is fallin in love harm?

Well, sis, if you're engaging in unlawful acts prohibited in Islaam and don't plan on marrying the person you're in love with then it is haraam. Think of it this way, is your love for Allah stronger than your love for his creation? Allah is the best of planners, and if you leave something fisabililah, Allah has something better in store for you.

Well said sis

The act of falling in love itself is NOT haram simply because it is something which we as humans have no control over. So we will not be held accountable for falling in love, but we will be held accountable for how we react to that love, wheter we do things the correct way (marriage, talk to Wali etc) or incorrect (Zina, pre-marital relationships etc).

Love is not unknown and the scholars of Islaam have written books on it and discussed this subject deeply, and the first love that is recognized in Islaam is the love between the Messenger (saws) and his wife Aisha r.a..

Mentioned in Bukhari, narrated Abu Uthman:

Allah’s Apostle sent ‘Amr bin Al As as the commander of the troops of Dhat-us-Salasil. ‘Amr bin Al-’As said, “(On my return) I came to the Prophet and said, ‘Which people do you love most?’ He replied, ‘Aisha.’ I said, ‘From amongst the men?’ He replied, ‘Her father (Abu Bakr)’.

Imam Muhammad Ibn Shaab az Zuhri said,

“The first love that was ever recognized and known is the love between Prophet Muhammad (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) and A’isha (r.a.)”

The Messenger salalahu alaihiwassalam when speaking about his wife Khadija said: “Verily, I was filled with love for her.”

Ibn Qayyim says in Jawab Al Kafi:

“When we speak of rulings of love, we must describe two things. One is optional and one is not. The optional love is what leads to love (eyesight, association, etc.) and this is the love that you have to beware of (for it may lead to unlawful acts.) The non optional love, if it happens by the sudden look, or natural passions that develop, you cannot be blamed for it, but it’s how you react to it that Allah will hold you to accountable for.”

So if you love someone, the most correct course is marriage. Talk to the person's Wali and get married Bi'Idhnillah because the Messenger said:

“For those who love each other, nothing has proven as good as marriage.”

(Sunan Ibn Majah)

format_quote Originally Posted by I_notGenerous

Hii..I do not see any harm in falling in love. Unless if he is a married man or a married woman. Cheers!

Wrong! There is no harm in falling in love with falling in love with some one of the opposite sex who is Married...So long as you are married to them.

format_quote Originally Posted by I_notGenerous

Hii..I do not see any harm in falling in love. Unless if he is a married man or a married woman. Cheers!

I do not know what specific connotation you have in mind when you say this. I however would like you to know that Islam does not like that any intimate relationship should be created between a lady and a gentlemen before marriage. We—the servants of God are to live a pure and good life in order to attain inner purification. Islam repels the very idea of having an intimate relationship before marriage because it divests you of your purity of heart. We must know that this life is transitory in nature. It is a prelude to that life which is eternal and lasting. We must be well conscious of what we do in this life. Anything which is against morality will strictly be dealt with in the Hereafter. The only thing we need to keep in mind is that while marriage is a sacred bond, extramarital relationship is filth, which is abhorrent and intolerable.

Selam aleykum,

Fall in love? I'd rather fall in chocolate.


I think the best answers have already been given, and if I remember correctly this question has been discussed before in this forum...

If further questions, make a new thread or ask me to re-open this thread sister.