulings regarding useless talk and gossip. Many hadiths have been related in this regard. The Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace) said, “It is from the excellence of a man’s Islam to leave that which does not concern him.” [Tirmidhi, and others]
Furthermore, the limits of interaction between the sexes has also been laid down by the scholars. Recently, a post on the limits of mixing between the sexes very clearly concluded the issue, and must have quenched the thirst of many for a conclusive answer on the subject, among all the confusion that prevails regarding it. [See below.]
The same limits and rules would also apply to the informal exchange of letters between members of the opposite sex as well as through the new systems of MSN and Yahoo Messenger, which has made it supposedly “safer and more permissible” to converse with people while sitting in the safety of one’s home. People feel more safe in chatting this way than on the phone, since there is no physical sound that is being transferred and the whole issue of fitna from the opposite sex does not seem to be an issue here.
However, as research will show, addiction to chat rooms and cyber friendships is on the increase. Many people become besotted and fall in love with the person on the other end, without even seeing them. It is known that a lot of inappropriate, and often completely impermissible conversations take place among young Muslims, even religious ones, through such online systems.
It is impermissible to have an informal conversation over the Messenger services or through email for that matter, just at it would be over the phone or in person.
People get carried away in their chatting since most of the time there is not bill to be paid, no mummy or daddy waiting to use the phone, and no fear of a brother or sister picking up the other extension in the other room.
In this regard, having strange members of the opposite sex on one’s contact list, seeing when they log on, and having a quick exchange with them would also be strongly discouraged.
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AWWWWW ! thats so sweet ! what a lucky boy he is .
I do look, but I do it SOO sneaky and secretive , and I only look and think ohh how nice, I dont stare forever or think lewd thoughts.
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