I try not to, but sometimes how can u not?? I mean, like when u r out/college/school/work u talk to opposit gender, and hey if they talk to u then u gotta reply...and sometimes u gotta talk to others for various reason, and then it kinda get carried away...but i think islamic way is really good and we should follow it, because it sustains u from other sins like adultery/crush etc
like u, i try not to, but like u have mentioned it's extremely hard, especially since i have male teachers n have 2 look them wheneva they speak or ask me questions n stuff. But on the streets, i try to concentrate on other things rather than the ppl around me, it works sumtimes but other times it doesn't
Brothers/ Sister lowering the gaze is part of faith...it's quite serious, read what the Qur'an say's:
"Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and to protect their private parts. That is purer for them. Verily Allah is All-Aware of what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and protect their private parts..." [24:30-31]
Furthermore, Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w) said, "...do not let a second look follow the first. The first look is allowed to you but not the second." [Ahmad, Abu Dawood, at-Tirmidhi].
The first look is by accident...but doesn't mean you gaze at the Brother/Sister for time.
Its not easy to lower your gaze specailly in the society. But people take it lightly don't you think?
Brother its not impossible subhanallah! It's possible dear brother. Woudl Allah tell us to do something which is impossible?! No of coourse not! The problem lies within us.
We have to rebel against Satan and expel him from our hearts. What kinda of person are we if we can't even lower our gaze?! How does Zina start? It starts first with a look!
Why care what people think?!! Are you pleasing Allah or them?!
Well I don't go looking at men when walking on the street, I lower my gaze; but when someone is speaking to you sure I look at them not diretly, you can shift your eyes not too quickly lol they'll think there is something wrong with you.
Well I don't go looking at men when walking on the street, I lower my gaze; but when someone is speaking to you sure I look at them not diretly, you can shift your eyes not too quickly lol they'll think there is something wrong with you.
Thank you sis Janaah, jazaki Allah kouli khier
wasalaam
neither do i sis :P
(that was a joke btw - if you dont get it ur probably too young :P)
but the issue raised is important.
i suggest:
if they talk to you then talk to them - sometimes your gonna have to make eye contact - that is why we have eyes - to see
it gets harder in college/school/uni cus there is usually a large amount of people (both genders) and its really hard if some of them stare at you. but on the streets etc its OK cus most people arn't interested and just want to get to their destination... unless of course they are weirdos in which case you should run...really fast.
Someone said to the Prophet, "Pray to God against the idolaters and curse them." The Prophet replied, "I have been sent to show mercy and have not been sent to curse." (Muslim)
Anyhow, well still at uni but I do the same thing.
I guess one has to get used to it; saying there are many who have short skirts or skimpy clothes is just an excuse. You have to have enough will power to stop yourself from looking twice like in the hadeeth sis jannah posted. Mentioning Allah (sunhanu wa ta'ala) always works most appropriate in that situation is istaghfara'Allah.
i dont look, well i try my best not too, but sometimes its tough escpeccialy here in the summer where these **** women dont give a **** about their clothes. it makes me soo mad that i usually stay aat home during hte day and go out only when its after dark unless i absoltlely have too. and i remeber at my old previous islamic school i used to talk only when the girls talked to me first and never used to lookat them in the face. i could tell by the way they talked that they were getting annoyed cuz i wasnt looking at them straight. but i kept my gaze lowered. but its tough. especially for us living in the kuffaric countried like US and Uk.
“Do not argue with your Lord on behalf of your soul, rather argue with your soul on behalf of your Lord.” - Dhul-Nun
"It is the very pursuit of happiness that thwarts happiness." - Victor Frankl
I try not to, but sometimes how can u not?? I mean, like when u r out/college/school/work u talk to opposit gender, and hey if they talk to u then u gotta reply...and sometimes u gotta talk to others for various reason, and then it kinda get carried away...but i think islamic way is really good and we should follow it, because it sustains u from other sins like adultery/crush etc
So do u look at opposite gender?
Wa Alaykum salam,
There are different type of gaze brother Danish, the first glance which the prophet (pbuh) described as being innocent and the glance of lust and affection. As for if I stare at people….I do sin, we are all humans and not immune to sinning but whether my intention of gazing at the opposite sex is for lust or not will be kept a secret for it is between me and my lord. The sins should not be spread for it is something between the creator and creation.
I usually lower my gaze wherever I go, unless I talk to somebody.. But as time goes you kinda get used to looking away slightly without them thinkin you're weird.
"...You are my Walî in this world and in the Hereafter. Cause me to die as a Muslim, and join me with the righteous." [Surah Yusuf 101]
once u start to lower ur gaze, it becomes a habit and then u have no problem turning ur gaze down when theres that beutiful someone passing in front of you. I remeber reading something about this and it said that if u see a very beutiful women (kaffir obviuosly sisters, no offense meant) spit and repeat so u it becomes easy 4 u to lower ur gaze.
“Do not argue with your Lord on behalf of your soul, rather argue with your soul on behalf of your Lord.” - Dhul-Nun
"It is the very pursuit of happiness that thwarts happiness." - Victor Frankl
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