You know as much as I'd love for this to happen, i don't think it ever is :cry:
i recently found out some stuff about the cousin that i like, So just after my gran pass's away, she set's her eye's on my dad's cousin's son and ever since then they have been texting away to each other. The sad thing is nobody knew until just recently. The other two things are my dad's cousin's son even went as far as going to her house to ask her parents to marry her.
And she basically say's to him, after flirting, talking to him all those weeks and month's to go stuff yourself not ever going to happen.
In return my dad's cousin's son phone's my mum and Tell's her everything.
Now the second thing is She has all so been Flirting away with my other Cousin in Pakistan apparently it was so serious there was talk of marriage, that was until she got this idea in her head that the only reason he was with her was for a visa to the UK.
From what I've been told recently is that she's seeing this other guy and it's supposed to be serious again+o(
funny thing is ever since I've found out this stuff, she's not said two words to me, I've emailed her. once or twice but nothing not even a single word .
and to be honest I've had it, i just want her out of my head, i'm sick of thinking about her constantly.
Best thing to do is ignore her and her family altogether , forget they exist , maybe just maybe she might get out of bloody head:hmm:.
And even though my Mum and her Mum are sister's , her family doesn't think very highly of my family cause were not up to there standard's , meaning there rich and my family is not , they have a shop, 3 cars, and a big house, we don't.
And to top it all, the brother's drink, one brother is going out with a white woman , the mum and dad don't know they have also just recently done hajj, so you know i feel really sorry for them, i really really do . they also call them self's religious Muslim's.
And I've got nothing but respect for her mum and dad, but I'm at a point where I'm thinking of just killing myself.
Its better then going through this pain that I'm feeling.
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heavenlyspot
Salaam Alaikum Brother,
Marrying your cousin is permitted in Islam, however in my opinion if her brothers are talking to you this way now, then I don't presume that they're going to give you an easy time during the marriage. Look for a spouse who's family will give you their blessing and support, not the opposite :-)
I'm in the same dilemma. My cousin wants to marry me, and as much as he's a good Muslim MashAllah I don't want any conflicts to occur in our family, which is possible if we marry.