If someone insults your wife

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I am trying to prepare myself for marriage.

If someone verbally insults your spouse what is the correct and best way to react?

Islam teaches us to be kind to those that are evil to us but I'm not sure if that teaching should be applied to that situation
 
The best would be to ignore him because if he see you become angry or something, he will be always picking up on you. Also, you could just tell him next time you will sue him (in the civil court)
 
Tania said:
The best would be to ignore him because if he see you become angry or something, he will be always picking up on you. Also, you could just tell him next time you will sue him (in the civil court)
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I didn't know you could sue someone for that. But if it is just a complete stranger then that threat wouldn't hold much value.

Does anyone else have an idea?
 
Chucky is too old and slow, you might use one of Jet Li's specialities
 
Just jump him!

Or call the police on him!

Slap him!

Pull his ear and drang him to the Police Station!

Lock him in a dark room!

Make a fight!















:p
 
generally, i think ignoring is best.
other than that, why not let your wife handle it?
 
one of my posts got deleted. they say i put up a haram picture???
 
snakelegs said:
generally, i think ignoring is best.
other than that, why not let your wife handle it?
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no offence, but a lady should feel secure with the expectation that her husband will defend her, without her having to butt in.
 
If its someone unknown the wise thing its to ignore him completely. May be he has a bad day or has different taste from you etc.
 
maryam11 said:
no offence, but a lady should feel secure with the expectation that her husband will defend her, without her having to butt in.
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fair enough - i guess it depends on the culture. (most of the women i know could handle it themselves.)
i would add though, that if it is the husband's family who is insulting her, i think he is obliged to speak up.
 
its not about being able to handle it or not. he should be manly enough to defend her.
 
maryam11 said:
its not about being able to handle it or not. he should be manly enough to defend her.
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Exactly. I wouldn't want my wife to say or do anything except maybe call the police. I would probably say 'What did you just say/do??' and then push/pull him about until he said sorry. I'm not very good at insults.

If it were a small gang I'm not sure what I would have done, people these days get stabbed over a mobile phone imsad

But then, this is what I would do. What would Mohammad (Peace Be Upon Him) have done in this situation?
 
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thats a very good question. and i dont know it. try finding it on islam-qa.com
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snakelegs said:
generally, i think ignoring is best.
other than that, why not let your wife handle it?
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Yeah, I agree with you. In my opinion, my husband doesn't need to say anything or start a barbaric fight just because some moroon insulted me... All I would really appreciate is him giving the person a deadly look/or just ignore, then take my hand, take me to some other place and comfort me, with a hug or simply words... You know, that's in my opinion a real husband, rather than going loco. :giggling:

But as we speak, if I would be the wife, I'd have some beautiful words to say but then maybe I'd get both of us in danger, so if he ignores, I'll ignore too. And if I ignore, I'd want to him to ignore it too.

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Tania said:
If its someone unknown the wise thing its to ignore him completely. May be he has a bad day or has different taste from you etc.
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Exactly.
 
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you dont have to curse the person but insulting them back or saying something would be a good idea.
 
Bro it depends on your wife. We can't really answer that question. Some women would want you to step up and say something, some women would want you to remain silent. That is something you and your future wife should talk about.
 
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