love breaks in tears - advice?

format_quote Originally Posted by anonymous

Any advice for someone who has found out there man has cheated behind there back and is married but is in a bad condition and don't know what to do?. Many love breaks up in tears along with a big gap, yet we can't find WHY the person does this over and over again. The girl loves the man soo much as she has known him since childhood and now realise's she's stuck with help. It's really hard to stand up being hurt with your OWN man!

Any dua's for marriage broken apart or being hurt many times?
It would also be much appreciated if you all can keep her in your dua's.

i wanted to answer this anonymously because there are things i don't think the forum needs to know about my life. i, too, have known my husband since childhood and i know he has slept with girls outside our marriage many times in the past. it is a very painful experience... but i confronted him when it happened and tried very hard to forgive him and draw out the reasons for it. it is very important for her (if she wishes to keep her marriage) to keep talking to each other, that is so difficult because it means talking about things that are very hurtful to her, without seeming too angry with him too suddenly otherwise he will stop talking to her. the only person that can answer the question of why is him...

goodluck!

format_quote Originally Posted by Alpha Dude

I'm sorry for you sis, may Allah make things easy for you, ameen! It's a difficult situation to be in, I'm sorry I don't have any good advice, but I hope the following duas will help you:

Supplication for anxiety and sorrow:





Also, read this dua:

Rabbana Hablana min Ladunka Rahmatan wa hayyi’ Lana min Amrina Rashada [verse 10 of Surah Kahf]...it's what the youths in the cave asked Allah. The meaning is:

“Our Lord, give us mercy from Thyself, and dispose of our affair for us in the right manner"...

I really like this dua, it's as though when you pray it with sincerity, you're surrendering all your problems to Allah and letting him take care of you. I hope things get better for you, inshaAllah! May Allah guide your husband to treat you well always, ameen!

Thanks for that!. The girl loves the man to bits and can not get over him but stuck in middle on what to do. It's hard for a love one to leave because this love was not a joke to her, it was deep love. But now it's all changed and it is not the first time it's actually enough times happning to her. The girl has got a big heart by keep and forgiving him but it's a shame she can not leave the guy!

Love sucks.

Love is blind...blind to looks, differences and even disloyalty, as long as the heart is still intact the love isnt ever going to leave you. Its a killer I tells ya! lol

But, on a more serious note...I think we all know it isnt easy letting go of somebody that readily, no matter what that person has done to betray your trust, one always tends to forgive without a thought of them going back to their old ways. Is frightening that she might not leave him until he hurts her well and truley and she finds that she is not capable of loving somebody else.

Everybody is special in their own way and deserves to be treated that way...she needs somebody who will love and respect her and not have his eyes set on the next girl. she needs to realise that there can be no compromise in such an important relationship. She needs to put herself first and ask herself...'Dont i deserve more?'

...and I think she'll find that the answer is yes

With regards to Du'aas etc...I think brother Alpha Dude gave a good one, I dont have and cant think of any more. Sorry. take care

*sigh* it always has to be in some relations that, either one person in the relation that has a good heart which the other one kinda uses to their advantage.

Alpha bhai, jazakallah khayr for that dua . i know alot of people who can benefit from it.

May everything go for the best for everyone in such situations. Ameen.

i really dont have much else too add. sorry.

just KICK HIM OUT, this DIRTY MAN.....Astaghfirullah.

format_quote Originally Posted by AnonymousGender

just KICK HIM OUT, this DIRTY MAN.....Astaghfirullah.

btw, this is me......

format_quote Originally Posted by AnonymousGender

i wanted to answer this anonymously because there are things i don't think the forum needs to know about my life. i, too, have known my husband since childhood and i know he has slept with girls outside our marriage many times in the past. it is a very painful experience... but i confronted him when it happened and tried very hard to forgive him and draw out the reasons for it. it is very important for her (if she wishes to keep her marriage) to keep talking to each other, that is so difficult because it means talking about things that are very hurtful to her, without seeming too angry with him too suddenly otherwise he will stop talking to her. the only person that can answer the question of why is him...

goodluck!

Thats the same issue with the 'Girl' she seems very kind and keeps on forgiving him but then she's confused and doesn't have a clue what to do. She has been pregnant with him 3times but has misscarriges but now is confused on what to do. Either have a divorce or not.

format_quote Originally Posted by JihadunNafs

Love is blind...blind to looks, differences and even disloyalty, as long as the heart is still intact the love isnt ever going to leave you. Its a killer I tells ya! lol

But, on a more serious note...I think we all know it isnt easy letting go of somebody that readily, no matter what that person has done to betray your trust, one always tends to forgive without a thought of them going back to their old ways. Is frightening that she might not leave him until he hurts her well and truley and she finds that she is not capable of loving somebody else.

Everybody is special in their own way and deserves to be treated that way...she needs somebody who will love and respect her and not have his eyes set on the next girl. she needs to realise that there can be no compromise in such an important relationship. She needs to put herself first and ask herself...'Dont i deserve more?'

...and I think she'll find that the answer is yes

With regards to Du'aas etc...I think brother Alpha Dude gave a good one, I dont have and cant think of any more. Sorry. take care

Thanks for this!, It's hard and the 'Girl' is confused on what to do.
Dua's will be good.

format_quote Originally Posted by sapphire

*sigh* it always has to be in some relations that, either one person in the relation that has a good heart which the other one kinda uses to their advantage.

Alpha bhai, jazakallah khayr for that dua . i know alot of people who can benefit from it.

May everything go for the best for everyone in such situations. Ameen.

i really dont have much else too add. sorry.

She was in deep love so it's hard to loose her love, because it's a dream for her. She's known him since childhood and now everything is turning upside down!

http://www.islamicboard.com/general/...als-grief.html

Maybe not helpful at all but a good read all the same salaam

Thanks everyone, dua's are appreciated

Asalaamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatu,

May Allah grant her patience. Ameen.

May Allah grant her Janat-ul-Firdos. Ameen.

May Allah do what is best for her. Ameen.

May Allah give the guy hadayah. Ameen.

"And it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allâh knows but you do not know." 2:216