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Salaam All,
I am a 30 year old female and have come across a problem in life. I have been invovled in a pre-marital relationship in early days ( i know it was wrong & i have reprented). My parents are not looking for a partner for me and they do not know anyone.
I have met a religious muslim guy and we are enagged and soon to do nikkah inshallah. However, i travel a lot for work and stay overnight in different countries and around the UK. My fiance has a problem with this however he doesnt work and cannot get a job so i am the one makin all the money at the moment so what should i do?
Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, my sister jazakallah khayran for sharing this with us and may Allah make things easy for you. Firstly sister it is not permissable for a women to be travelling on her own for more than 48 miles, let alone travelling across the country and abroad. These measures are only for the protection of women and not to be detrimental in anyway for Allah is the creator so does he not what is best for his creations? Therefore you must try to see if you can get a static position in your company where you would not have to travel and if this is not possible then apply for another job and leave this job once you are successful in your application for another job.
We should realise that Allah is our employer not humans and if we make the full effort and have hope, faith and trust in Allah and want to do things the right way then Allah will give us a good job inshallah.
Also there are a lot of people in this thread who have made assumptions that your fiancee is not looking for work or is lazy etc Then let them be reminded that we should not judge or assume and we are here only to give advice not attack others. What if he really is looking for work?
Why are we judging him and the position he is in? None of us in here know him or his situation We are not here to attack others but to advise for the pleasure of Allah. When giving advice we should not do so using our emotions but we must do so using wisdom and tact and not judge or assume without concrete evidance.
May Allah make things easy for you and give you a successful and happy marriage with pious offspring. Ameen
and Allah knows best in all matters