Originally Posted by paradise786
Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, once your friend as the correct knowledge as to why the hijaab is fard upon her as well as what will happen if she goes against the commands of Allah then inshallah she will realise that she must wear it and she will have some fear of Allah in her heart. If she still does not take heed then you have done the best you can do and guidance is not in your hands. The same applies to your cousins and family you can only invite them towards Allah in a beautiful manner using wisdom and tact. Be the best example to them and the best towards them but firm against going against the commands of Allah. If someone implies your extreme then be proud that you are following the commands of Allah and say to them is following the commands of Allah extreme? If so then i am an extremist.
Continue to send them weekly Islamic texts and e mails and give them dawah verbally only now and again as doing it too often will take away the effectiveness of dawah and it will end up going in one ear and coming out of the other. Concentrate on trying to put the fear of Allah into their hearts by sending them reminders of death, the grave and the hereafter aswell as how reliant we are on Allah and remid them about the greatness of Allah often as well as how short our time is on this earth.
Make dua for them as much as you can that Allah gives them guidance. You should try to involve yourself as much as you can with local pious sisters in halaqas, talks, programmes, charity work and helping lcoal sisters, dawah etc and if it is not possible then at least keep friends who have a good nature and character and do not commit major sins like going out with boys, drinking, taking drugs and keep away from those that gossip, backbite, slander, create friction amongst others, talk abouts boys etc. as their influence wil rub off on you eventually as we are who our friends are.
It is good to have concern for our brothers and sisters especially if they are in the wrong path but also realise you can only do the best you can and the rest is upto Allah so make much dua for them especially around Tahajjud time but know that the rest is upto Allah. Make the best of your time in pleasing Allah and worshipping him and get as close to him as you can. Fear him but also have hope in him. Desire to be close to him and desire the day you meet him. love Allah first then rasulallah (Pbuh) more than yourself and anyone else and try your best to live your life how Allah wants you to live your life and if trials come then bare with patience for Allah tests those he wants closest to him. Remember Allah no matter what you do and repent as much as you can. Allah loveth repentance and those who ask of him in dua. Remember me in your dua also.
and Allah knows best in all matters